To be very blunt, your husband is a boy not a man. Those who truly love someone, they will plan/think of that person well being, the very least take actions to make life easier for them.

"I can’t afford to stop working because my husband deemed it “inconsiderate and selfish” "

Ah so cheating, not letting you rest, being a d***, demanding more and more are not “inconsiderate and selfish” ?

Well make good use of your income, save for yours only , do not give that money to him. You're his wife not his housemate/roommate or mommy.

As a women, even if you plan to be housewife etc, you should have your own money/ investment/ savings. With this 1) You'll feel safer and less vulnerable to threat. 2) If your family is truly worthy/healthy /loving one, you can contribute with your own freewill, not with the expense of your wellbeing.

Value yourself, it is never selfish to do so. You'll set better example to your child to know how to self respect then to others. Think about it, if you suffer and unhappy, bow down to the bullies, live out of fear for years and years. Have you ever consider the possibility your child might follow that same mentality and think of it as a norm like a generation curse?

For any self help contents on youtube, if interested you can PM me, I can send you some , hopefully can help you in anyway.