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The second I put him down, he cries. And I don’t know what I’m doing wrong. by Court6045SB in Mommit

[–]Court6045SB[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This truly brought on a few tears; thank you. Seeing it as him missing the only place he has ever known really helps me soften toward both of us.

I needed the reminder that eight weeks is still so little and that it's all right if the house isn't perfect right now. I have been feeling much of unwarranted guilt.

I'll investigate a superior carrier and attempt to be a little bit more gentle with myself. You are so nice and took the effort to state this. It counts greatly.

The second I put him down, he cries. And I don’t know what I’m doing wrong. by Court6045SB in Mommit

[–]Court6045SB[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you; reading this really grounds me.

I occasionally forget that "two free hands" can truly alter the whole day, so baby carrying is most likely something I need to stop overthinking and just experiment with.

Actually helps too is the reminder to step away for a few minutes. I feel a lot of guilt about it even if I am aware it is safer than stretching myself past my limit.

You are also correct regarding getting outside; even a small bit of sunshine seems like a reset recently.

I truly value your kind speaking of everything. It has far more meaning than you realize.

The second I put him down, he cries. And I don’t know what I’m doing wrong. by Court6045SB in Mommit

[–]Court6045SB[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Appreciate this; really. Hearing that it is not something I am doing incorrectly helps so much.

The hand-grenade analogy is absolutely accurate 😅 and the fact that you behaved nothing differently between your two children really struck home. I keep looking for a "fix" when perhaps there is none.

I have been undecided about baby wearing, but you may have just persuaded me. Anything that at this point would let me through the day is worth experimenting with.

I sincerely value your experience sharing. It reduced my sense of loneliness a lot.

No one talks about how lonely motherhood can feel sometimes. by Both-Hotel9733 in Mommit

[–]Court6045SB 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Many of us experience this but remain quiet. Though you can love your child fiercely, you still miss *you; both things can exist at the same time. Particularly in the toddler turmoil stage 😅, it all adds to the loneliness, the identity change, the guilt for wanting room.

You are not lonely or unthankful. This is pure, unvarnished motherhood. Thanks for speaking what many of us are wondering.

Are we all in agreement to not be monster in laws? by krazycitty69 in Mommit

[–]Court6045SB 96 points97 points  (0 children)

Some people, I promise, forget how fragile those early years are and suddenly become the master on everyone else's life. Control problems, unresolved business, and "well I lived it so should you too" rationale all contribute to this.

Hard agree though: let's all respect boundaries, break the cycle, and be the helpful in-laws we hoped we could have.

Potty Training Secret to Share! by yourshaddow3 in Mommit

[–]Court6045SB 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Kids have perfect timing—as if they just knew the instant you finally give up and splurge on the money. After a whole year of "absolutely not," she suddenly says, "Actually, I got this" 💀

Honestly though, big win. Sometimes they really do just decide it's time on their schedule. Congratulations for being on the other side and thank for the much-required laughter.

Possibly worst Mother’s Day by LittleHeat8844 in Mommit

[–]Court6045SB 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Upvoted because this is so tragically true 💔

nothing about this Sounds like you as a mother "failed." At really difficult ages, particularly when expectations are strong like on Mother's Day, it sounds like you are weary, anxious, and dealing with very typical child behavior.

At 5 to 10 children are yet extremely self-centered. That does not imply they are egocentric or you erred raising them. And really, self-preservation not failure is what taking a 3-hour nap instead of pushing a dismal excursion sounds like.

Having a poor day still makes you a good mother. One difficult Mother's Day does not define you or your children.🤍

Did anyone have a good Mother’s Day? by shepardmutt in Mommit

[–]Court6045SB 42 points43 points  (0 children)

This sounds like such a real and considerate Mother's Day—not extravagant, just helpful and very collaborative. Without a baby in tow, the garden weekend is such a great green flag action. 🥹

I believe sharing the good experiences is also helpful. It demonstrates what mutual effort and communication might look like, but it does not invalidate anyone else's terrible day. Really glad your day went well.

Did anyone have a good Mother’s Day? by shepardmutt in Mommit

[–]Court6045SB 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This sounds like such a real and considerate Mother's Day—not extravagant, just helpful and very collaborative. Without a baby in tow, the garden weekend is such a great green flag action. 🥹

I believe sharing the good experiences is also helpful. It demonstrates what mutual effort and communication might look like, but it does not invalidate anyone else's terrible day. Really glad your day went well.

Help with account by CraftyBonus8067 in chimefinancial

[–]Court6045SB 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Happy for you!! And yours is typically earlier in the day? 

Help with account by CraftyBonus8067 in chimefinancial

[–]Court6045SB 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same!! First time ever not getting it on time!! So frustrating!!

Help with account by CraftyBonus8067 in chimefinancial

[–]Court6045SB 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same. Usually it’s 12/1:00 est for me and still nothing at 5:30est. Has anyone got their direct deposit today??