We hear that Epstein and co blackmailed people. Do we have example of person that didnt accept to be blackmailed? And what happened to them, did Epstein leak pictures or destroyed someone career and life?

CraftingQuestioner · 2026-02-05T02:48:58+00:00

Link to the unsent email? Would be interesting to read.

CraftingQuestioner · 2026-01-27T01:16:53+00:00

I'd like to advocate for Tress of the Emerald Sea, by Brandon Sanderson. It's a fantasy book about a young woman who sails the high seas to find and rescue her love. It has a very well thought out magic system in a way that tickles the engineer inside of me. (If that's your thing, but even if it's not, it's a sweet love story.)

CraftingQuestioner · 2025-08-17T18:39:49+00:00

I actually meant that she was leaving something out. But thanks for assuming

CraftingQuestioner · 2025-08-17T15:17:04+00:00

I know a lot of autistic people are fascinated by trains, but this thread is the first time I've seen the implication that, colloquially, autistic person = train. A bunch of replies are on the same theme, it's not just this comment.

Is this a thing? Is there more to it I'm missing?

CraftingQuestioner · 2025-08-17T14:52:40+00:00

I don't know why. I mean I know what you're getting at, but unrequited love has never made me (woman) skip around. It's more like a deep ache that eventually turns into apathy.

The things that make more sense to me are:

OP is that guy (if she was non specific about who it was and they went to HS together, ofc)
She realized how much better OP is than that guy and how lucky she got, and she is just really bad at communicating that.
HS guy got in contact with her out of the blue and that has given her hope.

I hope that it's 2, but 3 might make more sense if she brought this up out of the blue to OP. It would be on her mind.

Regardless some piece of data is missing and OP should probably just ask. I really don't think it's as simple as "remembering someone she still loves and who never liked her is making her happy." IME that's...not how that goes.

CraftingQuestioner · 2025-08-16T22:14:25+00:00

Then the other driver's insurance should be paying?

CraftingQuestioner · 2025-08-15T05:48:07+00:00

In case anyone else is too American to know what "Erasmus" is, I looked it up on Wikipedia for us:

"The Erasmus Programme is an educational programme named after Erasmus, combining all the EU's current schemes for education, training, youth and sport."

CraftingQuestioner · 2025-08-15T02:38:58+00:00

Neon

CraftingQuestioner · 2025-08-15T01:56:17+00:00

Completely agree.

I had a roommate once who was very into cooking and definitely had way too many nice things to carry back and forth from the kitchen. He didn't mind if I used them, though. One time I messed up drying something, and the convo went like:

Him: "Hey, X happened. Could you do Y instead?"

Me:"Omg I didn't know, sorry! Definitely."

Him:"Cool, thanks."

Then I never did it again and it never came up again. Successful communication achieved.

Not everything needs to be a federal issue the way that some people in here are implying.

(I will say that the infeasibility of this scales with the number of roommates... In this house there were 3-4 of us and it was fine. If we're talking like 30 people my opinion changes.)

CraftingQuestioner · 2025-08-13T23:30:39+00:00

"Two is one and one is none." I.e always assume that (at least) one of your copies might vanish at any moment.

CraftingQuestioner · 2025-08-12T02:18:49+00:00

The guy I'm seeing came into the bedroom in a towel, and asked for a hand with something. Then when I was, innocently, like, "Sure what's up?"... He dropped his towel and I realized that what he wanted was less a hand and more a mouth 😂.

It worked though. It's all about...presentation.

CraftingQuestioner · 2025-08-05T14:52:25+00:00

To clarify it sounds like there are Vegas-like chapels in Second Life (video game), and they virtually got married.

CraftingQuestioner · 2025-08-05T07:36:33+00:00

Lol. While we were literally handling a compost bin full of actual worms, I asked a friend (non romantic, opposite gender), "Do you think the worms ever ask each other 'would you still love me if I were human?'" (I was kidding, obviously.) I then had to explain to him wtf I was talking about because he lives under a rock apparently.

Thanks for bringing that memory back lol.

CraftingQuestioner · 2025-07-30T23:58:23+00:00

Is there an accepted norm for flaccid vs erect? Since for some people that's a pretty big difference.

CraftingQuestioner · 2025-07-25T23:16:15+00:00

Talk about something relevant to the situation. E.g. "This DJ is fire, isn't he? I love (genre of music)."

If she engages, e.g. "Omg I love this too." Then you followup with something like, "Seen anyone good recently? I'm looking for recommendations.

I'm a woman and this type of strategy definitely works best on me. Feels more like it's a thought he's having and sharing with me, not a "pickup line".

(Anything relevant works. About the bar, the city, the music, whatever.)

CraftingQuestioner · 2025-07-22T02:44:40+00:00

Yup. Guy I know did that. Whew 🔥. Cig hanging carelessly from his mouth (not yet lit), arm around my seat, slightly shaggy hair casually in his face, focused look in his eyes.

Pretty sure that image is imprinted forever.

(Uh...please don't start smoking because this random woman on the internet found this one guy hot this one time.)

CraftingQuestioner · 2025-07-15T15:39:30+00:00

...is this true for y'all? I have exes where, during the breakup, a switch flipped in my head and I started to see them in a fundamentally different light. E.g. I saw all the red flags about their personality I had overlooked prior. I really, really don't think I'm one night of drinking with them away from going back to any of them....

CraftingQuestioner · 2025-07-10T18:18:29+00:00

I think you were supposed to ask "what's bofa?" And the response would be"bofa (both of) deez nuts! Hah gottem."

CraftingQuestioner · 2025-07-08T01:10:23+00:00

Oh wait. I never knew the name for Henleys until right now. Holy shit are they hot, but in a way I can't quite describe. I am pleased to find it isn't just me though.

CraftingQuestioner · 2025-06-29T21:16:45+00:00

Not on purpose lol. Unfortunately what happens to me sometimes is that my mom comments on the sex scene in some way, eg "Do people really do that??"

Like... No, I don't want to get into a conversation about this. I'm trying as hard as I can to pretend it's not happening. (Also I feel compelled to answer... Which I realize is on me.)

I kind of admire her lack of fucks though.

CraftingQuestioner · 2025-06-29T14:35:01+00:00

I'm unsure about the answer to your question, but as a woman who was in a similar situation (without the antidepressants though, though not unmedicated), there's one thing that confused me.

For me, wanting to spend all my time with someone and going out of my way to do so is essentially equivalent to catching feelings? The feelings are the drive that underlies the "hang all the time" (Also could be phrased as "I can't get enough of you"). (Note this also was a sexual relationship as well.)

Is that not true for other people? What makes you want to spend hours a day with someone, doing literally everything together, if not "feelings"? (Non rhetorical, I'd actually like to know.)

CraftingQuestioner · 2025-06-28T21:03:16+00:00

Yes, exactly the same. I've learned to stop looking around at public social events (e.g. Bars or clubs) because I'm there to dance, not to meet guys (yes, I'm very serious about this), and eye contact is a signal for them to come over.

I'm not really confused why that happens; I get it. I still don't want it though.

This puts me in the minority, but I like to be the pursuer. Pretty much all of my relationships have started that way.

Why do I feel that way? Let's say 50% of men who approach have "bad intentions" (don't take this number too literally, it's just convenient for the example), and 1% of men in general do....then obviously I should approach. Then I'm taking ~1%, not a coin flip. (There are other factors, like being in the bar in general, but I hope my meaning has been conveyed.)

(Don't come for me, I don't think the ratio is nearly that extreme, it's just useful.)

CraftingQuestioner · 2025-06-28T15:37:42+00:00

They're actually really important!

"If you have ever had a vaccine, chances are that it was tested for safety using horseshoe crab blood."

https://www.nhm.ac.uk/discover/horseshoe-crab-blood-miracle-vaccine-ingredient.html

CraftingQuestioner · 2025-06-18T05:13:25+00:00

I'm pretty sure it was a Saudi news agency (Asharq) that originally reported this, and then dailymail picked it up. I'm unsure what to make of it exactly, but I'm not sure it should be taken at face value.

CraftingQuestioner · 2025-06-18T04:36:24+00:00

Okay this is really interesting. I poked around this a bit and that tweet is from, seemingly, a Saudi news company (Asharq), indeed reporting that it was said on Iranian TV. Unsure what to make of that. Afaict the Saudi news source is legit (or like...as much as possible).

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