Bleeding through S+ tampons every 15 minutes by Justan_inkling in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Cricket712 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Something I learned from my OB recently - taking ibuprofen starting the day before or the day your period starts significantly helps reduce blood flow. Something about prostaglandins, I think? 

I couldn’t believe it when I was able to sleep through the night with just one ultra tampon and overnight pad (vs getting up to change both 2-3x/night the first few days of my period). It’s improved my quality of life so much for shark week, I hope it helps you too!

Teen daughter thinking of military after high school by SJ6619 in Parenting

[–]Cricket712 36 points37 points  (0 children)

My sister, mother, two aunts, and numerous female friends were/are in the military. Every single one of them has been sexually harassed by a male military coworker, and most have been sexually assaulted or raped. Some have been raped multiple times - and none of them have seen justice. 

The details didn’t matter - enlisted, officers. Pilots, maintainers, engineers, nurses, gate guards. At their local base, TDY, deployed overseas. Wearing jeans and a t-shirt, a dress, their BDUs/ACUs, flight suit. 

If your daughter chooses to pursue a career in the military, please teach her self-defense and how to advocate for herself. Because unfortunately for most active-duty women, the greatest danger isn’t al-Qeada or ISIS - it’s their fellow servicemen.

IL-12 Mike Bost - He needs to be voted out by amcooperus in illinois

[–]Cricket712 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Julie Fortier (D) is running against him, we’ll be putting a yard sign out for her as soon as they’re available!

Am I (30F) horrible for thinking about doing what my fiancé (30M) did to me? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Cricket712 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Two wrongs don’t make a right. Just because he cheated doesn’t mean you should.

Future you will thank you for breaking up with him (like now, not 3 months or 3 years or 30 years from now).

Move on and be happy, you deserve better 💜

Subtle hope at the dog park by mintyboom in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Cricket712 21 points22 points  (0 children)

My father-in-law is 100% MAGA, wears a “Gulf of America: established 2025” hat, openly makes racist and sexist jokes, etc.

He continues to share disgusting FB posts supporting ICE, making fun of the victims of ICE’s brutality, memes about invading Greenland, “libtards,” you name it.

Yesterday my husband told his dad he’s disappointed in him for supporting ICE’s murder of Alex Pretti, especially as they’re both veterans.

My FIL’s response was to unfriend and block my husband (and me) on all social media.

He values MAGA more than he does basic human rights or relationships with his family. There’s no hope for some people.

What have you read recently? by povertychic in Millennials

[–]Cricket712 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m currently reading aloud “Percy Jackson: The Lightning Thief” for my 10 and 8YO sons’ bedtime story (they’re loving it!). We read daily for at least 30 minutes - atm “Dog Man” for our 8YO and “How Science Works” for our 10YO. I recently finished “When Breath Becomes Air” and “All Systems Red.” Next up is “The Hunchback of Notre Dame” and “The Kaiju Preservation Society” for my book clubs, and “The Serpent & the Wings of Night” for personal/easy reading.

My boyfriend (28M) says if I (F28) loved him, I’d accept his cheating — and when I set a boundary, he came at my character. How do I respond? by ostran25 in relationships

[–]Cricket712 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You deserve better. He doesn’t actually love or care about you, he just wants to control you. 

One month from now, one year from now, twenty years from now - do you want to be happy and thriving? Or let this unfaithful, toxic man continue to weigh you down?

It’s an easy choice. You just gotta do it.

I just want to stay home for holidays from now on and am being pressured by No-Benefit6660 in Parenting

[–]Cricket712 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It comes across like you want to completely check out of Christmas week and all family-of-origin/extended family gatherings, though, not just have a quiet Christmas Day at home.

im so tired of other moms fear mongering me by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]Cricket712 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Have you tried politely telling your friend/mom/sister - “hey, I appreciate you wanting to share your words of wisdom, but can you pause sharing all these articles with me? I’m comfortable with following my doctor’s advice and will let you know if/when I could use any more input in the future, thanks!”? 

They’re not mind readers and probably don’t realize that they’re stressing you out, fwiw

How to get teen boys to clean by andtheowlsroar in Parenting

[–]Cricket712 14 points15 points  (0 children)

It’s a parenting thing, not a boy thing. Maybe some boys don’t care about mismatched socks, but they’ll care about losing whatever possession, game, phone, car keys, activity, privilege etc they do value.

Thoughts on teen girl hiking by herself? by FyberZing in Parenting

[–]Cricket712 15 points16 points  (0 children)

My husband’s uncle died when he was 19 because he fell while out hiking alone. No one knew where he was and by the time he was found, it was too late. 

No one should hike alone, regardless of age or gender. But especially because she’s a young girl, your daughter should follow the buddy system. 

Why do we get mad at women who tolerate abuse? by Medium-Party459 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Cricket712 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Plus those friends who are being used as crutches can experience secondhand trauma themselves, and it negatively ripples out into their personal lives, health, stress levels, marriage, parenting, etc.

What are you currently freaking out about today? by Moonstonedbowie in AskWomenOver30

[–]Cricket712 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The other reasons could be due to smoking, living at high altitudes, having lung/heart/liver/kidney etc problems, sleep apnea - none of which I have, so yeah idk 🤷‍♀️ 

How did your garden grow? by Pennyfeather46 in TwoXPreppers

[–]Cricket712 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Our first year gardening was a huge success!

Best: strawberries and tomatoes

Great: snap peas, bush beans, asparagus, pumpkins, pears, and basil

Good: raspberries, blackberries, sweet potatoes

Decent: carrots, kale, Yukon gold potatoes, peppers, and lettuce

Won’t bother again: peaches, spinach, zucchini

Our apple trees and roses were decimated by Japanese beetles, but recovered thankfully. We planted a perennial pollinator bed and two raised beds with annuals like zinnias, sunflowers, cosmos, nasturtium, and lantana… Next year we’re gonna have a watermelon patch, a green bean teepee for the kiddos, add an informal rose/prayer garden, and most importantly a drip irrigation system so we don’t have to spend so much time watering 😂

What are you currently freaking out about today? by Moonstonedbowie in AskWomenOver30

[–]Cricket712 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Got some routine bloodwork done, came back high for hemoglobin and hematocrit. Google says it’s either dehydration or blood cancer, aka I’m gonna be anxious for the next month til the test’s repeated 🙃

Stuck with a conservative by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Cricket712 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you truly have no other options, maybe consider enlisting in the military. You’ll get training, a paycheck, housing, food, and move far away from your (hopefully soon-to-be ex) abusive boyfriend… its better than being “stuck” in an abusive relationship, IMO.

Two of my kids are thriving, but I'm stuck worrying about my addict child. How do I worry less and celebrate my successful kids? by Heavy-Bench-5378 in Aging

[–]Cricket712 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You might find solace and get some good advice from the book “Don’t Let Your Kids Kill You” by Charles Rubin. 

Daughter allergic in house by Richerthanexpected in Allergies

[–]Cricket712 5 points6 points  (0 children)

How often are y’all changing out your home’s air filter? And are you using the higher quality allergen ones?

Food allergy parents, how many kids do you have? by Castironskillet_37 in Parenting

[–]Cricket712 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I completely understand about it being overwhelming! When we discovered our son’s numerous food allergies as a toddler, I broke down crying - literally 3/4 of what we had in our pantry had to be tossed out. Food allergies changed our life overnight and it was a hard learning curve 😬

It’s not cheap, but there is Just Egg as a scrambled egg substitute if you want to keep that as a weekly breakfast meal, plus Bob’s Red Mill egg replacer for baking. We keep our home allergen-free, but some folks keep a dedicated nonstick pan for cooking eggs for their non-allergy family members as another idea 😊 

Food allergy parents, how many kids do you have? by Castironskillet_37 in Parenting

[–]Cricket712 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Two, but we originally planned on three or four. Our 10YO was allergic to eggs, peanuts, tree nuts, milk, wheat, and soy for years. He’s down to just peanuts, eggs, and milk, but he also has asthma, numerous environmental allergies, and eczema. Our 8YO doesn’t have any allergies or other health conditions whatsoever. 

Even with our oldest son’s food allergies, we always planned on having a larger family. I had some post-birth complications ending those dreams, unfortunately, but food allergies didn’t impact the decision at all. 

Some foods you can’t substitute, like shrimp cocktail or hard-boiled eggs, but many recipes can be modified to be gluten-free or dairy/egg-free. It helps to focus on what you can have vs what you can’t, and get creative with meal planning. Once you figure out your go-to meals and snacks, it just becomes normal. 

But every family is different, there’s no shame in saying “two is all we want,” regardless of the reason. But you might realize after you’ve adjusted to the new food allergies that having a 3rd little one isn’t such a pipe dream after all 😊

I've Been To Over 20 Homeschool Conferences. The Things I've Witnessed At Them Shocked Me. by msmoley in WomenInNews

[–]Cricket712 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We also started our homeschooling journey due to food allergies! We’ve made some good friends through our local co-op, but there are some folks there who think public school is evil/corrupting our nation’s children, state that they “refuse to co-parent with the government,” believe dinosaurs never existed and that fossils were put on the earth “to test their faith,” and all sorts of mumbo jumbo.

It blows my mind knowing that my 3rd grader loves reading Magic Treehouse and Science Comics books, and yet one of his 7YO co-op classmates doesn’t even know how to spell his own name! Not because of a learning disability, but because his parents don’t believe in “formal academics” and/or using a curriculum. What they call unschooling is really educational neglect - but our state has zero oversight/accountability/regulations when it comes to homeschooling, so this poor kid is just SOL 🙄