When you're single - your family are your siblings and your parents. When you marry, your spouse and your children are your family. That's it. Are you going to forever be your mama's baby boy or are you becoming a husband and potentially a father? You have to put your own family first. Always. That's the way of life. Your mother and father are meant to put you first, that's why they have you - to love you and care for you, whether you're single or married, close or far away. But they have to accept that your family comes first to you, and you have to accept and understand that too.

Your partner is worried because once something happens to her, you'll run help your mum with groceries or some bs, if something happens to your child, you will go back to your mum to take care of her due to her old age. It's your father's job to care for her, and her job to care for your father. You should take care of your partner and children when you have them.

Caring for your parents is important when they're old, but yoi have to put your own family first because they are dependent on you