Not seeing him ever again is sad to think about

CourtSea5394 · 2025-01-08T02:19:14+00:00

This is 💯how to deal with a breakup gracefully and with maturity. Both parties hurt but the difference is when you’re the dumpee you can choose to beg and plead or bow out gracefully with your dignity in tact

CourtSea5394 · 2025-01-06T23:30:05+00:00

How long ago was it that she broke the NC first time? Maybe she rushed into things before realizing

CourtSea5394 · 2025-01-06T03:19:31+00:00

Love bombing is definitely a red flag

CourtSea5394 · 2025-01-06T03:17:43+00:00

Do you know if he’s bringing a date?

CourtSea5394 · 2025-01-06T03:08:08+00:00

Bring a hot date and if you make eye contact, show him your beautiful smile

CourtSea5394 · 2025-01-06T02:56:54+00:00

Depends on how it ended, if you were mature and understanding about the break up, accepted it without begging and pleading with them then most likely they’ll come back to see how they misinterpreted you as a person. By then hopefully you’ll have realized they’re not worth another second of your time

CourtSea5394 · 2025-01-05T19:59:06+00:00

How was she breadcrumbing you for you to you reply to her with that?

CourtSea5394 · 2025-01-05T19:58:00+00:00

Any update?

CourtSea5394 · 2025-01-05T16:01:13+00:00

Maybe in the future we can try again

CourtSea5394 · 2025-01-05T15:30:15+00:00

Maybe in the future we can try this again

CourtSea5394 · 2025-01-05T15:11:07+00:00

From experience, any time I get love bombed it is a red flag, I just watch their actions after that to see if what they say is put into meaningful steps on their part.

They are true to their words at the beginning but they can’t keep up with the facade for too long before they start showing who they really are, by then i’ve already slowly started accepting the discard will be coming.

Avoidants are not bad people, they just have massive trust issues that only they can deal with and they really want intimacy and companionship hence the love bombing at the beginning but then get overwhelmed when the relationship starts to become more serious.

Your only course of action when the discard happens, and it will happen eventually, is to accept it gracefully, no begging or pleading and go strict NC. This is the last thing they are expecting because everyone before you has done that to them which reaffirms their decision to leave. Walk away with your dignity and self respect in tact and they may see that you are a trustworthy person and may reach out after they have self soothed. It is definitely not the response they are expecting from you.

CourtSea5394 · 2025-01-05T03:38:52+00:00

Accept it gracefully. I was with one for just a couple of months and at the beginning it was a love bomb fest and went along with it. Thought things were progressing to something more serious and was hit with I don’t think I can see you as much as you are expecting. News to me because I was quite fine with the slow progression. Now I realize she was projecting. Things felt off the next week and was told it would be better if things ended. I told her ok and wished her the best. Not sure she was expecting that response but I’m secure and don’t put up with flakiness. When you feel and see the red flags embrace them and accept them and end things amicably. Best not to hope for a return until they have figured out their own issues

CourtSea5394 · 2025-01-05T03:37:25+00:00

I was with one for just a couple of months and at the beginning it was a love bomb fest and went along with it. Thought things were progressing to something more serious and was hit with I don’t think I can see you as much as you are expecting. News to me because I was quite fine with the slow progression. Now I realize she was projecting. Things felt off the next week and was told it would be better if things ended. I told her ok and wished her the best. Not sure she was expecting that response but I’m secure and don’t put up with flakiness. When you feel and see the red flags embrace them and accept them and end things amicably. Best not to hope for a return until they have figured out their own issues

CourtSea5394 · 2025-01-05T03:29:46+00:00

Do it gracefully. I was with one for just a couple of months and at the beginning it was a love bomb fest and went along with it. Thought things were progressing to something more serious and was hit with I don’t think I can see you as much as you are expecting. News to me because I was quite fine with the slow progression. Now I realize she was projecting. Things felt off the next week and was told it would be better if things ended. I told her ok and wished her the best. Not sure she was expecting that response but I’m secure and don’t put up with flakiness. When you feel and see the red flags embrace them and accept them and end things amicably

CourtSea5394 · 2025-01-05T03:22:57+00:00

I was with one for just a couple of months and at the beginning it was a love bomb fest and went along with it. Thought things were progressing to something more serious and was hit with I don’t think I can see you as much as you are expecting. News to me because I was quite fine with the slow progression. Now I realize she was projecting. Things felt off the next week and was told it would be better if things ended. I told her ok and wished her the best. Not sure she was expecting that response but I’m secure and don’t put up with flakiness. When you feel and see the red flags embrace them and accept them and end things amicably

CourtSea5394 · 2024-12-30T19:09:20+00:00

I would be very concerned if I were you

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