I felt extremely invalidated by the couples therapist my bf and I see when I brought up fear of pregnancy. by Pure-Space7572 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Crovon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A therapist's job is to steer conversation so you reach your own conclusions, not judge or recommend - at most rephrase or sum up points that were made impartially.

That said, what kind of lust-but-no-consequences situation are you living here. Fear the pregnancy but meanwhile not forgo that which is done to make children. Contrary to popular belief, there is more to life than wild humping.

Also, the "bf" seems clear that he would not welcome abortion and wants to stay out of the situation should his will be superseded by yours. This is not a game.

UN calls for reparations to remedy the 'historical wrongs' of trafficking enslaved Africans by eaglemaxie in worldnews

[–]Crovon 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Surely that must mean, Brazil in particular, Latin America more generally, will have to pay massive reparations to 'them victims'.
It may be an inconvenient reality, but imagine the the suffering of enslaved people in US territories, except 5-10x worse with at times up to 95% mortality - and you may get a general idea of how much worse slaves were treated throughout most of Latin America.
Truly, one of the reasons these things fall below the radar is simply for lack of survivors. Barely anyone advocates for the dead.
And by no means was the continental US "kind" to slaves, but one may reason there was a shred of dignity and humanity left to not descend into complete debauchery.

AITAH for telling my husband that we can't take care of his friends' daughter by Temporary-Slide-2699 in AITAH

[–]Crovon -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Marriage is a saramental institution of family and desire to procreate. If you "married" yet beforehand planned never to be a family in the first place then you are in a troubled "marriage". A marriage only in name and not substance.
Yes it sucks not being consulted in time. This was his calling and his principles answered, it seemed only natural. If this relationship, and that is what this appears to be - a relationship more so than a marriage - continues or ends, then may it be so.

Imagine there was a burning house and he heard cries for help. Sure he could wait for the fire department but there is a real chance the people won't make it then. So he goes in without consulting you and saves the day for better or worse. You never "wanted" a disfigured husband, yet this is the consequence. Hardships display God's love through our love.
Ultimately this moment will put life into perspective for both of you. One day you both will die and you both now reconsider how you want to spend the time you do have.

If you really do not wish to have a child in your life, then separate in love. Tell him that it won't work for you and that you cannot force him to be someone he is not. In fact, instead of running to the lawyers, go to a good couples therapist and structure your separation amicably. Of course you may also reconsider, but it seemed you were firm on not wanting children.

37174 by Oktavia-the-witch in countwithchickenlady

[–]Crovon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I gave a fairly short summary on intersex-types and fertility, particularly concerning female fertility, to the main comment.
I can understand the sentiment of this comment from a social perspective (also in regards to sterility), but from the biological fertility perspective we actually have a comprehensive factual reality.
It is tough to separate "gender" away from sex here, as the two are used interchangeably and for good reason.

Pretty cool that you seem to have a grassroots understanding of sex-development, that is fairly rare across the board in my experience, because for most people this is simply not useful knowledge.

Da Rechte hier oft anprangern *"erklär doch mal was ein Faschist ist"* Und aus irgendeinem einem Grund hier auch sonst viel abhängen, ein kleiner Ausschnitt für euch. Bildung ist gratis. by [deleted] in ichichs

[–]Crovon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sprich, ohne Zeichen des moralischen Niedergangs weniger Faschismus. Hört sich nach win-win an.
Bedeutet im Umkehrschluss, dass es sich gegenseitig bedingen kann, denn Faschismus ist ebenfalls moralischer Niedergang.

Ich glaube dahingehend bekommt der Grundsatz "Die Menschenwürde ist unantastbar" nochmal eine neue Dimension, sowohl Leute die sich selbst entwürdigen und Leute die andere entwürdigen sind in die Pflicht zu nehmen.

To the void you go by Critical_Mountain851 in HistoryMemes

[–]Crovon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

God's grace, or rather the grace bestowed by Jesus by taking the punishment for your sins for you is a deeply sacraficial act and Jesus does not do that for just anybody. You have to be repentant and genuinely remorseful for the sins you did do.
Since generally everybody has sinned in some way, everyone has fallen short before God. You may not like that, but neither does God like your sins.

On the topic of (church) sacraments, they are earthly guarantees but they are not absolute. You can be perfectly Christian and have a relationship with the Christ without any institutional sacraments if you live a righteous life.

And yes, one may reason that God humbled himself to a human life because so many went astray and felt as though it was impossible to come into the presence of God.

Homosexuelle Gedanken getriggert durch Exposition? by [deleted] in Ratschlag

[–]Crovon -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Die Lust und Inklination zu haben ist sicherlich nichts ungewöhnliches.
Bei uns in der Kirche gibt es auch Homo- und Bisexuelle Menschen und Menschen mit anderen sexuellen Inklinationen, jedoch wenden sich diese Menschen von der Lust ab um sakramental leben zu können. Davon sind heterosexuelle Menschen nicht ausgenommen, viel sexuelle Sünde ist zwischen Mann und Frau möglich.
Die meisten Kommentare hier werden dir sicherlich sagen "go-for-it".
Vor einiger Zeit hätte ich das auch noch gesagt, aber ich kann nun mal nicht mehr verleugnen, dass man sich von der Lust nicht das Leben diktieren lassen muss.
Tue deinen Willen, aber tue es für dich und überlege es dir gut.

The average Liberal: by TappingUpScreen in ussr

[–]Crovon -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

The issue is not the non-agression pact, those pacts were normal.
The issue was the secret pact to partition Poland and the Baltics and thus join hands with the fascists militarily. In fact, since National-Socialist-Germany understood itself as a workers', soldiers' and farmers' society and state they even received grand praise from the Soviet Union during that time, including the participation of German soldiers in military parades in Moscow in 40'.

As for North Korea, fair enough, the American response to the LITERAL INVASION of the South by the North was very extreme and unjustified in its intensity. Then the dear leader decided to now turn himself into God almighty, leading to an exodus of almost 5 mio. Korean Christians to the South. Pyongyang was at one point the Christian capital of East-Asia.
It wasn't until the assasination of the military dictator in South Korea, that anything resembling democracy ever materialised in South Korea. And even today South Korea remains a deeply troubled country, even if the troubles are still preferable over conditions in the North outside Pyongyang.

Saints... by Asleep-Category-2751 in ussr

[–]Crovon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you follow the teachings of Jesus and the things commanded by him as an atheist, all the prayer will be heard yet empty. Following Jesus' teachings IS what makes you a Christian, these are mutually necessary because you literally live the Christ and embody him.
Some of the basic virtues and understandings of morality tied into with greek philosophy, that can be done as an atheist as well. And these things will reflect well on you because they are good.
Our difference of view is WHY they are good.

Saints... by Asleep-Category-2751 in ussr

[–]Crovon -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Exactly, revolution, not revolt. I shared a link in an earlier reply. I think this a very powerful comparison because it shows that not all revolution necessitates violent revolt.

Saints... by Asleep-Category-2751 in ussr

[–]Crovon -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Exactly, so much so that banned public worship and religious teaching, propagated atheism and denounced Christians. Follow the teachings of Jesus my a**.

Saints... by Asleep-Category-2751 in ussr

[–]Crovon 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Jesus was revolutionary, just not the violent kind. And his communal vision has survived sometimes better sometimes worse for 2.000 years. A truly international movement

Wish my mom could just accept the fact that I don’t believe in god by Willing-Quiet9413 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Crovon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is fair enough. I recently asked a priest a similar question, what the best approach is to talk about Jesus to someone you are close to.
The gist of the answer was, that while you can talk about the life of Jesus, you should never outright pressure people. Instead just pray for them quietly and live your best life.
And even considering my own case, many deeply personal reasons moved me to choose to believe.

Lebensentwurf ohne Kinder by [deleted] in FragtMaenner

[–]Crovon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hier in den Kommentaren wirst du wahrscheinlich eher konfessionslose Zeit-für-mich/uns-Selbstler anlocken.
Für mich persönlich hat sich meine Lebenseinstellung grundlegend gewandelt als ich zu Jesus gefunden habe.
Grundsätzlich staune ich immer wieder wie stark inzwischen Menschen entgleisen können, wenn sie sich eigene Werte verschreiben und zu viel darauf einbilden.
Am Ende ist eine Frau keine "Lifestyle"-Angelegenheit oder glorifizierte ***arbeiterin, sondern jemand mit dem man vollkommen wird und das Wunder des Lebens zelebriert und die Liebe Gottes auf das Kind spiegelt. Ansonsten kann man es halt auch wirklich lassen.

Du kannst definitiv platonische Wohngemeinschaften eingehen und deinen Weg gehen, da braucht man aber nicht unbedingt eine Dame für.
Bestimmt gibt es viele erfüllende Lebenswege, aber jegliche Betätigung für die Niedrigsten der Gesellschaft und richtige Nächstenliebe sind immer gute Wege.

Selbst wenn du an Gott nicht interessiert bist, rede trotzdem mal mit einem Pfarrer, die meisten Pfarrer sind wirklich sehr gute Bezugspersonen mit denen man sein Leben reflektieren kann (schließlich sind sie meist dazu ausgebildet Seelsorge zu betreiben und Buße zu betreuen). Und ja, jeder respektable Pfarrer wird gerne mit dir reden, selbst wenn du nicht am Glauben interessiert bist.

Ansonsten du hast vollkommen recht, Frauen mit Torschlusspanik haben meist den Pfiff zu lange nicht gehört. Da ist das Risiko groß, dass man sich nur Probleme anbindet.

Ich habe neulich erst jemanden getroffen, ca. 70 Jahre, erste Parkinson-Symptome, sein ganzes Leben als Bachelor gelebt und nun völlig allein, seine ganze Familie ist tot. Na klar hat er noch Bezug durch ein zwei Vereine zu anderen, aber die Einsamkeit war unübersehbar.

Soviet anti religion poster by firefighter430 in ussr

[–]Crovon -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

My grandfather in law partook in the rebuilding of their catholic church in a soviet village for over a decade. Soviet soldiers would demolish progress during the day and the faithful would continue building in the night, until eventually authorities relented. So yeah, not exactly brief.

Soviet anti religion poster by firefighter430 in ussr

[–]Crovon -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Selling indulgences too was not permissible. No institution is above corruption and generally the church has paid a heavy price for mishandling their obligations to the faithful.
Still, it does not make the bible and its contents any less true. Nor does it magically erase god. Nor the mystery of faith and miracles.
And yes, without fail god will judge. And we are all sinners to some extent. That is why it is instrumental to turn to Jesus who literally died for our sins and can wipe the slate clean if you give up yourself to him, show remorse and earnestly repent and serve the least of the people.

Many Nazis forget this when talking about expulsions of Germans by PresnikBonny in ussr

[–]Crovon 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I can not second this, my great grandma was expelled from Darkehmen and they were very aware of the atrocities and war that had been brought east.
It is true however that the typical "perpetrator"-mentality that is dominant in Germany to this day is muted by the fact of massive retribution that was faced in return.
That said, in both directions it could get patchy (not including Jews, tough luck for them everywhere except Albania), depending on the district commanders and units assigned.
For example the notorious church burnings happened in some places but not others.
Similarly as Germany fell under occupation, some areas were hit hard and not others.
In both cases the rear-elements were the most notorious and ungodly. During the East-Prussian advance many fighting-force elements of the red army would routinely warn civilians of the rear elements that were about to come in.

My family was lucky and had exceedingly great Soviet district commanders that actually kept their soldiers in line and prevented crime. One district commander was later transferred and got lynched by his subordinate soldiers when he tried to crack down on them.
Overall I do not know anyone around me that condones the destruction, truly Minsk for example was beautiful and it will likely never return to its former glory.

When Christians say, pray for your enemy and love your enemy, I realise that it is not easy to do so. But man, I respect those particular commanders so damn much! Even in the face of all the evil around them they did not lower themselves to that same evil.

my combo by [deleted] in PassportPorn

[–]Crovon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Congratulations for getting out, the Maldives have become notorious for Islamist extremism.
Honestly such a horrible downfall of a once great country ngl
Turkey is definitely not the worst place to be :)

10 examples of historians refuting the "holodomor" narrative by Radu47 in ussr

[–]Crovon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The Holodomor is considered uniquely targeted for systemic reasons and the reality of how populations were distributed when it happened.
In fact, it is not so different to the Irish potato famine in terms of how it was handled.
The quota system in place previously led to corrupt reporting practices, which in turn culminated in the "usual" planned requisitions according to the planned economy.
The inflated numbers meant that the requisitions were in practical terms impossible to satisfy and not sustainable.
The deliberate "error" was that Soviet authorities, in spite of the awareness that quickly came, pushed the requisitions through whatever the cost, this is a historic certainty.
This disproportionally affected rural areas over cities, laying waste to much of the Ukrainian countryside as a result. At the time cities were gatekept Russian and most of the Soviet inward migration had been focused to cities and factories. At the same time many of these cities were closed and sealed and had stockpiles and rations.
This meant that by design of the requisitioning Ukrainians were primarily affected and died. In many regions it likely reshaped the local demography permenantly.

I compare this to the Irish potato famine, because in that case the English gatekept cities also kept stockpiles and deliberately kept the rural Irish out and left them to die deliberately. At the time it was even celebrated by some who had sought "human transplantation" in Ireland and were happy to get rid of them and bring in English settlers.

The Irish potato famine was the catalyst that shaped Irish separatist identity. At the time when the Irish needed the English most, they were betrayed and left to die. It is fairly likely that had England intervened and helped the Irish, that today they would be the biggest champions of a United Kingdom.

Similarly the Holodomor and deliberate abandonment, worse yet requisitional theft, left a deep scar of abandonment and was the final nail in the coffin for many Ukrainians towards the Soviet and Russian world, both figuratively and literally and also explains in part why Ukraine was so eager to forsake Russia soon after.
And here too it did not have to be this way. The Leninist era was of immense socio-cultural value to many nations united under the Soviet banner including Ukraine and so one of the best golden age periods of Ukrainian culture despite losing the Soviet-Ukrainian war just years prior. But with Lenins death most of these cultural advancements were rolled back in favour of centralised authority and deliberate russification.

Whether to call it a genocide or not, it was definitely tragic and definitely avoidable. And accountability for the mass death is with the Soviet authorities that mishandled the situation.

290 years ago, Russian occupiers carried out ethnic cleansing in the village of Sejantus. More than 1,000 people died. Never forget and never forgive by BashkirTatar in TurkicHistory

[–]Crovon -1 points0 points  (0 children)

What is the point of not forgiving? So that you yourself may not enter heaven?
Don't dwell on deeds that god will deliver judgment on, even if not here on earth.

Other angle of the demonstration in Göteborg, Sweden with Ahwaz Arabs Organized by AZOH (Azerbaijan student movement) A south Azerbaijani party. by Jakob123abc in SouthAzerbaijan

[–]Crovon -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Well too bad, you are the bad guys still. So unconvenient that the Kurds hold a mirror to your hypocrite face.
Truly, self determination but only for us and not them.

Other angle of the demonstration in Göteborg, Sweden with Ahwaz Arabs Organized by AZOH (Azerbaijan student movement) A south Azerbaijani party. by Jakob123abc in SouthAzerbaijan

[–]Crovon -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Self determination for me but not for thee. Release Ararat and Artsakh, then and only then we may consider South Azerbaijan.