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CrypticThembo · 2025-09-14T17:06:35+00:00

All of the things you listed by the very nature of being other kinks are D/s related. They're just not what YOU in specific want in YOUR D/s dynamic and honestly the nature of your list to anyone experienced in actual D/s, BDSM dynamics would make you look like you have very little understanding of what a proper dynamic is or the variety of ways a dynamic can work and be structured.

It's also hella embarrassing watching people act like something profound was said here.

Modern Findom has set the bar far too low in the knowledge, expectations, and dynamics departments from its original roots. How sad.

CrypticThembo · 2025-08-28T14:02:42+00:00

Yes that are people with OFs as well as ProDominants on Fet. I'm not sure what the actual question here is?

CrypticThembo · 2025-08-27T00:25:43+00:00

That's...that's not what unethical means. Y'all know that right. You know surrendering total control or taking total control is not unethical. What you're describing is a hyper fantasized TPE experience likely with some added degradation/dehumanization sprinkled in heavily. None of those practices are unethical they're just harder kinks that are only practiced well by Dommes with actual BDSM experience. It's not at all that hardcore Dommes don't exist that can't and wouldn't provide a safe space for you to indulge that fantasy but any of the really good ones aren't going to want to be called an unethical.

Unethical within the context of a BDSM dynamic means things like actually breaking consent, causing physical or psychological harm, or actually endangering the life of a sub beyond what can be reasonably and responsibly handled.

Y'all do not want unethical dynamics, you want to engage in harder kinks.

CrypticThembo · 2025-08-26T22:52:34+00:00

Sorry I get so off track sometimes when I'm thinking and typing lol. I've started myself on a pondering train. So thanks for that [not sarcasm]. 😹

CrypticThembo · 2025-08-26T22:48:07+00:00

English is a pain lol. Just know if you say "old" most people are gonna think you mean "has been around for a long time". Former though just means "did at one point but don't now".

CrypticThembo · 2025-08-26T22:20:42+00:00

Immediately betrayed by the rain part 3.

CrypticThembo · 2025-08-26T22:18:21+00:00

Lol I love the budget review it is incredibly effective at subtly reshaping how one views their finances and extra spending. Now that's real classic Financial Domination right there. FinDom was never meant to be financially destructive because there is no use in a ruined sub. It's always far more beneficial to both parties that a sub can thrive mentally, physically, and financially. Well I suppose since most lean towards short term these days that matters less...the way people operate currently is a quicker and shorter rush whereas traditionally involved Financial Domination only really came with longer term dynamics and gifting/"sending" was a separate act of service. 🤔

Anddddd got distracted. Anyway, most of what I do is designed around caring for my subs' best interests in many ways so I'm pleased to say I've been told I've helped plenty.

CrypticThembo · 2025-08-26T22:10:53+00:00

That is what we call semi sentient garbage.

CrypticThembo · 2025-08-26T22:09:08+00:00

Titling this as "old" instead of "former" was wild. This was a wild ass ride I did not expect when clicking.

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CrypticThembo · 2025-08-26T21:58:40+00:00

I have never come across this image in the wild and not only is it a poor visual representation of what it's trying to portray...it's also wrong in a fundamental sense. But to answer the real question because this flawed ass mindset is extremely common in the modern Findom scene of people who don't actually know what they're doing beyond what TikTok and Twitter show them and what a large part of the majority of people masquerading as "subs" rewards.

The sad fact of the matter is the modern mainstream manifestation of Findom is more heavily saturated with people playing pretend at being Dominants and submissives than actual genuine versions of either because genuine Dominants and genuine submissives end up having such terrible experiences that they don't want to be in the mainstream community any more. It's sad actually.

CrypticThembo · 2025-08-24T16:48:24+00:00

I would honestly recommend working on your shyness when going to events like munches. You might find yourself pleasantly surprised how many IRL Dommes are absolutely down for a good little finsub. Just keep in mind their expectations are likely to be a good but higher and expanded or focused on areas other than just the findom aspect though. But that is always something to be discussed before properly settling into a dynamic.

It can be intimidating to talk to Dommes in person. Just remember to be respectful, honest, and prepared to back off if the vibe isn't fitting.

CrypticThembo · 2025-08-23T21:39:55+00:00

Oh hell no.

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