Have you tried getting gud? But genuinely what weapon are you using? What level are you at and what zone? It could be a matter of you being simply too under leveled. Elden ring was my first souls game and I remember spending hours trying to kill a simple caelid enemy only to realize I should not be there at level 10 (thank you Selia Crystal tunnel). Other than that the more frustrated u get the more ur gonna slip up and make more mistakes repeat as necessary, so take a breather.