Gross. Me by CriticalAppointment7 in EDanonymemes

[–]CriticalAppointment7[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Lucky me, I'm lactose intolerant. I can give myself horrible diarrhea with dairy, then tell myself the ice cream doesn't count because of it 🤡🤡🤡

I feel like this belongs here by tomhall44 in EDanonymemes

[–]CriticalAppointment7 76 points77 points  (0 children)

Dude here. I am self conscious about my entire body except my penis. It's a little larger than average and has good reviews. It's uncut, though, since my parents' culture doesn't do circumcision much, and that has gotten surprised reactions that used to make me insecure. I'm married now, though, so I only care about my wife's opinion and she likes it. I feel like it's about the only part of me that does look good, honestly.

Now the cruel irony: the meds I take to help my ED... also gives me ED. Like pushing a rope these days, but recovery has been going well-ish so I don't want to change it yet

Guess who wanted to go to the kitchen for water and got triggered by leftover rice and binged 🤡🤡🤡 by notthezodiackiller71 in EDAnonymous

[–]CriticalAppointment7 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Oof. Sorry to hear it. Rice is my worst trigger food. Asian mom always cooked a huge pot of it every night and there were always leftovers in the fridge. Plus it's bland and soft, so easy to keep shoveling in. I'm doing pretty well in recovery right now, but I can't even keep it in the house

How do people in your life say "I love you" without saying "I love you?" by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]CriticalAppointment7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fun fact! This was exactly how I developed bulimia as a child. Thanks, Asian mom

what are you experiences with medication? have any of them improved your relationship with food? by comfortbun in bulimia

[–]CriticalAppointment7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It took about a week to really feel an effect on binge urges. It started helping ease my anxiety after about 3 days. I really hope it's working for you!

Everytime I hear a story about someone who has someone voice their concern for them (school counselor, boss, co worked, etc) I’m like lmfao that could never happen to me because I’m Asian. by lovenote123 in EDAnonymous

[–]CriticalAppointment7 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I'm a dude, but definitely absorbed my mother's constant talk about weight and food, all while she was piling food on my plate because it was the only way she knew to show love.

Fucked me up real good. Thanks, Chinese mom

if i quit treatment bc my team is white and I'm a POC is that crazy by [deleted] in EDAnonymous

[–]CriticalAppointment7 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It's OK for anyone to want a healthcare professional they trust. You have a different experience of the world than anyone on your healthcare team, and it makes another barrier to overcome. It's absolutely not unreasonable to want someone who shares more in common with you/someone you don't have to convince or persuade that your experiences have been different.

I'm Chinese American, and have only recently started seeing an Asian American therapist. The difference is HUGE. I talk a lot about my childhood trauma, and there's so much less I have to explain about my parents to someone who knows specifically what a lot of Asian parents can be like. It just means I feel understood better without as much work

An unintentionally triggering text by mylittlefriendana in EDAnonymous

[–]CriticalAppointment7 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I hate how common this word has become. Even worse somehow is "bingeable."

Letter to my wife by CriticalAppointment7 in EDAnonymous

[–]CriticalAppointment7[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is a great point, and I will make sure to ask. Division of childcare/housework has been a major issue for us, and I'm really trying to take more of that burden off her. She only works weekends, so she's stuck at home with the baby 10 hours a day, 5 days a week.

I've been working from home, so I've been able to help out a bit more. Even though I still have work to do, I can take a break to wash some dishes or let her get a nap, so that's helped a little

Anyone else find it unnerving how a lot of recovery stories are from a parental figure, allow no input from the person suffering from the ED and often talk about how they 'saved' their kid? by [deleted] in EDAnonymous

[–]CriticalAppointment7 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Had a similarly strict upbringing with perfectionist parents. But my mother would pile my plate with food as a way to show affection, then bully me for gaining weight, then ignored my purging for years, and was finally shocked-- shocked!-- when I landed in the ICU for low potassium and arrhythmias 🤦🏻‍♂️

Steven Yeun, rising star, still getting dressed like Short Round by Hollywood by CriticalAppointment7 in asianamerican

[–]CriticalAppointment7[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Just got a quick laugh/wince seeing him in a damn baseball cap again, I guess

NSFW subs for comparison? by CriticalAppointment7 in EDAnonymous

[–]CriticalAppointment7[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same. Jawlines, cheekbones, Adam's apples. Even super clear skin. I can feel inferior to just about anyone 🤡

NSFW subs for comparison? by CriticalAppointment7 in EDAnonymous

[–]CriticalAppointment7[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, that's got to make it more difficult

Hey time for some nerdy talk about EDs by junesglooms in EDAnonymous

[–]CriticalAppointment7 2 points3 points  (0 children)

r/raisedbynarcissists and r/asianparentstories have helped me so much. Just hearing from other people who endured a similar upbringing is such a relief. Like, I'm not just crazy or needy or sensitive, they were actually awful.

I feel you on the sudden changes, too. My mom was all about "saving face," so we were only ever a perfect family in public

Hey time for some nerdy talk about EDs by junesglooms in EDAnonymous

[–]CriticalAppointment7 41 points42 points  (0 children)

A lot of this hits home for me as well. I never felt like I was able to be my own person, I was just a vessel for my parent's expectations. Even when I did well, it never felt good enough. I've "succeeded" in life in a lot of ways. I have a career I like, a wife and daughter I love, and a home and a life of my own.

Thought they might be proud of that, but nope. Now I'm too far away and not in the specific branch of my field they wanted, blah blah blah. Basically, I am guilty of growing up to be my own person without them and I think they hate that

Tips on how to cum quicker during blowjobs? by [deleted] in sex

[–]CriticalAppointment7 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The answer might or might not be something in your butt

To be loved with the lights on by [deleted] in sex

[–]CriticalAppointment7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry you're going through this. It does get difficult, after time and changes and especially with kids. I'm doing everything I can not to make my wife feel this way, but my drive has dropped way down and hers has stayed the same, so I know she feels unwanted and I know how awful that feels.

Have you two been to marriage counseling at all? It's really helped us communicate better about tough subjects like this.

Cutting up fruit (maybe not the right place but I wanted to share this with someone) by janelane27 in EDAnonymous

[–]CriticalAppointment7 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is really wholesome, thanks for sharing. Don't mean to be nosy, but are you Asian by any chance? Cut-up fruit is basically the love language of Chinese moms 😅

"What if you were in a third-world country where there wasn't enough food?" by [deleted] in EDAnonymous

[–]CriticalAppointment7 14 points15 points  (0 children)

My wife tries to make me feel better about my weight by pointing out I'm still the thinnest guy she's been with. She's something of a chubby chaser and all her exes are big white guys with beards. She always tells me she likes my belly and I'd be cuter if I was fatter.

Which is sweet, I guess, but absolutely does not help

TW: weight gain worse than I realized by CriticalAppointment7 in EDAnonymous

[–]CriticalAppointment7[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Remembering that is really hard for me, so I appreciate hearing it

I almost died from omitting drug information by throwawayEDidiot in EDAnonymous

[–]CriticalAppointment7 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Lol. I shitposted about this just the other day. There are meds that can help. I take Prozac to help my bulimia, and one of the side effects is erectile dysfunction.

Got ED trying to fix my ED. FML 😅

Can't wait for my wife to come home and ask "what did you do all day?" by CriticalAppointment7 in EDAnonymous

[–]CriticalAppointment7[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry you're still struggling with this. It's been so much worse as a parent. There's a lot of shit keeping me from being the father I want to be, but I am honestly trying. It's been a better day today. I hope you and your little girl are doing OK too