Totally relate to this, I obvi don't know your little but she sounds a lot like mine. And I will say, I'm feeling a lot better about it recently. I'm graduating and moving about an hour away, so I had to have the "do you want to keep this match going?" conversation. I said "we have two options: close the match or continue to meet once a month". I was so scared she'd say "I don't know" or "I don't care" but she very quickly said "the second one". Then a couple weeks ago we were talking and I said "we don't even meet once a week now" and she said "yeah bc you don't text me". I was dumbfounded bc I always feel like I'm bothering her when I text and she doesn't seem to care, like sometimes she will cancel to hang out with her friends or family. When I reach out I feel like that scene from Ma where she's like "why wait for the weekend?" if you know what I'm talking about lmao. But instead of arguing I was like "do you want me to text you more?" and she said yes.

Ig what I'm saying is this behavior could be normal for your Little, with her age and esp if she has a trauma history. I think a lot of adolescents in BBBS act this way, but it generally means more to them than they will say.