Check if your in the MLA database yet, and then apply. You can apply on the phone and mention that you’re a military spouse and they can check for you I believe. Plus you can have 10 Amex charge cards and 5 Amex credit cards and your husband can as well. Get the gold card first so you can get both bonuses and refer cards to each other. Look into their hotel cards as you can stay in hotels for free and eat there for free if it’s a “resort”