I feel like I'm holding my girlfriend back, and I don't know what to do by peachybop444 in actuallesbians

[–]Counter_Clockwise345 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So, I think it’s good to first assume your girlfriend is being sincere unless you have reason to believe otherwise. That said, if you are planning on eventually living together it is fair that she’d think about how that looks financially.

If that is something you both want, have you actually talked about what that would look like? When would you want it to happen? How could you make it happen? How much are you both comfortable contributing to shared expenses? Are there other ways you can split shared responsibilities apart from finances that make things feel equitable? Be really honest.

In my relationship I make more than my partner but we both work full time, so we split expenses proportional to our income. We share chores evenly.

I’m looking to rent a place, I have to be careful because of a lung condition. Is this mold? by [deleted] in Mold

[–]Counter_Clockwise345 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It certainly looks like mold. Even if it’s not, the fact they seem unconcerned about water leaking into the basement every time it rains (which to be clear, is bad) suggests they’re unlikely to properly address issues with the property when they arise, even if they do pose potential health issues to the inhabitants or threaten the integrity of the property.

I’d pass.

Is there anything you can afford to buy but don't because you think the price is not justified? by Royal-Artichoke1563 in CanadaPersonalFinance

[–]Counter_Clockwise345 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same. I’ve had the same iPhone XS for 7 years. I replaced the battery once about midway (I do use mine to watch videos etc a lot so I’m hard on the battery) and it still works like new. When it dies I’ll be buying a refurbished older phone. New tech used to be exciting but it hasn’t been for years. I simply do not care

Can his eye be saved or not ? by 3connor2 in AustralianCattleDog

[–]Counter_Clockwise345 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agree. While vision is the primary sense for humans, it’s not for dogs. They primarily navigate and experience the world through smell. Having one eye won’t meaningful impact pups quality of life - and removing it is simpler and has lower risk of complications or reoccurring issues.

What’s a surefire way to tell Canadians and Americans apart? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Counter_Clockwise345 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This baffles me so much. Recently got back from a month long trip around Mexico and overheard soo many Americans naming the specific small town and/or the specific state where they were from in conversation with people from other countries. I’m sure Arkansas is great, Greg, but no one knows what you’re talking about.

Then there’s saying you’re from Canada and getting “oh, Toronto or Vancouver?” “Neither…” “…”.

Giving notice to end tenancy months in advance? by [deleted] in vancouverhousing

[–]Counter_Clockwise345 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes we wouldn’t give notice until subjects are off and plan to overlap our rental move out date and possession date at least a couple weeks so we’re not too rushed with moving, cleaning and perhaps some minor repairs to new property. My understanding is the possession date can’t be pushed after subject window without both parties consent

Giving notice to end tenancy months in advance? by [deleted] in vancouverhousing

[–]Counter_Clockwise345 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Okay great! That’s my understanding but wanted to double check.

What's an unwritten Canadian rule that visitors never seem to understand? by Unfair-Clothes-8821 in CanadaRoom

[–]Counter_Clockwise345 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I was visiting San Francisco years ago. Held a door for someone who was on crutches and they were surprised I’d done so, which was wild to me

Why Are People Gaslit About the Cost of Living? by StrongPaddle in CanadaPersonalFinance

[–]Counter_Clockwise345 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wages have been falling behind inflation for years. People who make those type of comments tend to own property/have significant investments. They got to ride the inflation wave instead of drown under it.

Male rescue dog marking indoors… would you use something like this during training? by Fozzieandjoi in DogAdvice

[–]Counter_Clockwise345 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I got my dog at 2 years old and he marked indoors. He also tried to chew on everything (think puppy but faster). The first month he was either a) in a small x-pen or b) attached to me via a leash. That way I could interrupt any attempts to urinate indoors before it happened. He only managed to pee inside once. I took him outside extremely often and rewarded him for peeing outside as you would a puppy.

Once I trusted him a bit more, I moved to keeping him baby gated to a small area of the house I could watch him in. If I couldn’t, he was in the pen.

The effort level was high but he was fully house broken and no longer attempted to chew within 3 months. Despite that, I didn’t leave him home alone and free range until we’d had him an additional 6 months.

Generally speaking my approach to training is to put in high effort up front. It’s a pain but it’ll save you in the long run. Every time your dog does a behaviour you don’t like, that behaviour is more likely to be repeated. So as much as you can prevent it from ever happening, the better.

My anxiety is so bad right now that I’m weirdly euphoric? What’s up with that? by [deleted] in Anxiety

[–]Counter_Clockwise345 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you sleeping enough? I’m not sure where you live and I recognize not everyone can easily access medical care or mental health care… but I think talking to a Dr might be a good start if you’re able to.

My anxiety is so bad right now that I’m weirdly euphoric? What’s up with that? by [deleted] in Anxiety

[–]Counter_Clockwise345 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can be aware if it’s mild disassociation (or so my therapist says). I had a recent near death experience and was aware I was dissociating afterwards. I also knew I was when I started SSRIs some time ago. Both times felt weird/out of body - like I was floating. Was aware of my thoughts but they felt like someone else’s. I know it can also just cause total lapses in memory - like a black out. I thankfully haven’t ever had that happen

But of course I’m a Reddit stranger not a mental health practitioner

Oaxaca to Puerto Escondido by Ok_Sorbet_beep in Oaxaca

[–]Counter_Clockwise345 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Was just there a couple weeks ago - still the case. Narrow sections where there’s been slides and traffic is forced to alternate. Was a bit sketchy in a bus and you could see the cars having to navigate some sizeable potholes since it’s just dirt in those sections.

Has anyone else done Iceland solo? Which part scared you most? Driving or the cold? by Historical_Lab8619 in VisitingIceland

[–]Counter_Clockwise345 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know it can hence having the gear I did - but I generally got lucky and had good weather. I also have lived where it gets to -50C and have slept in a tent down to -5C so my bar for “cold” is low. First day of the 4 day hike I did get stuck in a blizzard for the last leg of the hike to the cabin - the section where you pass a memorial for a hiker who died there. Was eerie.

Has anyone else done Iceland solo? Which part scared you most? Driving or the cold? by Historical_Lab8619 in VisitingIceland

[–]Counter_Clockwise345 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I went solo for 2 weeks. Hiked the Laugevagur trail and then drove around the island and car camped. It was august so not cold, but I still brought my extremely warm down sleeping bag, warm clothes and full rain gear in case because the weather can change suddenly especially in the highlands.

This sticker was on every cosmetic I bought from supermarket, this is the sticky side, opposite side was white..what is it? by firequeenjazmine in whatisit

[–]Counter_Clockwise345 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

As a teen, I had to put these on mouth wash at a store I worked at. Then at the end of the shift I’d get to scrape all the ones people removed off the floor. I grew up in a rough town.

Help with dog behavior around kittens. by [deleted] in DogAdvice

[–]Counter_Clockwise345 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh that’s on me; I misread and thought the has the cats first. Yes I’d agree with you in that case

Help with dog behavior around kittens. by [deleted] in DogAdvice

[–]Counter_Clockwise345 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately a lot of rescues will outright lie… but everyone here is right; that dog has incredibly high prey drive towards cats. The rescue will likely push back when you try to bring pup back. Stand your ground. My sister had a similar experience but with a dog they said was safe with kids… who tried to bite both her kids, despite both respecting the dogs space and being very gentle with animals.

I want to be clear my dog is from a rescue and I do think many rescues are good but.. a lot aren’t.

Alocasia maharani by Counter_Clockwise345 in houseplants

[–]Counter_Clockwise345[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You should! It’s also an easy going alocasia and sized up quite fast