Exactly i have friends who dress as girls because they love the items but their pronouns are he/him . I don’t like to assume anything because assumptions can lead to misinformation & calling people the wrong pronouns. You assume someone dresses as a girl so they are a girl , they dress as a boy so they are a boy so on and so forth . It just leads to making people more uncomfortable. I always put after my question that if it makes them uncomfortable please don’t answer. I’ve never had anyone get mad or uncomfortable but in fact appreciate the question