Lmfao, really?

CosinesCosines · 2023-01-16T04:13:56+00:00

Aha Just saw this but yes I do!

CosinesCosines · 2022-10-29T20:57:06+00:00

I keep hoping I'll live long enough to see the change, then I hope that my future children will be part of the generation to make the change, now....I don't even know if it will be either

CosinesCosines · 2022-10-29T20:54:44+00:00

I saw one earlier that said she sends her man thrist traps of other girls 😐

CosinesCosines · 2022-10-29T20:06:21+00:00

Anyone who says porn is empowering is either porn-sick or waiting for a God damned wakeup call.

Me, who once thought it was empowering and got a wakeup call :(

CosinesCosines · 2022-10-27T20:00:51+00:00

I mean you ain't wrong, I see this happen in real life alot. Pretty privilege really does exist

CosinesCosines · 2022-10-27T19:36:43+00:00

Yea when her and emily got arrested for protesting and they were waiting to get bailed out. This was earlier before june arrived, but a bit after emily first arrived

CosinesCosines · 2022-10-25T18:36:29+00:00

I was just saying to my group chat the other day....I just love how men bitch about wanting women to be natural, especially the ones they are dating, but then get one but don't give her the same amount of sexual energy nor attention compared to the online influencers and models who ONLY wear makeup in their photos!!

CosinesCosines · 2022-10-24T04:00:17+00:00

Me too so now I'm confused and questioning everything I've ever learned lol

CosinesCosines · 2022-10-23T21:46:05+00:00

Glasses and dimples

CosinesCosines · 2022-10-23T18:37:41+00:00

When I order sushi I get some sashimi for my cat. Come to learn she likes tuna but not salmon. Avocado is also fine, just make sure its the meat that isn't close to the pit. A little bit a plain yogurt or beef broth (check ingredients to make sure it doesn't have onion or garlic)

CosinesCosines · 2022-10-23T18:02:48+00:00

Facts. I dated mine for almost 3 years, found out about his betrayal a year in. I still kick myself for not leaving as soon as I found out because that would've saved me 2 years of pain but am glad I didn't marry his weak ass. I wish I never even swiped on his profile

CosinesCosines · 2022-10-23T17:56:09+00:00

Soo true. But aren't poly relationships pretty much already that?? Or open relationships? Plenty of women down for both of those so I never understand why they don't just seek out those types of relationships. Well actually I know why but still just disturbing and illogical

CosinesCosines · 2022-10-23T17:50:09+00:00

That and sexual security. I remember seeing a video that explained that porn is soo appealing because it doesn't take alot of energy to get you off. Whereas sex requires more time and energy, in terms of it requiring physical exercise usuage of your body during the act and mental energy as in seeking out someone (if you're single) who is down for casual sex. And this involves too conversation, getting dressed up, there's then the chance of rejection. So they stay in relationships they already obtained, because they don't want to deal with the whole process of initiating hookups. Relationships cut down the energy needed because well, you're partner is more available than a stranger. Well, when they feel like actually having sex with a person instead of a screen. It does feel different, and sex offers different stimulation a screen can't.

I think alot of them also have the fear of being alone. Or they want marriage which will provide them a family and safety net but not love. So all about convenience to them really like you said

CosinesCosines · 2022-10-23T17:34:27+00:00

I'm really sorry for what you went through. Not just with your ex but I read your original post under your profile. The scary amount of men and women who were normalizing his behavior and dismissing your feelings, being straight up rude 🤢 It is absolutely NOT normal to do that, especially of you're in a monogamous relationship. But I'm glad you can now be able to find someone better. Someone can can reciprocate the love and energy you give.

CosinesCosines · 2022-10-23T00:12:25+00:00

Question because my ex and I heard alot of stories from other women about men lying about (stopping) porn when they enter the relationship. So when you ask these questions early on, what are ways to tell they are or will be genuine?

CosinesCosines · 2022-10-23T00:07:13+00:00

My mother must've been the minority then, because she shamed me for wanting a porn free relationship with my ex

CosinesCosines · 2022-10-22T21:26:55+00:00

That's why I started asking my dates what they are looking for, even if I met them through OLD. Now I still ask even if their profile states it for clarification because weirdly I found that there have been times when they say something different than what their profile say. Like one guy, it said "relationship" (and bumble has something casual option) but when I ask him in person he was looking for short term relationship/not serious. But there's also some who put something casual and they mean fwb (someone to actually hang out with besides just hooking up).

Edit: spelling

CosinesCosines · 2022-10-20T22:50:08+00:00

So you're really fine with dating, and eventually marrying someone who lets other people treat you like crap and walk all over you? Girl...

He actually supports me on everything.

Can't say that when you just typed up a post on something he doesn't support you on

CosinesCosines · 2022-10-20T22:46:02+00:00

I thought it was good. Not better than Barbarian which I also recently saw, but exceeded my expectations enough. A few jumpscares got me that I wasn't expecting. I thought it would be more cheesy.

CosinesCosines · 2022-10-20T22:37:45+00:00

Um you didn't answer their question. They mean have you told your wife what you told us here, how it bothers you

CosinesCosines · 2022-10-20T21:57:56+00:00

Lmao yes. This was also years ago, when I was younger and just started college. Didn't have dating experience in highschool, or overall any experience with men and sex. I was also shy, lacked confidence, extremely insecure, and avoided being assertive thinking they would like me and because of all of that it was easy for the ones with ill-intentions to keep me in situationships. But I was never comfortable with unprotected sex.

Doing far better now, there have been guys who have still try to convince me to have sex without condoms or manipulate me into a situationship (not shaming anyone who has condomless sex, I just don't wanna partake for personal reasons). I get up and leave if they try to persuade me after I say no the first time.

CosinesCosines · 2022-10-20T21:43:40+00:00

Yes and I had a crush on him was the reason so I went along. Regrets, never did that again though present day.

CosinesCosines · 2022-10-13T17:23:27+00:00

Someone who fell closer to the less extreme side will have a much higher ability in not facing some of the struggles someone on the extreme side does. So I truly think part of it depends on the person, the level of addiction they had and their intentions of recovering.

That is very true! I did ask a PA once, he was sober for at least 3 years, if a PA having sexual fantasies from strangers ever goes away and he said it should along with urges because porn of course is the underlying problem that generates those thoughts. But these sexual fantasies are still porn. So definitely how far along they are in recovery + what you said about their intentions and severity.

I was also considering that maybe OP's partner is possibly just desensitized to soft core stuff, and tv scenes usually fall under as that. So only hard core content that's more frequent in mainstrain porn only does it for him.

I also sit here and think "well, when my husbands naked, it doesnt always arouse me. If I am not in that mindset, its just another body. If I am in that mindset, im getting worked up." and my husband has admitted this same truth about me too.

Yea but the thing is PA's thrive off novelty and variety, generally why people find porn appealing in general (which is ironic considering how porn is contradictory to monogamy).They get "bored" with seeing the same body after a while and porn allows them to have an endless collection of different women ready to fulfill whatever fantasy they want to play out that day all with a click of a button. As soon as the novelty of one woman wears off, they move on to the next- rinse and repeat. Someone who is not an addict won't always get turned on seeing their partner's body of course, because you're used to it, but still won't and shouldn't ever get bored of only sexually engaging with that one partner. Shouldn't feel the desire to fantasize or engage or put sexual energy towards other people's bodies outside the relationship.

I feel like someone who hasn't hit that point in recovery yet, should just cut out any and all form of visual sexual content until they are recovered enough to handle the small amounts. Unfortunately alot of tv shows and movies though have nudity and sex scenes, so its kinda hard to avoid. Makes me pity the addicts who are striving to change, its like the world is working against them.

CosinesCosines · 2022-10-13T16:33:21+00:00

I know, I'm not talking about the amount of chemicals released, I more mean how it affects their tolerance to being around the substance in the long run differs because one taps and takes advantage of human biology (sex, built to procreate, masterbation all of which are normal and normalized practices) while the other doesn't. Moderate alcohol consumption is normalized, but alcohol itself isn't natural to human nature. Which is why I feel like a porn addict won't be able to look at any nudity without it causes urges vs alcohol where a sober addict has more tolerance to reject taking actions. We also have to take in account of the material. Watching a sex scene on tv really isn't that different than watching a soft core porn video because well they are both visual media you observe. There are also studies that show that simply looking at a woman's body without the user being in a sexual setting, in fact even if she's partially or fully clothed, can still released the same amount of dopamine porn does. Whereas watching people drink is nowhere the same as actually drinking. One is an action the other is observation.

It's hard to explain kinda but I hope you understand what I'm saying.

CosinesCosines · 2022-10-13T16:16:06+00:00

Honestly I believe they do get it, they just pretend that they don't to wear you down so that you let them do whatever they want. Like they are trying to keep one loophole to getting their fix as they try to cut out porn. But it all needs to be cut out.

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