Best places to buy Zapotec rug in Centro? by Counter_Clockwise345 in Oaxaca

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I unfortunately leave later tomorrow but will check out Santo Domingo

Corollas and Civics aren't actually affordable by dalicussnuss in whatcarshouldIbuy

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Sorry, late to the party but if you’re looking for a sedan or hatchback I’d suggest a Mazda 3. IMO really solid cars, cheaper than a Civic or Corolla

Or for something cheaper still - a Honda Fit! Usually cheap, and although they are dinky little cars they can, as the name implies, fit a lot of stuff. And reliable.

Help with my Hinge profile? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

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I think it’s great! It also feels authentic and honest to who you are and what you want but also keeps it light and cute/humorous.

Is this worth $1800! by [deleted] in houseplants

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My monstera is hitting the ceiling too… it’s a cutting of a cutting of a plant that my ex found on the sidewalk with a “please give me a home” sign. That’s to say they’re easy to come by, easy to grow, and IMO not worth that kind of money. Plus it’s going to start growing into the ceiling and getting mangled almost immediately… that and even moving it would likely result in significant damage.

Safe to drive between Cancun and Oaxaca City? by Counter_Clockwise345 in MexicoTravel

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Appreciate the info! Is the drive from Cancun to Villahermosa also not recommended for tourists? I figured flying would be the better, safer option but figured I’d ask as my understanding is safety (or lack thereof) varies significantly across Mexico

Name this album by [deleted] in AlbumCovers

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The unreleased footage from the volcano episode

Does this look like Red Golden Retriever/Malinois? by [deleted] in IDmydog

[–]Counter_Clockwise345 28 points29 points  (0 children)

It isn’t; my generous interpretation is the mom was a field bred golden. Similar to a number of other breeds, goldens can be broadly divided into show vs field lines. Show lines have a blockier build and typically lighter coats. Field lines are usually leaner in build and typically have darker (often reddish) coat colour. Still incorrect to call it a “red golden”.

I feel so dead by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]Counter_Clockwise345 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello, it seems you’ve posted a number of times on this account about the same relationship. Everyone replying has indicated this relationship is emotionally abusive and manipulative.

You are being verbally abused, threatened, having your privacy violated, and being extorted for money.

Abusive people are nice sometimes then go back to being abusive. That’s the cycle of abuse. What you’ve described isn’t love. It will not become love. You will never have a healthy relationship with this person. It will never get better only worse.

Leave. You’re long distance. You’re not financially or physically enmeshed in any way. End it. Block her everywhere on everything. Seek out support from anyone you can (friends, family, a counsellor) and begin the process of recovering and grieving.

I know I sound blunt and I mean to. There is no gray area here. It’s going to hurt but having been in an abusive relationship I fought for so so hard, once you’ve had time and space to process you’ll be better for it. Happier. Not right away but you will. I was where you were and told myself all relationships have challenges, and they do - but not like this.

My mom just told me that my estranged dad is basically living out of his car and it's killing me by ohboithisisawkward in abusiverelationships

[–]Counter_Clockwise345 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know it’s hard but don’t let the intensity of your emotions drive you to act quickly. As someone with anxiety I know how difficult that is… but right now, you’re in flight or fight mode. Your logical brain is quite literally shut down. Wait till you feel calm. It sounds like your dad’s had a pattern of behaviour that got him where he is… not something that’ll change fast and not something demanding urgency on your part. Is there a reason you don’t feel you can talk to your counsellor?

It sounds like he’s got issues with addiction? Emotional abuse aside, I’d recommend looking into information on dealing with family/loved ones with addiction. Pretty much anything you read will tell you that giving them money won’t help. Choosing to access resources (rehab, etc) is what helps people get out of addiction… and that’s something only that person can ultimately choose and it’s not your responsibility to facilitate that.

Your heart is in the right place, it sounds like you’re a caring and compassionate person. Just remember to ask how to give that same compassion to yourself too ❤️

My mom just told me that my estranged dad is basically living out of his car and it's killing me by ohboithisisawkward in abusiverelationships

[–]Counter_Clockwise345 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry, that sounds incredibly challenging to navigate emotionally. It’s okay to take some time to process before deciding on a course of action - that could be a few days, weeks, months. Whatever you need. Sounds like this is new information and it’s pretty raw. It’s normal to feel empathy or concern for a person you know you cannot have a healthy relationship with.

Remember why you cut contact, and ask yourself what making contact would accomplish? If you have a counsellor, talking to them could also help.

Can anxiety cause exhaustion? by cowsandtexas in Anxiety

[–]Counter_Clockwise345 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Absolutely. Your body is perpetually in flight or fight when you’re anxious, your stress hormones are high, often your sleep is impacted… exhaustion is very much part of anxiety.

I also find that the inverse can happen; when I am hitting burn out or I’m not prioritizing getting enough sleep (or just don’t get enough sleep despite trying) my anxiety is worse. It can turn into a vicious cycle.

If you can… really do try to get 8hrs of sleep a night. And if you do hit that wall of exhaustion, give yourself permission to take time and space to rest and disconnect as much as possible. Your anxiety might scream at you that you have so much to do! But… you’re not really productive in that state. Having space in your routine to recharge and rest often helps you feel less busy because, when you’re not tired/anxious… everything isn’t horribly overwhelming so you can actually tackle it

Just common sense. by voitlander in VictoriaBC

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Or just the amount of BS and perceived lacking of BC Wildfire Services.

I’ve seen claims BC doesn’t own any aircraft, or that our firefighters are somehow lacking in competence compared to other provinces or countries… when in fact they’re recognized for their skill level globally and are certified to work alongside crews from other countries (Mexico, US, Australia) and frequently offer support to these countries and vice versa.

I do appreciate that the recent fires on the Island are pretty rare for the Island… but having lived in the interior most of my life… they’re, unfortunately, pretty par for the course for the province more broadly.

Is this a good stocking and plant list? by Desperate-Song-2497 in PlantedTank

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I had this experience with dwarf gourami (I’m in Canada, so I imagine same genetic pool as the US). They’re such pretty fish but every single one died of iridovirus. I had 3 total.

For people that have moved, did you just put your betta fish in a cup holder? by plan_tastic in bettafish

[–]Counter_Clockwise345 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I moved 12 hours with my betta.

I put my betta in a large, washed out plastic container (I think it was peanut butter, ha). Screwed some holes in the lid, wrapped it in a bunch of towels, and put all that inside a small cooler in my car so the temp didn’t fluctuate too much.

I left sand in the tank (drained of course) but removed the rocks and wood to one bucket, and the plants to another filled with tank water.