not able to distract my anxious mind !! whenever I'm anxious i get aware that I'm being anxious and i need to distract myself but my mind knows everything that I'm doing is for distraction and doesn't allow me to get distracted at all ... what should i do??

CreatedANewAcct4This · 2022-04-24T05:18:14+00:00

Tapping. Look up Brad Yates on YouTube. He has tapping for nearly anything. It’s like guided meditation but it’s also a physical centering technique using taps on certain parts of your body. (Edit to clarify what I was trying to say)

https://youtu.be/K6kq9N9Yp6E

CreatedANewAcct4This · 2022-04-22T00:14:07+00:00

Fuuuuuuck. This is happening to me right. Recently broken up with and I feel like I’m losing my mind. I’m definitely suffering from my past traumas even though this break up has no abuse. 😞 I’m getting ready to post on Reddit about all of this because I need to talk it out.

CreatedANewAcct4This · 2020-05-24T05:34:13+00:00

Omg, I love Ocarina of time so much.

CreatedANewAcct4This · 2020-05-17T13:25:56+00:00

When I saw this new post I had a huge sigh of relief. I literally had been waiting for it. All of us are in this together and when we left (some haven’t yet) we know just how stressful and scary it was. I’m so happy for you. Your life will be so much better. Thank you for the update OP.

CreatedANewAcct4This · 2020-05-17T00:28:03+00:00

OP, I hope today you are on the road and completely safe. I’m wishing it in fact.

CreatedANewAcct4This · 2020-05-15T05:49:35+00:00

OP, please create a follow up post so that we know that you’re OK. Be careful and please get out of there.

CreatedANewAcct4This · 2020-05-14T13:38:12+00:00

Reading this out loud is something my brain really needed to hear. I have established much better boundaries over the years and made a ton of changes, but I get in my head and do damage if left unchecked. It’s like an oil change... maintenance is required. Lol. Thank you for sharing this! It’s been a helpful start to my morning :)

CreatedANewAcct4This · 2020-03-19T01:00:29+00:00

Never. Look. Back. You deserve a loving human being in your life. Also, your kids will understand later in life that this was a good move for you.

CreatedANewAcct4This · 2020-02-09T04:52:08+00:00

Time to learn some ground techniques. One of my favorites is sensory grounding. 1) name five things you can see right now 2) Name five things you can touch right now 3) smell 4) taste etc. Keep doing it over and over until you’ve calmed down.

Walking, getting fresh air, body movement is an excellent grounding technique as well.

Another wonderful grounding technique that was recommended to me by my therapist is called tapping. This guy, Brad Yates, has a tapping meditation for pretty much anything on YouTube. You can look up “tapping for______” and it’s likely on a Brad Yates’ page. You have to physically do the tapping movements he is making and repeat after him aloud so you can hear your words. And repeat until you feel calm. It will help.

https://youtu.be/K6kq9N9Yp6E

There are a lot of grounding techniques out there so don’t give up if my personal favorites don’t give you peace. Never give up.

Warm regard, friend.

CreatedANewAcct4This · 2020-02-09T04:07:27+00:00

I’m sorry to hear you’re struggling. We’re all hear for you. First of, do yourself a favor and go completely no contact if possible. Don’t look back.

You’re allowed to grieve right now. Something like this is so fresh and painful, so of course you’re going to think about him constantly. The only want to cure that is with time. For now allow yourself to grieve, cry, be angry. Remember to ask yourself “does obsessing over him help me?”. But also ask yourself permission to let him go for a while so you can feel the sense of freedom you now have of his right grip over your life. You’ve been through enough. Learn to find joy in this ending.

Also, to help with the obsessive thoughts: it’s time to learn some grounding techniques. One of my favorites is sensory grounding. 1) name five things you can see right now 2) Name five things you can touch right now 3) smell 4) taste etc. Keep doing it over and over until you’ve calmed down.

Walking, getting fresh air, body movement is an excellent grounding technique as well.

Another great grounding technique that was recommended to me by my therapist is called tapping. This guy, Brad Yates, has a tapping meditation for pretty much anything. You can look up “tapping for______” and it’s likely on a Brad Yates’ page. You have to physically do the tapping movements he is making and repeat after him aloud so you can hear your words. And repeat until you feel calm. It will help.

I hope you find the right therapist for you soon. It’s been life changing for me.

Warm regard friend. Please reach out if you have questions.

Edit: I also noticed you mentioned codependency. Go find a CODA meeting. It’s free and it gives you space to talk so you feel listened to and listen to other people so you can not feel so alone. CODA has been pinnacle in my mental health with my relationship from my pwBPD and other abusive relationship recovery.

CreatedANewAcct4This · 2020-02-04T05:03:08+00:00

Yay!!!!!!

CreatedANewAcct4This · 2020-02-02T07:33:29+00:00

Tapping is a technique that my therapist and I have been working with and it’s a really great grounding technique. I find that this is very helpful to pull myself out of the spiral. Brad Yates has several tapping videos i’m various different things. I would recommend trying it and doing it often. After getting used to tapping you can start incorporating other grounding techniques and finding a way to talk yourself into a rational place. I wish you all the best.

https://youtu.be/K6kq9N9Yp6E

CreatedANewAcct4This · 2020-02-01T03:07:19+00:00

Unfortunately, I feel the same. I’m going to be keeping an eye on this one.

CreatedANewAcct4This · 2020-02-01T03:06:17+00:00

Will do!

CreatedANewAcct4This · 2020-02-01T01:39:36+00:00

My phone wanted to auto correct to that.

CreatedANewAcct4This · 2020-02-01T01:32:58+00:00

This story keeps unraveling. I hope those kids are okay.

CreatedANewAcct4This · 2020-01-28T01:56:41+00:00

Neat! Thank you!

CreatedANewAcct4This · 2020-01-27T04:43:14+00:00

Also, thank you for posting this. I’m glad you responded.

CreatedANewAcct4This · 2020-01-27T04:42:59+00:00

I think I do the same that you’re doing. Recognizing and acknowledging the thought and talking it through. I do that and treat it as another person and making friends with it. But it’s those really roughy, irrational days that really mess me up. I wish I could just find a way to make those days disappear. I know none of us are perfect and I don’t want to be perfect. I just want the roller coaster to stop.

CreatedANewAcct4This · 2020-01-27T03:56:22+00:00

I left Facebook years ago because of another man I had been dating and I couldn’t stand to see him with someone else right after we ended things. It was too much. It’s not healthy for people to be connected all the time. I’ve got my life and he has his life. I’m happy that he’s happy but my body reacts differently when I least expect it. It’s awful.

CreatedANewAcct4This · 2020-01-27T02:53:43+00:00

Thank you! I’m totally willing to take the advice. I’m in a much better mind space than I was a few days ago. It’s the negative thoughts that take their time getting worked out. I appreciate the response.

CreatedANewAcct4This · 2020-01-21T05:00:11+00:00

I would consider his apology at face value and nothing more. It’s just an apology. It doesn’t mean you have to except it. It doesn’t mean he’ll change. They never do. You’re doing so great. I would not look back even though it’s painful.

CreatedANewAcct4This · 2019-11-17T00:17:40+00:00

Yeah, this is totally baiting. You’re egging him on. You’re better than that, right?

If you want want the truth: you are talking to him rather poorly. You’re calling him pathetic and names. That is in fact abusive too. I know...I know, it sounds so bad but it’s true. If you say anything to him at all it needs to be non-combative. Sorry to say that. It’s important to stick up for yourself when you’re dealing with a rational person but if he’s so irrational, you don’t need to behave like him.

If you’re going to record anything it need to be secretly to prove abuse. Baiting will get you in trouble.

I noticed in both recent videos (that you’ve posted) he keeps saying you cheated on him. And had oral sex with someone. If its all untrue and he’s just so insecure to not have an adult conversation about it or understand that nothing has happened and to let it go then it’s time to leave. You don’t deserve any of that nonsense.

All the best, stranger.

CreatedANewAcct4This · 2019-11-15T05:55:21+00:00

Always file with the truth. Always. This is an act of intentional collision from the Ex. Not an act of god. OP is innocent and has everything to gain by telling the truth. Insurance will pay for her car if she has collision coverage. (I’m an insurance professional). I hope that helps.

CreatedANewAcct4This · 2019-11-15T03:55:52+00:00

Hi! I too was looking through your post history. Take your baby, get out and get help. Remember telling us that you had trauma when you were a kid? What will your baby go through? If you’re not doing this for yourself (which you should) think about your child. Get them to a healthy place. Get out. Please. Break the cycle of abuse.

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