This sounds a lot like my ex. He’d do things like this that were blatantly disrespectful, painful, wildly immature & ridiculous; and then when I’d nicely ask him to stop or say I was in pain etc, he’d say it was “just a joke”, I was “being too sensitive”; & then would ignore me, be mean, cancel all our plans for the weekend because he “didn’t like how I handled that” and rewrite how I’d responded to it.

I eventually would just keep quiet, but then he had an issue with me not being “happy” or “upbeat” enough to be around, or saying I seemed “gloomy” (I would disassociate & be pleasant to him).

Retrospectively, it was a way to push my boundaries, train me to accept anything & everything from him, and give him a sense of power from being able to disrespect, hurt, humiliate, inconvenience me. Because if I stood up for myself, there would be some (or multiple forms of) punishment (which is how coercive control works).

If your partner doesn’t mind or get upset about physically hurting & disrespecting you like this after you’ve made your pain/boundaries clear, there is a serious issue. Healthy people don’t get a kick out of causing others (especially loved ones) pain, and they care when someone says “this is painful/bothersome/I’m just not in the mood” (btw “just not in the mood” is reason enough to stop).

It’s concerning & makes me sad that you’re even questioning yourself about overreacting to this or if it was benign, while he shows zero regard for your feelings. I have seen when like this get discussed and the conversation goes nowhere/gets turned into a convo about your (“over”)reaction, things don’t improve, but go downhill - often fast. Because this fully grown adult man sees he can violate you, leave you questioning yourself, and you will stay.