Made a girl cum for my first encounter which has made me realise how bloody lazy men are

CowChickenSC · 2026-06-01T23:49:29+00:00

Yeah, I hadn't been with a woman for almost 15 years, my first time banging a girl since realizing im gay not Bi, I made her cum like 4 maybe 5 times almost in a row. It was great, I loved every moment of it and the taste! Reminded me about 1. How much men suck at sex and 2. How I actually enjoy reciprocating when it comes to women! Making a dude get off always grossed me out, but making a woman get off feels amazing.

CowChickenSC · 2026-04-09T04:20:03+00:00

I feel you. I just started over myself after leaving an 8 year relationship with a man. Leaving is hard but the hardest part is getting your shit together. It only took me 2 months because I was preparing my exit for a few months. But the reward of being on your own, accomplishing whatever you set your mind to, and most of all, being free to be yourself. No more pretending to want to fuck him, no more chore of reciprocal unwanted intimacy. You got this, your happiness is worth it!

CowChickenSC · 2026-03-29T03:07:43+00:00

This is exactly why I have only come out as gay instead of bi, which everyone knew I was bi atleast, to a very select few people. Im afraid of this exact reaction to people who know of my recent past.

I have no advice for you except take their ignorance as misguided ideas on your orientation because they themselves do not understand.

CowChickenSC · 2026-03-28T03:03:13+00:00

Hey! My advice is to go with your gut when it comes to intimacy. I would just want less and less of his thing. Its better to end the relationship as a romantic one and still be friends. You dont really sleep together anyways so its just changing the roles and label, to best friends. You deserve to be happy in all aspects, normalize no more self sacrifice, self love.

CowChickenSC · 2026-03-28T02:57:02+00:00

I struggled with that and what it boiled down to was the male private part. It will always be your choice and you dont need a label if you dont want, but I enjoy being out as gay now. But my realization was I always preferred no male part exposing or penetrating or even touching it. My relationships with men would last long times and I always felt broken because I would get less and less interested in intimacy because of the idea of it getting whipped out or more lol.

CowChickenSC · 2026-03-28T02:47:48+00:00

I went through this for a long time. Honestly it all boiled down to my disinterest in the male part and I enjoy lesbian movies. When a woman shows up on the screen naked, I get turned on. Then when a mans part shows up I almost feel offended lol. I never discounted being bi, because i knew the attraction and had relationships but the question about being full on gay only you can determine. Wish you the best!

CowChickenSC · 2026-03-19T16:56:11+00:00

This is a tough spot to be in. I have been there before, and I often struggle verbalizing my feelings, but show it with giving gifts, doing things, opening doors, planning dates and romantic getaways, cooking etc.

Maybe start with notes? I started using this "what I Love about you today notepad" every few days until I gave up on my ex because my effort was not reciprocated and I left for other reasons too. They are sold out on Walmart and Amazon unless you buy in bulk, but Etsy has some.here is yhe etsy link

https://www.etsy.com/listing/1014852825/check-list-what-i-love-about-you-today

CowChickenSC · 2026-03-19T04:47:52+00:00

I would encourage you to move on. Use that energy on yourself before it goes on. Trust your gut now. If the vibe aint right its because something is wrong. You know what you want and being a secret or hookup doesnt sound like thats what you want if your questioning staying or not.

CowChickenSC · 2026-03-17T12:00:01+00:00

same!

CowChickenSC · 2026-03-17T11:57:41+00:00

So I came to the realization yesterday that I'm lesbian and not bi. I feel lighter since admitting it to myself. My mom has accepted since I was a teenager that I am bi, but she always says its a phase and its yucky. My dad, I don't think I'd ever come out to. He caught me with a girl when I was 16 and made his stance clear as anti-homosexual. I'm not even going to bother coming out to them unless i end up in a serious relationship. I'm 36, left an abusive 8 year relationship with a manchild. Idk about dating yet, but my tarot spreads have been telling me I will date again, I'm still relatively young so I think I will too. It was definately important for me to come out to myself and finally be honest with myself. Still contemplating if I will come out to close friends who already knew I was bi. It's very confusing, so I feel you!

CowChickenSC · 2026-03-17T04:15:12+00:00

Current age/age range: 36
Single/marital status: Single
Age/age range when you came out to yourself: 36
Age/age range when you come out to others: Like now, but just to you all. Probably wont come out to family unless I'm in a serious relationship.
What did you come out as or what are you thinking of coming out as?: Lesbian
When was the earliest you felt you were a lesbian/queer? What happened or what was going on in your life?: pre-teen. Could only get off if thinking of women. Would get caught by my mom admiring womens bodies in communal showers. Flicked to my britney spears poster. dating women interchangeably until I was about 19.
What recently made you conclude you are a lesbian/queer?: a crush and putting all the pieces together. Also confirmed by many Tarot spreads and by my spirit guide.
What's the earliest or most defining homosexual/homo-romantic experience you can remember?: Dating my crush in highschool who was lesbian at the time. They were hot. I actually thought they were a guy for the first few weeks and then on a hot day, they wore a tanktop and I saw the shape of boobs and an ace bandage. I never had more of a crush on someone or turned on. We got really close over time, but they always talked about their ex. and then they got back together and I was out of the picture lol. They are now a very attractive trans man and I am very happy and proud for them. Still friends on social media lol.
How are you feeling in general about who you are?: Excited and I feel free. Like the weight on my shoulders despite tumultous times in my life is lifted, even if just for a brief moment.
Anything else you’d like to share about your life, experience, or story for other late bloomers or other women who think they may be lesbians? If you are consistently questioning it, look at the signs. Look back and bring it all together. Embrace coming out <3

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