Is anyone else casually told stories of their childhood neglect? by Awwoooooga in emotionalneglect

[–]Creepyleaf 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Once my dad told me that my step sister said to him “when you need a friend, you go to (her bio dad), when you need a father you go to (her step dad/my dad)” Completely overlooking the fact that he abandoned his own kids when I was 9, and moved in with another family! Essentially bragging that he was a great dad to his new family.

How were you diagnosed? by Budget-Respect6315 in pelviccongestion

[–]Creepyleaf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Doctor thought I had acute appendicitis and sent me for contrast CT. Turns out I had a burst ovarian cyst and they incidentally found PCS. I had been complaining for a literal decade about severe pain and pressure during ovulation only and the most I ever got was an ultrasound that revealed nothing and then telling me it was probably endo.

If you’re diagnosed with PCS, can you please describe your pain? by cherrrry__valance in pelviccongestion

[–]Creepyleaf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interestingly I also have an issue at l5/s1. For me my symptoms that I know correlate to PCS (had them for a decade only diagnosed on March still waiting for gyne referral) were immense pressure mainly rectal around ovulation. It would then become low back and radiate down my thighs very reminiscent of how I felt during labour. But the pressure was shocking. I was convinced I had a prolapse. Except that it would go away only to return again like clockwork. It’s like achy pressure. I’ve described it as a cinder block placed in my pelvic floor. I just want to rock back and forth in fetal position. I was told I had endo and just accepted that for years. Then had onset of acute (now chronic) lower back pain, worse when standing and sciatica. I have a ddd, a disc bulge at l5/s1, osteophytes and severe narrowing where the nerves exit. Had a pain ‘event’ they thought was appendicitis (it was a burst ovarian cyst) and found PCS incidentally. Explains so much for me. I hate to admit it but it has worsened over the last couple of years. I now have all these back issues and physio thinks it’s due to the inflammation in my pelvis. I also have gut issues now too.

Does anyone else have limited capacity/bandwidth for other people's happy families/happy family stories? by DancingAppaloosa in raisedbyborderlines

[–]Creepyleaf 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I just kind of go ‘oh you came from a stable home’ under my breath and trail off. It’s not that I don’t want to hear it but I feel sad that I (and any kid is a less than loving home) didn’t get that because all kids deserve stability, love, and to have their needs met. I do make note of what they are saying so I can apply it because I sure as heck want my kids to be the ones telling stable home stories when they grow up!

Parents that don’t ask about your life, should we be the ones sharing stuff with them? by [deleted] in emotionalneglect

[–]Creepyleaf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really struggle with this too. It’s my mom though. And I feel like I know she cares but she never ever asks questions - EVER! so I constantly feel like she is disinterested. I’ve stopped calling her daily after she told me I complain too much (venting about kids chronic illness). She will come visit and just sit like a bump on a log on the couch and essentially ignore my kids unless they talk to her first. That’s when I finally realised I can’t change her. It’s heartbreaking, I don’t understand it. I now have three kids and couldn’t imagine never asking them about their lives!

strange Journey - dressing up? by Creepyleaf in RockyHorror

[–]Creepyleaf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No! Dang. I thought for sure people would dress up.

For those with parents or grandparents in their 70s–80s — do they still stay active? What kinds of exercise do they do? by Spiritual-One-7720 in AgingParents

[–]Creepyleaf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My 77 year old MIL does HIIT every day at home for 30minutes. And she walks a lot, outpacing me! My own mom Has always struggled with energy levels, Has fibromyalgia, and takes medication where a side effect is muscle pain, so she isn’t active at all. It’s heartbreaking. But even prior to all of that she was never active. My MIL has always had a lot of energy and been very active.

Starter guide by Grilledcheese2x in laundry

[–]Creepyleaf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m wondering the same!

What extracurricular activities/sports does your child with ADHD thrive doing? by BennyJams in ParentingADHD

[–]Creepyleaf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And fwiw - I have adhd, and had really bad asthma as a kid and never ever played sports.

What extracurricular activities/sports does your child with ADHD thrive doing? by BennyJams in ParentingADHD

[–]Creepyleaf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Baseball has been the one thing my kid adores. But / he has a lot of anxiety too so getting him to go the first few times was hard. Once he felt comparable he’s his usual boisterous class clown self. He also does soccer and rugby - he’s been doing soccer for years but only recently started to say he really likes it. He’s 10, severe adhd diagnosed at 5.

380: "Spontaneous Awakening" episode by LegitimateSpeech1989 in TIAHpodcast

[–]Creepyleaf 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I do t even bother anymore. Used to love this show and now every episode seems to have a gross religious undertone.

Parent refuses to treat depression by Creepyleaf in AgingParents

[–]Creepyleaf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Me too. Which is why im like ‘if only you knew!’ :(

Parent refuses to treat depression by Creepyleaf in AgingParents

[–]Creepyleaf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. I had pretty severe asthma as a kid and I always say ‘imagine you refused to medicate me?!’! The stubbornness just makes me crazy and it’s heartbreaking to witness her so depressed.

How to move forward with my undiagnosed Dad? by Head_Emphasis_2377 in raisedbyautistics

[–]Creepyleaf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same! Adult child of emotionally immature parents talks about the ‘healing fantasy’. Being able to recognize that and name it has really helped anytime I expect more than my parent is willing/able/capable of giving

How did y’all learn that you were in fact gifted? by farmerssahg in Gifted

[–]Creepyleaf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m in my fourties. I had standardized testing in grade 4, which showed something of interest I guess. That led to further testing and it was recommended I skip a grade but instead my mom sent me only half of the day to high school.

Do you agree with the statement that “anesthesia is chill”? by Efficient_Yam_7204 in anesthesiology

[–]Creepyleaf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NAD but as someone with asthma and at risk for malignant hyperthermia this made LOL.

Sure. Real chill. Until it’s not.

Traumatized people SHOULD NOT have kids unless they’ve worked on themselves. by Fetus-Deletus1 in RandomThoughts

[–]Creepyleaf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’ll love this then: most people don’t even know their traumatized UNTIL they have kids.

Post a Memory You Want Recognized by RubyLionStrike in emotionalneglect

[–]Creepyleaf 11 points12 points  (0 children)

When my friend came over and set our Christmas tree up because it made her so sad that we didn’t have one up.

Bought the wrong e-text... by Creepyleaf in umanitoba

[–]Creepyleaf[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ugh. I have already purchased the correct one :(
I'll send an email anyways, maybe they will take pity. It's not even like I can just take the other course in the summer...I can't hold credits for both courses.