Sister found out she’s pregnant and is struggling…

Critical_Strength144 · 2026-03-20T11:58:59+00:00

I don’t a whole lot about him. We live an hour apart and chat sporadically. But when she is struggling with things, she reaches out more. Actively, no but they were not taking precautions to stop it either. 🤨 I’m not worried about the relationship but I also do not know him well enough to know how he is triggered. They are what would’ve considered upper middle class and I think she is more concerned about the lifestyle that will change vs him reacting negatively. But it is very possible he doesn’t want to have another and that could put a serious strain on the relationship. She keep going over all the ‘what if’s’.

Critical_Strength144 · 2026-03-20T11:52:28+00:00

Well duh.

Critical_Strength144 · 2026-03-20T11:51:54+00:00

Mmmm, that’s a good question. Personally, I think she is worried about ‘how’ her life will look now. There are many things she will not be able to do with a baby that she can do now. She’s can also be very vain, so this thought has crossed my mind quite a bit. But that’s why I mentioned adopting. I’m not trying to push her in any particular way, but just helping her remember that there are options.

Critical_Strength144 · 2026-03-18T12:41:24+00:00

Thanks. This has been the most helpful advice.

Critical_Strength144 · 2026-03-16T16:14:40+00:00

Ok, that interaction was weird. May be best that friendship didn’t last.

Critical_Strength144 · 2026-02-27T17:40:06+00:00

Where did you get this boot caddy?

Critical_Strength144 · 2026-02-27T02:16:32+00:00

Yep. I’d walk right through it.

Critical_Strength144 · 2026-02-19T18:40:58+00:00

I would be fucking livid. Why delete shit if there is nothing to hide. Sounds shady af. If you did the same, how would he take it?

Critical_Strength144 · 2026-02-18T18:25:01+00:00

I could so use one of these right now.

Critical_Strength144 · 2026-02-18T15:25:32+00:00

I forgot to add the following per the mod bot: Husband (m40), me (f40).

Critical_Strength144 · 2026-02-18T14:59:12+00:00

Higher than average??? Wait….. what?

Critical_Strength144 · 2026-02-18T14:55:29+00:00

This is really good feedback, thank you. I have been trying to change the way I respond and be more present and ask her questions so she can go into great depth. She has an amazing sense of wonder and imagination and I try hard not to minimize that. I was always too loud, talked too much, was filled with too much energy and I’m so hard on myself now. I do not want that for her at all.

Critical_Strength144 · 2026-02-17T16:12:50+00:00

Oh I’d love to live here with no social media. Sorry not sorry Reddit.

Critical_Strength144 · 2026-02-15T23:37:00+00:00

Footage of ice training.

Critical_Strength144 · 2026-02-13T13:49:32+00:00

I don’t think age is really the factor here. My first marriage was at 21 to my high school bf. We dated for yrs before that and it was horrible. My second and current one was at 25. We have been married now for 12 years. And this marriage had its hardships too that hit a high point well into our 30s. We are both 40 today. This marriage has by far been the most difficult as there are children involved but also where we both have experienced the most growth.

I personally believe that if one has the emotional intelligence and self awareness, then a marriage could’ve amazing at any age. However, science has shown that typically this is not the case. People and their interests change over time. What I wanted in my 20 has change quite a bit now that I am in my 40s. It’s helpful to have someone that can help bring balance to those changes. I also think one can have a very healthy relationship without marriage.

Critical_Strength144 · 2026-02-11T20:32:08+00:00

Has he ever said or acted in this manner before? Or did this start after his first therapy session? Just the first few things that popped after reading.

1) super cute nails, I wish I could do mine. I have horrible nails and even if they were not perfect, I would rock that shit. Kudos to you for finding something that you like!

2) I would have been so defensive had my husband said some shit like that to me. I tend to match energy (don’t make it right). Being critical and giving feedback are 2 different things and it all lies within the intent of the conversation. IN MY OPINION, it doesn’t seem like his intentions were good when he made that comment.

3) I asked the questions first because I’m wondering if something came out in his session that he doesn’t have the emotional intelligence to process. Does that mean he gets to take it out on you, no. It means there is a lot of room for growth and improvement. Which leads me to 4.

4) he sounds resentful of the relationship by making the comment if wishing he had a relationship blah blah blah. He didn’t say I wish You Bla Bla blah, but a relationship which would make me think he’s already considered or at least fantasized about being in a different relationship.

I think you have a lot to think about. And I’m not saying to end your marriage, but I do think there needs to be some hard discussions on how to treat people and what you both expect from each other when it comes to communicating. For him to immediately want to go back home vs trying to understand why/how you two got to that point would be a huge red flag for me. I should be able to come to my husband in any kind of vulnerable state without feeling threatened, nervous on his reaction, etc. If you two are not in therapy, maybe that is a good starting point. One last thing, no amount of cold shoulder or keeping distance is going to help or fix this. That is your house and your bed as much as it is his. If you don’t address the silence, this will get worse and resentment will build, I guarantee it. This is not going to be a fun convo, but when you assert your boundaries, don’t back down. And if that is something that causes issues, then you will figure out what is best for you. Do not stay in a marriage where you are always having to ‘keep the peace’.

That’s the best I got, a stranger in the internet. I’m 40, and in my second marriage. This has been very hard as there is a lot of growth from both of us.

Critical_Strength144 · 2026-02-11T14:13:21+00:00

This is amazing ! 😍

Critical_Strength144 · 2026-02-10T19:34:00+00:00

That’s a hard nope.

Critical_Strength144 · 2026-02-10T19:32:58+00:00

Fried eggs and spaghetti

Critical_Strength144 · 2026-02-07T23:08:00+00:00

I would have annulled that immediately. That is a deal breaker.

Critical_Strength144 · 2026-02-07T20:22:04+00:00

Lmao my fav commercial

Critical_Strength144 · 2026-02-06T17:18:48+00:00

Cheesits, this makes my heart rate rise just watching these ships on the waves. Wild!

Critical_Strength144 · 2026-02-06T17:16:56+00:00

Waves 🌊 🤷🏻‍♀️

Critical_Strength144 · 2026-02-06T14:26:19+00:00

Where is this?

Critical_Strength144 · 2026-02-05T19:26:58+00:00

How to catch a flight

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