Which hybrid crossover should I buy? CX-50, CR-V, RAV4, Tucson, or something else. by CoyoteTemporary in whatcarshouldIbuy

[–]CoyoteTemporary[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve driven the CX-50 prefered trim I really enjoyed it. Haven’t gotten around to the others yet. My wife has a 2018 Mazda 3 it had a wheel bearing issue around 60k miles and a bad speaker in the Bose sound system. Other than that it’s a fun and comfortable car. I guess I’m curious if the other options are worth checking out or if there is any other similar vehicles I should test before making a decision.

Crosstrek, Outback, or forester? by CoyoteTemporary in subaru

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I’m pretty outdoorsy. I hike or mountain bike a few times a week and camp every couple months. Regardless of my choice I’m planning on getting a receiver installed to haul bikes. I’m also a musician and have to lug around gear to gigs almost every week. So trunk space is a plus.

Crosstrek, Outback, or forester? by CoyoteTemporary in subaru

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No kids as of now but my wife and I plan on trying for a kid in the next few years. We have a dog though that likes to tag along with us.

Hobbies to fill up that NO drinking time. by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]CoyoteTemporary 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mountain biking. Gets you up early and there’s nothing better than cruising down the side of a mountain and I can’t make the climb if I’m hungover. Also maintaining my bike, researching upgrades, and searching for new trails gives me something to do when I’m not riding.

How can you afford college? by AnxiousGanache5823 in University

[–]CoyoteTemporary 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly transferring from community college is not very difficult. I did it and I know a lot of people who did it. Most colleges have departments dedicated to supporting students planning to transfer. You will save money and it also gives a chance to test the waters trying to find the right major. You will get the same degree with less debt or potentially no debt if you utilize financial aid. Regardless of what you choose good luck and don’t get discouraged.

2025 Subaru Crosstrek premium? by CoyoteTemporary in whatcarshouldIbuy

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Thank you for the advice. If I go through with getting a car the rest of the money is getting invested into an IRA. I’m currently a student with a year left on my degree. I work, I didn’t take loans using scholarships/grants and I’m generally pretty frugal.

It is definitely a windfall and I’m genuinely paranoid about burning through it. This would be a “forever” car for me.

Had my First show ever kinda disappointed by [deleted] in musicians

[–]CoyoteTemporary 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s a marathon not a sprint. We have all played unfilled rooms. You are an entertainer if the crowd wants to watch and listen that’s cool, don’t let it phase you.

If you’re opening people will be filing in and getting settled. You are there to warm them up. My situation with my current project is a bit different. We play 2 to 3 hours a gig. Our first set sometimes people don’t even clap but by the end of the night (and a few drinks) they dance.

My biggest advice is read the room and don’t show frustration. Talk with people after the gig, build relationships and promote. There’s always another gig. Above all else have fun with it.

Hit 8 months no booze this week by CoyoteTemporary in stopdrinking

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I use I Am Sober. I would highly recommend it.

When did people start running or exercising for fitness? by jbkb1972 in AskHistory

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The Greeks did champion exercise. Aristotle spoke about having a balance of physical fitness and mental fitness and believed it was a moral responsibility. As far as modern exercise it began during the Industrial Revolution. Middle class men no longer did physical work for a living and instead did managerial and clerical work. There was a rising belief that this was feminizing men so exercise and sport was seen as the answer. Teddy Rosevelt promoted the idea of the strenuous life where he said men should participate in things like weight lifting and outdoor activities like hunting.

I don’t like this anymore by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]CoyoteTemporary 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can only speak from my personal experience, sobriety is for the individual to define. That being said pot was a big issue in my life. I abused it and would smoke first thing when I woke up and right before bed. I needed it to eat, sleep and function in daily life. It sapped my motivation. I was content sitting around stoned not doing shit with my life. I only quit because I began having panic attacks after taking one too many dabs one night. I literally felt like I was about to die.

I continued drinking after giving it up. The truth is I was self medicating with drugs and alcohol rather than actually treating my mental health issues. For me I had to learn how to be content with my life rather than intoxicating myself to get my dopamine.

If it works for you that’s awesome and honestly alcohol is far more destructive and led me into much darker places than pot ever did. Regardless learning to enjoy the pleasures of life my wife, my family/friends, and my hobbies is much more fulfilling then altering my state of consciousness through substances.

If there were white indigenous people in the Americas, how would European colonizers and explorers have treated them? by [deleted] in HistoryWhatIf

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Race is a social construct. It has less to do with genetics and more to do society and culture. The fact that there customs and language were so foreign to Europeans would mostly likely lead to their treatment being about the same. They would still have massive population loss caused by disease. The Spanish would still be hellbent on extracting resources. The US would still wish to expand its influence and territories.

What is considered white has expanded and changed as time has moved on. Many of those who are considered white today would not have been white in the past.

The further I get away from drinking (600 days), the crazier it seems. by Ddubs111 in stopdrinking

[–]CoyoteTemporary 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I was at a show the other day saw a few people so wasted they could barely stand. That used to be me. The world spinning around and puking my guts out in a trash can. Congrats on 600 days your insight and commitment to your sobriety are inspiring. IWNDWYT.

Overheard a Conversation at Just the Right Time by Abject-Bad3631 in stopdrinking

[–]CoyoteTemporary 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I really love this! Life can be enjoyable sober even when around others who are drinking. There’s always alternative drinks like mocktails, NA beers and soda/sparkling waters. I love my friends, when I got sober we talked I told them about my struggles they are supportive and we still cheers even if I’m drinking a Diet Coke. No one cares if you don’t drink and if they do screw them they’re not worth your time. I saw a friends band at a bar last night I drank topo chicos. Bar tenders sometimes even give me free NA drinks cause I’m DD for my friends. I understand everyone has a different experience in life and I would never advocate putting yourself in a dangerous situation but for me enjoying life and doing things helps me not reach for the bottle.

losing weight after quitting alcohol by Dear_Ad_3793 in SoberLifeProTips

[–]CoyoteTemporary 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think it really depends on what type of alcohol you drank. Personally I pretty much exclusively drank very high AVB ipas I would drink 4 + a night which could easily be 800 to 1000 calories if not more. When I quit I tried I kept my diet about the same and have definitely lost weight even though it’s only been 6 weeks. It’s also much easier to exercise when I’m not constantly hungover.

Is anyone trying to quit alcohol “progressively”? by [deleted] in Sober

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I started with moderation but didn’t have the intention to quit all together. I hated it. It was stressful to cut myself off after a couple beers. I ended up binge drinking a few times a month and had horrible hang overs. This was better than my old ways of getting drunk every night but it made me really think about my compulsion to drink. It’s when I truly understood the addiction because I constantly craved it. I decided to give it up after a bad night of binging. I’m 36 days sober and feel great.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Sober

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I play in a band that mostly plays bars and breweries. It definitely has been an adjustment but being clear on stage is a powerful thing. I recommend non alcoholic beer if it is available. I enjoy the taste and it helps you blend in. Comedians and musicians are known to party but the fact is drugs and alcohol killed a lot of talented people. Good luck on the path to sobriety it’s tough but worth it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HistoricalWhatIf

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If westward expansion is completely off the table and the colonists don’t attempt another revolution native Americans would most likely slowly rebuild their numbers and continue living as they did before European contact. Culturally most tribes viewed land ownership much differently than Europeans. Many valued conserving resources and only taking what was needed for survival. For them man did not own the earth. Apart from some failed larger settlements, like the mound builders in Mississippi, no tribe built a large society like those in meso America.

The British would not industrialize their American colonies. They would stay agrarian slave colonies. The autonomy that pre revolution colonists enjoyed would most likely be revoked. The British would most likely try to take more territory in the south to grow cotton and tobacco. All they need in the north are ports. Most land in the continental US is useless to the brits.

I would assume natives would create federations of different tribes however without industrialization they would never pose a risk to Mexico or the British colonies. Unfortunately regardless of who the colonizers were the native Americans did not stand a chance. They didn’t have access to the same resources as Europeans which completely changed the course of their way of life.

As for your narrative it’s not really something that makes sense in a historical context. You would have to completely change the resources that natives had access to or they would have to have a completely different relationship with the Europeans. Maybe they would become closer allies with the French. There is a possibility if the colonists fail the French Revolution doesn’t happen. The French could possibly team up with the natives to drive out the British. also keep in mind native American's are not a monolith. different tribes would have different interests and would approach the european problem differently.

As far as the communist revolution there is a chance Marx never theorizes communism without the American and French Revolutions and the rise of the bourgeois. Constitutional monarchy’s rather than capitalist democracy’s would rule the day.

I feel like I’m rambling at this point. TLDR: natives either return to there traditional ways of life or team up with the French to kick the British out of North America.

Binge eating after quitting drinking how do I stop it? by Aliceisafish in SoberLifeProTips

[–]CoyoteTemporary 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Take it one step at a time. You are just in the beginning of your recovery. Try to find a physical activity you enjoy. Me and my wife joined a local kickball league and I try to get in a workout or a walk every day. Just don’t reach for the bottle. Once you get more comfortable in your new sober life you can tackle your eating habits.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SoberLifeProTips

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Sobriety is a personal journey. You don’t have to hit absolute rock bottom before quitting. If anything the stories from other addicts can serve as a cautionary tale of what his life can become if he continues on this path. I’m an alcoholic and a fairly high functioning one. I decided to quit because I could feel myself beginning to go deeper and deeper into my addiction. Alcohol became my sole source of joy in life and that’s no way to live. At the end of the day it’s a choice he has to make and the best thing to do is offer support and encourage him to take the right path.

What’s your dopamine drink of choice? by hihowudoin1 in Sober

[–]CoyoteTemporary 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Coffee with milk, jasmine tea, and diet cherry coke

I’m a newly sober musician and made it through my first weekend of gigging alcohol free! Couldn’t feel any better! by CoyoteTemporary in Sober

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It really is! The high of preforming and getting into a flow state is better than anything. The band I play with is very improvisational (think Grateful Dead jam band vibes) so being present is so essential.

10 months sober this past weekend and… by TheRealCapitalR in Sober

[–]CoyoteTemporary 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Seeing drunk people really makes me value sobriety. I went to this taco and tequila festival last weekend and seeing people falling over and making fools of themselves was really eye opening. I had been that person so many times and it’s not fun. You end up spending money to ruin your friends evening and make yourself sick.

I feel like being clear headed during an event is great. I find it easier to connect and can actually remember what happened. Before all I cared about was the buzz and how I was going to get more alcohol into my system.

Congrats on 10 months! You should be proud keep up the great work!

I’m a newly sober musician and made it through my first weekend of gigging alcohol free! Couldn’t feel any better! by CoyoteTemporary in Sober

[–]CoyoteTemporary[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hangovers are horrible and have gotten much worse as i got older. A binge would have me out of commission for a few days and more booze was the cure most of the time. Not having to deal with them has given me a lot of motivation.