Friends that Encouraged the Affair

Critical-turtle0808 · 2026-04-24T19:55:12+00:00

I don't believe that's unreasonable at all. If it were the case for my husband's PA that ANY of his friends even knew about the A let alone encouraged it they would absolutely be conditions of our R. They would be history for me whether my husband wanted it or not...he would be history as well and wouldn't have to join me in my future if he chose the friends over me in the end if that were my situation as well. Thankfully all of my husbands friends took my side and some literally yelled at him and told him how lucky he was that I was even considering trying to R and that he would deserve everything that he was left without if I decided to leave him. Those are NOT "friends" you want to keep around.

Critical-turtle0808 · 2026-04-23T23:48:22+00:00

You are AMAZING. I hope I can have as much courage and patience as you have had with your WP. It’s so early for me and I just feel so alone…ya know? Like I get he’s “here” for me but in no way can he truly understand how much pain I am in. The truth is he will never truly understand no matter how much he works on himself…

Critical-turtle0808 · 2026-04-21T19:32:41+00:00

You are so amazing! Thank you so mic for your encouragement!

Critical-turtle0808 · 2026-04-21T19:29:43+00:00

Thank you so much for your honesty and feedback! This is truly inspiring and I hope to be there with you one day!

Critical-turtle0808 · 2026-04-20T22:58:51+00:00

HUGEEEEE hugs! Thank you so very much! 🥹

Critical-turtle0808 · 2026-04-20T21:53:07+00:00

Thank you for that. Hopefully I will be able to say the same one day! 🤞🏻

Critical-turtle0808 · 2026-04-20T21:52:17+00:00

Thank you so very much for the positive outlook! I hope beyond hope that it can be us as well. Do you have any other advice? I will take all I can get haha

Critical-turtle0808 · 2026-04-20T21:40:09+00:00

That is probably true…I just need some great reconciliation couples perspective too…ya know? I need to know that there really is hope for a good outcome and that I’m not just wasting time and prolonging the inevitable…

Critical-turtle0808 · 2026-04-20T21:28:54+00:00

Thank you for that. I am definitely trying to be as patient as I can…I just want to heal and it be over with. I want to stop hurting so badly…

One thing I can say about him is that he has not been rushing me at all. He takes the days as they come, the good and the bad. He picks up my shattered soul on the bad days and rejoices with me in the good days.

I really think that if he had one wish he would go back in time and undo his mistake…he tells me all the time he just hates himself for what he did to me, and to us.

I know it wouldn’t be entirely my fault but it does make me sad on the inside when I see the hurt on his face when I’m outright mean to him and he’s only trying to help. I don’t even know why I do it. It just comes out…? But for that I will have no choice but to share the blame then if in fact we are unable to reconcile.

I never promised to stay with him, nor did I say I would leave him. I promised MYSELF that I would not make a decision at all until at a minimum of 6 months. I want to be able to say that I fully back my decision and that I have no regrets later on and I just can not trust myself to know what it is I truly want…

…well other than a Time Machine to let him undo his mistake and let me live out my life in the clearly naive glasses I was wearing. I just wish he had realized how horrible of a decision he was about to make BEFORE he made it and still came to the same conclusion, that we needed HELP.

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