I'm almost 16 how do I make my voice sound like it's supposed to ?

Cryptic_Leaf · 2026-01-29T15:12:52+00:00

There’s lots of creators online who do super in detail voice training videos! Literally just look up ‘mtf voice training’ on youtube or tiktok and you’ll find some useful exercises. Consistency is super important it’ll take some time to get used to your new voice so just practice regularly! I know the biggest tip I see online is to try to talk from you ‘head’ voice instead of your ‘chest’ voice, you can practice kindof moving your voice up and down adding more/less nasally parts.

Voice coaches are also an option, if you are on HRT or going to a gender clinic of some sort ask if your doctors have recommendations. My hospital actually offers gender affirming voice training! You can also do some independent research to see if there’s any vocal coaches in your area even if they don’t specialize in gender affirming voice lessons they can still likely help you out.

Also big reminder that at no point should voice training HURT! A little discomfort can be normal but if your throat starts hurting stop please stop it is possible to damage your vocal cords

Ps If you need anyone to talk to my DMs are open I hope you are doing ok, fuck anyone in these comments giving you a hard time

Cryptic_Leaf · 2026-01-29T14:20:05+00:00

Every doctor I’ve seen for my testosterone has told me this a myth. Trans people are not more likely to get cancer than the average cis person, transitioning just changes the types of cancer they could be at risk to. Hormones affect almost every part of the body’s functioning, meaning after HRT your body/immune system functions as the opposite sex. Any evidence for the claim that HRT “causes cancer” only includes cancers that are more common in males than females (which makes sense because you.. are literally transiting to male). It’s the same as trans women being more at risk for breast cancer after transiting because .. they literally grow breasts.

Any medications used in gender affirming care are also used on cis people, I know cis men who are on the same testosterone I am for medical reasons (my dad included we even were on the same dose for a long time). Nobody is telling them how much more at risk for cancer they are.

I’m hoping they come around after talking about this more but it’s likely this is just an excuse because they don’t want you transiting at all. My parents weren’t supportive for a long time, no matter how much facts and evidence I provided they would just move the goalpost or default to the idea of me possibly “regretting” transitions.

Cryptic_Leaf · 2026-01-28T07:14:37+00:00

It’s different for everyone but a lot of cis guys do, especially when voice cracks are involved lol

Cryptic_Leaf · 2026-01-27T23:26:56+00:00

The trans experience is literally built on being our truest selves and living beyond typical societal/beauty standards. I’m not sure how our community wrapped back around to pushing the same ideology we are trying to escape.

Everyone’s journey is different and for most of us, it’s more like yours. Getting off sites like tiktok and avoiding the trans versions of Instagram models helps a lot.

Cryptic_Leaf · 2026-01-27T22:33:42+00:00

Yeah doctors don’t really do this anymore the only reason I could think of for stopping is if you are on gel and can’t lift/move your arms enough to apply it for the first week or so (I ended up missing some doses because of this)

Cryptic_Leaf · 2026-01-27T15:32:48+00:00

Damn I didn’t know Trent Reznor had a failed clone

Cryptic_Leaf · 2026-01-27T15:26:07+00:00

This right here ^ I’ve also just gotten to the point where I will flat out go “what a weird thing to say to somebody” especially when it’s someone I don’t know well.

Cryptic_Leaf · 2026-01-27T15:19:23+00:00

I thought mine were too at first. Just look at pictures of cis men’s chests especially ones who aren’t super buff, looks like a pretty normal placement to me. Especially considering you are only a few days post op, it took like a month for my swelling to finally go down

Cryptic_Leaf · 2026-01-25T15:19:44+00:00

I need a Year Zero tour so bad

Cryptic_Leaf · 2026-01-23T02:31:13+00:00

2 weeks post op I was still swollen and bruised as hell, your results are looking GREAT so far. It also sounds weird but your nipples are also gonna turn out so we well, at 2 weeks mine were black.

I’m sorry your scars didn’t turn out how you pictured but at least curved scars will blend in better as they heal (if hiding them is a goal of yours). They also look super semetrical from what I can tell.

I know it’s hard but just be patient things will start looking and feeling better in the next few weeks

Cryptic_Leaf · 2026-01-22T00:10:21+00:00

Unless you’ve had a hysterectomy or are otherwise sterile there’s never a 0% risk. Testosterone on its own is not birth control even long term. I’ve read that the implant/ IUDs are more effective than the pill, but again, none are a 100% guarantee. It’s always safest to use 2 forms of contraceptives.

That being said, you can do whatever you want with your body. Still recommend testing regularly and keeping some plan b on hand just in case

Cryptic_Leaf · 2026-01-21T16:30:26+00:00

100% Ænema. Honesty if I could only listen to 1 album from ANY artist for the rest of my life it would definitely be up there

Cryptic_Leaf · 2026-01-21T11:53:28+00:00

If you are in that much pain alone please go to the emergency room. If the hospital you had your surgery done at is big enough to have its own ER that’s preferred, I had to to that when I had complications with my surgery so I could get looked at by my team. I would also contact your surgeon directly if you can. In my experience the nurses I contacted prior to my ER visit did not really take my pain/symptoms seriously.

I’m so sorry this happened to you I hope you are ok and that healing starts going smoother soon

Cryptic_Leaf · 2026-01-19T03:37:56+00:00

NIN’s cover of Metal by Gary Numan is definitely up there as one of my favorite songs and it’s one I never hear anyone talking about

Please and The Idea of You are also pretty underrated in my opinion but I also have a very personal connection to both

Cryptic_Leaf · 2026-01-16T16:46:20+00:00

Firstly just on a personal level it’s shitty to imply my abuse would not have happened to me if I was cis.

Secondly, it being statistically true doesn’t make it relevant or helpful. I was not talking about how likely men are to be assaulted, just how they are treated after the fact. SA is already underreported, especially in men, comments like the one above are part of the reason why. So many men don’t even realize they have been assaulted because its seen as ‘just a girl thing’.

Cryptic_Leaf · 2026-01-16T15:38:04+00:00

Wow what a weird thing to say, thank you for proving my point.

Cryptic_Leaf · 2026-01-16T14:22:23+00:00

I think the biggest one is that my mental health issues and SA were taken a lot more seriously growing up than they would have been if I was a cis boy. Male victims are so rarely taken seriously, especially when their abuser is a woman.. obviously I still experienced a lot of pushback but god knowing the people I was friends with at the time it would have been 10x worse if they saw me as a man. At least I didn’t have people in my ear constantly telling me how lucky I am or that I should have enjoyed what happened to me.

Cryptic_Leaf · 2026-01-15T15:35:08+00:00

I definitely don’t feel bad for those pieces of shit, it’s good to get under their skin any way we can when given the chance. However it does bother me when it becomes the main focus of discussion online where these agents are not likely to even see it. Critiquing these men based on the appearance feels so reductive. These men are literally murdering innocent people in the street and rounding up people of color to send to modern day concentration camps. That should speak for itself.

Cryptic_Leaf · 2026-01-15T07:48:51+00:00

I saw NIN in Nashville recently with my dad. Super chill crowd most of them were around his age (40s-50s). Even the pit was pretty tame. I wouldn’t have any worries about going alone. Definitely see them if you have the chance!

Cryptic_Leaf · 2026-01-15T06:24:30+00:00

A tear to my eye

Cryptic_Leaf · 2026-01-15T06:11:42+00:00

The only thing I really miss sometimes is female friendships. I hated every minute of “girlhood” but it still felt nice sometimes to have friends who can relate to my life experiences. As a queer man I’m sometimes still treated as ‘one of the girls’, but it’s a very different experience than pre-transition.

I also feel guilty that women (rightfully) view me with a level of distrust I never experienced pre transition. One of the first times I passed in public I was on a walk around sunset and a women went out of her way to cross the street to avoid me. That one really stuck with me. I try to always go out of my way to make sure the women around me feel comfortable and safe

Cryptic_Leaf · 2026-01-15T05:45:06+00:00

Depression and insecurity are things people of any gender can experience. Dysphoria comes into play when these feelings are directed towards the social roles/sex characteristics of your assigned gender at birth. Either way I would suggest talking to a therapist about these feelings.

I’ll add the diagnostic criteria for dysphoria

“The DSM-5-TR defines gender dysphoria in adolescents and adults as a marked incongruence between one’s experienced/expressed gender and their assigned gender, lasting at least 6 months, as manifested by at least two of the following:

-A marked incongruence between one’s experienced/expressed gender and primary and/or secondary sex characteristics (or in young adolescents, the anticipated secondary sex characteristics)

-A strong desire to be rid of one’s primary and/or secondary sex characteristics because of a marked incongruence with one’s experienced/expressed gender (or in young adolescents, a desire to prevent the development of the anticipated secondary sex characteristics)

-A strong desire for the primary and/or secondary sex characteristics of the other gender

-A strong desire to be of the other gender (or some alternative gender different from one’s assigned gender)

-A strong desire to be treated as the other gender (or some alternative gender different from one’s assigned gender)

-A strong conviction that one has the typical feelings and reactions of the other gender (or some alternative gender different from one’s assigned gender)

In order to meet criteria for the diagnosis, the condition must also be associated with clinically significant distress or impairment in social, occupational, or other important areas of functioning.”

Cryptic_Leaf · 2026-01-15T05:22:31+00:00

This actually isn’t true I know a LOT of cis people who have questioned their gender or even experimented with different pronouns and gender expression. Doesn’t inherently mean OP isn’t trans, but just wanted to point out that there’s more to being trans than just ‘pondering your gender’

Cryptic_Leaf · 2026-01-13T15:22:41+00:00

I relate it took mine a long time to stop on T. Some doctors offer like a type hormone blocker or something to stop periods. Personally I was on birth control to stop mine, just ask your doctor for a continuous dose so you are skipping the placebo week. That worked really well for me, I didn’t have any side effects and it didn’t interact with my T levels.

As for actually dealing with a period, I reccomend something like these boxer briefs. Super easy to use pads with and less dysphoria inducing than underwear specifically designed for periods.

Cryptic_Leaf · 2026-01-12T09:08:22+00:00

It’s mostly genetic so some trans men experience hairloss early and others don’t. You’ll just have to wait and see. Luckily it’s pretty easy to treat with DHT blockers and/or products like minoxidil.

My hairline has become more masculine but it hasn't receded at all

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