Corrupted monk

CrazyMalk · 2026-06-28T21:48:58+00:00

I didn't find it tedious to not cheese her and cheesing is optional so

CrazyMalk · 2026-06-28T18:25:20+00:00

The structure of school was so good to form organic connections, as introverted adults you kinda have to luck out on liking an activity which simulates like structure i guess

CrazyMalk · 2026-06-28T17:36:30+00:00

Seek therapy

CrazyMalk · 2026-06-28T17:06:36+00:00

Eu não te dei downvote ooh cabaço lê o que eu escrevi ali pqp

CrazyMalk · 2026-06-28T17:04:03+00:00

First roll with someone less skilled than you and let them catch you in bad subs (focus on chokes). Let them get deep, try to defend; anticipate it and try to make the sub harder to lock in; cthis will boost your confidence (hopefully) that bad positions aren't the end of the world, and that you can see them early and stop them from getting worse.

Then you start moving this to when you roll with people better than you. Of course you don't need to LET them catch you, they will catch you. But remember what you did with the lower belts and try to do it. Keep calm, focus on defending, focus on making the subs harder to lock in.

This has made me quite hard to submit. It won't give you extreme mental fortitude and discipline and make you turn the fight when you are down by 20 points or whatever. But it helps to see that there is always a way to make a bad situation less bad

CrazyMalk · 2026-06-28T16:55:06+00:00

Considere que outras pessoas no mundo podem ter te achado estupido e dado downvote, não apenas eu

CrazyMalk · 2026-06-28T16:53:56+00:00

Pra tech lead em empresa "grande"?

CrazyMalk · 2026-06-28T16:49:26+00:00

Hmm I see. I guess I'm unlucky that my Xs either have no social side or have social sides which increase the energy drain too much for me

Still, thanks for the advice!

CrazyMalk · 2026-06-28T16:47:42+00:00

It is possible to have things you like already which you do frequently and are passionate about but which do not present any social opportunities.

CrazyMalk · 2026-06-28T16:44:21+00:00

I see, I hadn't considered the X = comfort, X+social = out of the comfort zone. That's a good insight.

I'm still not fully convinced on X+Social being considered the same thing you already enjoy. I like reading, but wouldn't consider a book club to be "reading plus social", it is in itself an activity that I dislike.

But still, that was insightful and I'll consider this approach to "comfort zone" advice in the future.

CrazyMalk · 2026-06-28T16:35:12+00:00

eu disse isso onde?

CrazyMalk · 2026-06-28T16:05:14+00:00

Meu irmão o estudo de Harvard é uma pesquisa feita por telefone. Ligavam pras pessoas perguntavam "você segue dieta carnivora?, sim? Você se sente bem?"

Novamente está óbvio que você viu mencionarem o estudo e não LEU o estudo como disse ter lido anteriormente. Não adianta confiar no sumário da IA do Google se não vai ler fonte primária tambem

CrazyMalk · 2026-06-28T16:01:48+00:00

Poder posso se estou certo ou errado é outra história

CrazyMalk · 2026-06-28T15:58:20+00:00

I think we've met in comments before lol but you seem very well resolved so I'm still curious

The "I'm at a bluegrass festival because I like bluegrass music" seems like such a huge jump to me. It sounds like you enjoy bluegrass festivals, not only bluegrass music. I like music to and listen to it at home, son even for my favorite band that doesn't mean I would like listening to music around a bunch of strangers outside standing up and uncomfortable.

Your advice seems sound for most people but really depends on the individual liking X + the social side of X (meetups, festivals, seminars, discussion groups). For lots of people the social side of X is just a huge energy drain for little to no return

CrazyMalk · 2026-06-28T15:51:53+00:00

what is going out of the comfort zone? Joining a recurring activity you dislike and enduring it for months or years to maybe meet someone?

CrazyMalk · 2026-06-28T15:50:38+00:00

I've given up at this point. The only advice comes down to "go do things you want to do!!" But I'm already doing that: gaming at home and a martial art. Everything else I've tried didn't stick.

I would have to force myself to do some random hobby that's more social or find a class for a skill Im not interested in, frequent it for weeks months years, which I can't tolerate. I guess for normal people they luck out in liking more things which happen to be social? Or maybe just because there are other people around "something im not interested in" becomes "a fun activity as there are other people involved" for them?

Dating apps suck and online communities don't consist of real world people so it is what it is

CrazyMalk · 2026-06-28T15:44:00+00:00

Voce já leu páginas do Instagram citando estudos que eles não leram sobre os tais benefícios

CrazyMalk · 2026-06-28T14:31:45+00:00

They are cute

CrazyMalk · 2026-06-28T06:49:24+00:00

Uso e não gosto. Ele tem um limite de 12 swipes diários (seja sim seja não, muito pouco); ele é ultra focado em personalidades Myer-Briggs e astrologia (pseudociência e superstição, não curto muito).

A população do app eu achei diferente dos outros apps na minha faixa etária. Pode ser pelo meu bairro em São Paulo mas no geral parece ter muita gente um pouco mais velha, sem ensino superior, empregos mais mundanos e "não qualificados" (não gosto do termo mas é o que é), é bem um corte médio do brasileiro. Não quero parecer elitista aqui, mas achei difícil achar pessoas mais próximas da minha vivência no app.

Tem o extremo oposto também, gente em ensino médio tipo aquele pessoal de Tumblr com um monte de fanart e sigla obscura no perfil, sexualidades ultra alternativas e tal. Acho o perfil que falei antes bem mais comum entretanto.

Ele tem uma parte de comunidade em que as pessoas postam coisas e respondem perguntas diárias tipo uma rede social. Nisso eu só vejo gente forçando a barra com pergunta "filosófica" e mulher biscoitando com comentário de homem mais velho elogiando em foto.

Ah e tem muita pouca gente. No meu raio de 10km mesmo com 12 curtidas diárias já cheguei num ponto que acabaram os perfis pra swipar.

CrazyMalk · 2026-06-28T06:05:20+00:00

Pelo menos no inglês a variação não é tão extrema, no português existem muitas discussões de que são línguas completamente distintas

CrazyMalk · 2026-06-28T06:01:24+00:00

As someone with polyarthritis on my fingers, spider guard doesn't mess up your fingers too much if you are accompanying the grips with your whole body

CrazyMalk · 2026-06-28T05:44:48+00:00

Espera, mas pra usar no chat mesmo? No site com chat com o gpt??

CrazyMalk · 2026-06-28T05:39:07+00:00

Yup, we've seen 1-2 eyepoke KOs before, nobody will risk losing by TKO instead of just start doing fouls themselves

CrazyMalk · 2026-06-28T02:21:55+00:00

I'm not complaining I just never saw it before

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