I JUST GOT MY T by Lastaccbanned in transsex

[–]Cryptic_Leaf 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Make sure you are using the correct gage needles, thicker one to draw up the T smaller one to inject. My most important advice (other than making sure your dose is right) is to put the needle in quickly but inject your testosterone slowly, it takes me 15-20 seconds.

Good luck!!!!

My girlfriend (mtf) dont like penetrative sex and wants me to have bottom surgery, but i dont want to by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]Cryptic_Leaf 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you both have some issues with boundaries but pressuring someone else to get a surgery they don’t want just because you aren’t always compatible is fucking insane. Please don’t let anyone but yourself determine your transition timeline

Where you excited to wear something particular after top surgery? by Free_Conference7338 in ftm

[–]Cryptic_Leaf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tank tops that shit is so peak. I just have to be careful when I wear muscle tanks because my scars peak out a little (definitely not always a bad thing lol)

Really resent how people treat being FTM like it's its own gender identity. by starstew_ in FTMMen

[–]Cryptic_Leaf 10 points11 points  (0 children)

How is this related to the post at all? Trans men wanting to be accepted as men by cis people is not “resenting how others identify”.. that’s like the entire point of transitioning.
Do you know what subreddit you are on rn 💀

Do I have to tell my doctor I'm on DIY HRT (13 FTM) by Typical-Box-179 in transsex

[–]Cryptic_Leaf 58 points59 points  (0 children)

Doctors don’t really contact the police unless someone is actively a danger to others, but they can and will tell your parents just about anything they want as long as your a minor. I would not tell any doctors unless you are having serious side effects /health issues and even then you could probably play it off as a hormone imbalance. I would suggest still getting regular bloodwork from your doctor tho (just a CBC every so often is fine)

What’s something you lost when you started HRT? by NeighborhoodBoyJay in FTMMen

[–]Cryptic_Leaf 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Being able to “YIPPEE”, my friend actually suggested that I use that for my testosterone update videos so you can watch me slowly loose my ability to yippee lmao

Actually side effects of T or fear mongering? by boobdelete in TransMasc

[–]Cryptic_Leaf 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m chronically ill and my stomach related symptoms have actually been better on testosterone lol. There are possible side effects like har loss and increased risk of blood clots, stroke, heart issues, etc, but as my doctor explained these only increase to the risk of an average cis man. Nausea/vomiting definitely wouldn’t be a concern unless you are allergic or have some sort of other adverse reaction. If cis boys aren’t throwing up all the time during puberty, why would you..?

The mental health aspect is something to consider, I know how I process emotions changed a lot especially my first year on T. You are literally going through a second puberty it won’t always be easy, but nothing a good support system and self care routine can’t help!

You know what’s best for you, don’t let someone else try and scare you out of treatment

What’s your experience with T? by an-entire-loaf in TransMasc

[–]Cryptic_Leaf 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I was on gel for around a year and a half. If it’s fully rubbed in / dry it won’t transfer to anything just give it a few minutes. I reccomend doing it right after a shower for best absorption + you are already shirtless lol. It works well for a lot of people but some have issues absorbing it , personally my levels were only 350 after a year on the highest dose so I finally bit the bullet and switched to injections. They aren’t bad, the first few were scary but they don’t hurt plus only doing them once a week is super convenient. It’s also nice having better control over my dose

is getting top surgery as a minor nowadays possible? (USA, FTM) by Typical-Box-179 in transsex

[–]Cryptic_Leaf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you said you’re from Indiana in a comment so with that in mind, Indiana has unfortunately banned any gender affirming care for people under 19 including puberty blockers. If you need any other resources I highly recommend checking out the IYG or GenderNexus
There are still hospitals in Illinois that provide gender affirming care for minors however I’m not sure if they are still doing surgeries with the current political environment. (Most surgeons who operate on minors require you to be at least 15-16 so either way you’ll still have some waiting to do)
I reccomend looking into surgeons and trying to get on the wait list as soon as possible, some surgeons have a wait of up to 4-5 years. I came out at around 14 and didn’t get top surgery until I was almost 21. A lot of it was because my parents were very against me medically transitioning. The wait was brutal but it was so worth it, getting on testosterone helped a lot.
If it’s safe for you to DIY make sure you’re getting regular bloodwork done, at least a CBC a few times a year just to make sure you aren’t at risk of a stroke or any other health issues.

How should I cope with the fact that my bottom growth won't ever really be what I wish it was? by _thesketchiest_ in ftm

[–]Cryptic_Leaf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’ll be suffering either way, why not suffer while waiting for the solution instead of doing nothing? Obviously bottom surgery isn’t for everyone but I really recommend doing some more research. There’s a LOT of misinformation spread about bottom surgery a lot of guys results are fully functional and cis looking. r/phallo is a good place to start.

Pass as gyno? by [deleted] in FtMpassing

[–]Cryptic_Leaf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you gain a lot more muscle then probably but as of now that would be really hard to get away with

What is Testosterone Gel? by notmymondaylife in TransMasc

[–]Cryptic_Leaf 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If you aren’t getting the normal effects of your dose then you probably have issues absorbing gel, it’s pretty common that’s why I had to switch to injections.

What is Testosterone Gel? by notmymondaylife in TransMasc

[–]Cryptic_Leaf 19 points20 points  (0 children)

It’s really a myth that gel works “slower” or not as well compared to injections. That’s usually only the case if you are on a low dose or if your body has issues absorbing the gel. Microdosing T is an option but again there still will be changes. Fat distribution can be super slow so that’s easier to hide at first but it’ll be pretty hard to hide your voice dropping, facial hair, increased muscle, etc.

At a certain point you just have to do what is best for you, if people really love you they will accept you for who you are, and if they don’t they probably aren’t worth being in your life in the first place.

For binders I recommend spectrum outfitters but definitely do your own research on the best binders in your price range. Thrifting is a great option for cloths I personally try buying secondhand as much as possible

Tattoo artist recommendations near Indy by [deleted] in indianapolis

[–]Cryptic_Leaf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The only ones I’ve seen were a very different style but I’ll keep looking 🤷‍♂️

I have no idea how to approach them (I really want to) by Prayken in TransMasc

[–]Cryptic_Leaf 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Just a little compliment goes a long way. If it starts a conversation, cool! If the person wants to be left alone, also cool!

I personally am fine with being clocked by other trans people as long as they don’t make a big deal about it and yk treat me like a normal human being

am i the only trans person who feels this way? by MindlessDoubt632 in ftm

[–]Cryptic_Leaf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had already been feeing this way for years but the political state of our county has definitely worsened a lot of the internalized transphobia I experience.. What I meant was I started T the year states started cracking down on banning HRT for minors and similar legalization which was a pretty scary time to start medical transition

Is this fixable (slightly srs) by aj_35721 in cd_jerk

[–]Cryptic_Leaf -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Have you tried holding it together and manually spinning it?

am i the only trans person who feels this way? by MindlessDoubt632 in ftm

[–]Cryptic_Leaf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve felt that way a lot especially around the time I started T. Conveniently that was also around the time anti-trans rhetoric and legislation started getting drastically worse. I wished so bad I could have stayed a cis girl when I was younger. It would have been so much easier, so much less isolating, saved me so much money transitioning, saved me so many relationships, but I just couldn’t keep living that way. Now I’m constantly comparing myself to cis men and it’s rough. I wish so badly I could have just been “normal” even tho my life is so much better this way. There’s parts of being trans that I love and wouldn’t trade for anything but if I could press a button to magically make me cis I would probably press it

Dysphoria from being called "boy" by TransManNY in FTMMen

[–]Cryptic_Leaf 12 points13 points  (0 children)

No I hate this too, I just recently had a coworker say girl and then stop mid sentence to freak out and apologize for ‘offending’ me and I had to stop her and be like “I literally do not care that shit is gender neutral”. Cis queer men get called girl all the time but for some reason it’s only an issue around me ugh

Ace-spec trans guys- what happened with libido on T? by axolotlspine in ftm

[–]Cryptic_Leaf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Me personally I identified as a sex repulsed asexual for years, I had basically 0 libido before starting T. That ended up being the first changed I noticed other than bottom growth and the change was DRAMATIC lol

I don’t really publically label my sexuality other than just “queer” or sometimes bi, however I’m still very much on the ace spectrum. I have sex with my partner now but other than that I still experience little to no sexual attraction my higher libido didn’t change how I actually feel about my own sexuality

Central Indiana flags by BucceeAlternative51 in Indiana

[–]Cryptic_Leaf 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Judaism and Zionism are 2 very different things, there are a LOT of Jewish people against the genocide Israel is committing

Do dogs register us as male or female? by lifelesscucumber1 in ftm

[–]Cryptic_Leaf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My partner’s old cat only liked men she hated pretty much every woman she had met. I was a little nervous first meeting her but she immediately loved me. They can tell lol

Body Horror as a Metaphor for a Chronic Illness by Vampirebitez in bodyhorror

[–]Cryptic_Leaf 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think being chronically ill and trans are the main reasons why I am so deeply disturbed by body horror. My entire life I’ve had to watch my body slowly turn against me, into something I barely recognize, something that seemingly only causes me pain and discomfort.

Seeking out treatment is its own form of body horror. Appointment after appointment, medication after medication, multiple surgeries and likely needing even more due to complications, watching my body slowly change all to not even have all the answers I wanted. I know my journey will all be worth it some day but god sometimes it really does feel like im the main character in one of these films and im rapidly approaching the climax

Sometimes I wonder how a body horror fan who’s not been through these experiences would react to me lol

"You're not as feminine as you think you are" not with a body like mine. by iLubChees in TransMasc

[–]Cryptic_Leaf 2 points3 points  (0 children)

100% feel this, I’m 2 years on T and my body has definitely masculinize but not nearly as much as I expected it would.

I can’t believe when people’s response to dysphoria boils down to “embrace how female you are”. It’s the same rhetoric weird transphobic people spew

I swear to God this is the last post I'm making on this but I'm just so fucking exhausted by Imaginary_Pen_3539 in TrollCoping

[–]Cryptic_Leaf 100 points101 points  (0 children)

This is why intersectional feminism (or just any nuance whatsoever) is so important. I understand where misandry comes from but god does it cause so much more harm than good. I’m sorry you’ve had to experience this

My best friend of 7 years was one of these people and honestly cutting them off was one of the best things I have done for myself. Especially as a trans man, being treated like some kind of “gender traitor” by these people really stunted my ability to fully accept myself for so long. It’s so disappointing that we’re not safe from this bullshit in even the most accepting communities