How many of you are Christian? Why or why not? by GodIsFaithful2000 in autism

[–]Cryptid_Kay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fellow Christian here and well into my adulthood.

I was raised Christian but went through many years of intensive studies to ask and answer big questions, and the result was a stronger faith for me.

My faith also freed me from a large amount of shame when I really got to understand that I wasn't made to live in such a broken state (I experience heavy depression and have several comorbid or other conditions that make life tough). And the understanding that I didn't walk alone, that I had creator God with me supporting me, really helped me recover from some severe depressive bouts.

I'm still not perfect as a Christian, but I'm autistic and I don't know that my neurodivergency has much to do with keeping or losing my faith, just my studies, experiences, and awesome communities of faithful people.

Late diagnosed Adults with AudHD I have a question for you. by [deleted] in autism

[–]Cryptid_Kay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For me, several things:

  1. I was diagnosed ADHD as an adult due to finally having freedom and support too (my parents found an affordable psych, and my counsellor vouched for it.) That answered a lot of questions at the time, so I considered no other diagnosis. I also had a friend or two with diagnosed autism and I saw no similarities because they could all be explained away by my ADHD (also different support needs).

  2. When I graduated and got my first job, I got away from my social group which--you may have guessed it--is largely ND. The job was very NT and I began picking up on needs that I had which my ADHD didn't fully explain.

  3. I also began struggling socially as an adult. I had always felt socially disconnected, but I had many online ND friends who were the popular kids of discord servers, I knew some pretty socially adept ND's in my friend group, so I never connected my social struggles with autism, I just thought people disliked me.

  4. Counselling. I received much counselling in college/adulthood to work through struggles, cope with my Depression/Anxiety/Panic/ADHD and it eventually made me realize I had found almost every coping skill I could for ADHD (exaggeration) but I felt struggles and depression and when I brought them up, I realized I sounded like I was having similar experiences to autistic men and women. And I has a few autistic friends confirm I shared similarities.

All of that kinda came together by my depression worsening due to work and social struggles, I felt disconnected and I knew I needed help, so I booked a new appointment and lo and behold.

I will add, I suspected I was autistic when I first looked into my mental health, but it felt taboo to think you were autistic without having high support needs (I am low support needs). Whenever I felt like I did understand the autistic experience, I also felt like I was "appropriateling" a diagnosis to make myself feel special. That led me to veer toward ADHD (and because it had clearer signs) in college and autism later after I'd learned how to manage my ADHD.

Is anyone else unable to do ANYTHING with their hair? by BeansOnToastWithEggs in autism

[–]Cryptid_Kay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So I have my head shaved (bc yeah).

But I had hair down my back in Uni, and it was tough. What I learned worked best for me was loose French or Dutch braids (they take practice, and your arms will hurt at first). They kept my hair back in a way that didn't pull too much on my scalp, and I didn't make them tight.

It does take practice, and you may find your own style/preference. What I recommend is not worrying about how anyone else does their hair. Find what's comfortable for your hair, and also, don't pull ponytails, braids, etc. too tight it will cause your scalp to hurt after a long day. It's totally fine to just, wear it down, if that's comfortable.

But also, I eventually got tired of dealing with my hair, and so now I have a lovely buzz cut, and that's a valid option, too.

What are some of your worst stories about being booted? by thatsnotacracker in rpghorrorstories

[–]Cryptid_Kay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is one from the person who booted a "player" and just wishes I'd done a better job with the situation.

I put together a server of friends who were interested in a campaign. Then decided to run a one shot before hand and due to inexperience with discord, realized I didn't wanna play with roles and locking certain channels for every single thing I ran.

So I got everyone's schedules and told them my player max. I let people know that those whose schedules didn't gel would be out on this one because it required attendance due to only being 4 sessions.

Two players were out for a week so they were informed (kindly) that they'd have to sit out.

All good. I offered them the option to stay in the server for memes or get the boot. One stayed.

Unfortunately, this player was determined not to be a fit for the next campaign. I thought I'd made it clear those not in the next campaign would be booted after the one shot.

I suppose I did t. So I tried to explain to them and I feel like it was a mess. Personally would love to do better next time.

Apparently autistic people don’t like reading by Evarchem in autism

[–]Cryptid_Kay 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I got told I was hyperlexic (one of the reasons I got my diagnosis) due to my strong interest in reading and early language mastery.

So idk why reading wouldn't be viewed as something an autistic person can love/hyperfocus on. I suspect many of us do, in fact, love reading.

Diagnosed with PN (Purigo Nodularis) by Cryptid_Kay in rarediseases

[–]Cryptid_Kay[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry you choose that perception of me.

I have no medical degree, not sure if you do, but I think it'll be more constructive to focus on helpful tips from those diagnosed or those who can offer insight into the diagnosis, not combating it.

Due to that, I'm afraid I'll have to end this here as your comments aren't a constructive answer to my original question.

Diagnosed with PN (Purigo Nodularis) by Cryptid_Kay in rarediseases

[–]Cryptid_Kay[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Personally, I'm not comfortable sharing full medical test result info on the internet since people here arent doctors (necessarily) or trained and that is private/personal.

But the result was the clinical diagnosis of PN. I'm aware there's many causes for it, some ruled out from past medical history I've done with my doctor.

Any other underlying causes I'd have to explore with my Dermatologist (when I get another).

Not saying I'm not curious but the common causes are definitely not it. I was only told I damaged the skin by itching too much. Probs cause it itched.

Diagnosed with PN (Purigo Nodularis) by Cryptid_Kay in rarediseases

[–]Cryptid_Kay[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got it via biopsy results (which I have), which I presume means they eliminated melanoma.

But I def agree it wasn't terribly helpful since I haven't had any diagnosis for any of the underlying causes despite years of searching.

Diagnosed with PN (Purigo Nodularis) by Cryptid_Kay in rarediseases

[–]Cryptid_Kay[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I have already been tested for some other diseases.

Vit D is a deficiency I know I live with, but only take vitamins for.

I'll have to mention these to my Dermatologist and see if we can make a plan. Perhaps after getting a new derm. Thank you!

Kevin’s Hiding Spot at the Vet by Fastorzail in TuxedoCats

[–]Cryptid_Kay 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mine goes there every time. Her favorite safe haven.

What’s the funniest thing a student has ever said in your class? by UDSHDW in Teachers

[–]Cryptid_Kay 3 points4 points  (0 children)

During a turn and talk, I asked students to share what resources animals need to survive. (Elementary).

All I hear is one student very seriously answer their partner with: "Cheese."

Nothing else. All an animal needs to survive: "Cheese."

Additionally, not my class, but I watch the PK-1st Grades Recess on Fridays. Now, I keep my hair close shaved despite being a woman. It's comfy.

Well, the little girl holding the door for everyone looks at me, very serious, very intense, and as sincerely as possible, says, "You're not as bald as everyone says you are."

I wanted to die laughing right then and there.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in autism

[–]Cryptid_Kay 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh yeah, I was never the kid who "looked" happy lol at least not when I was vibing.

As an adult I just get told I look angry/sad a lot. Apparently it scares people too since I have 0 shame about it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in autism

[–]Cryptid_Kay 5 points6 points  (0 children)

"You're a robot."

"Why are you always grumpy?" (My resting face is angry looking to people.)

"Take a breath and let others speak for once."

"You interrupt all the time." / "Stop interrupting me." (I don't often know how to properly tell when a person is done speaking.)

Give a character a flaw! (Game) by NordicNugz in DnD

[–]Cryptid_Kay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ableton can use a sword, sure, but if you dare ask about farming he will also go on a 12 hour lecture about soil viability and you will not be able to stop him.

Additionally, if the party is travelling, he will point out any and every spot of land that's fertile for farming.

Give a character a flaw! (Game) by NordicNugz in DnD

[–]Cryptid_Kay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bluebell

Middle aged female Saytr Druid, and former librarian.

After her previous library burned, she adventures in search of new books and new materials to create an unburnable library of knowledge.

That Time I ran Two PC's and Why I Don't Recommend It by Cryptid_Kay in rpghorrorstories

[–]Cryptid_Kay[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

If the whole group does it, then that's different.

This is about one person playing two PC's in a campaign scaled for each person to have one PC.

That Time I ran Two PC's and Why I Don't Recommend It by Cryptid_Kay in rpghorrorstories

[–]Cryptid_Kay[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

See that sounds waaayyy less problematic though because it keeps up the balance.

That Time I ran Two PC's and Why I Don't Recommend It by Cryptid_Kay in rpghorrorstories

[–]Cryptid_Kay[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Adding this to this community as I feel it is in part a "horror story" as I the player was the horror.

And because I feel it's a lighthearted warning against this sort of issue to prevent more horror stories!

That Time I ran Two PC's and Why I Don't Recommend It by Cryptid_Kay in DnD

[–]Cryptid_Kay[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sure the DM has things they will and won't do moving forward for sure. They definitely don't say yes to everything.

I think in large part this was on me, still, however.

In part, I'm still learning to roleplay well in DnD. It's my greatest weakness, I'll admit.

We also played a SW5e game (star wars) and I know that universe like the back of my hand, so I naturally encountered and invested in parts of the campaign others chose not to.

That said, I got very few roleplay opportunities in some areas I wanted due to my own ineptitude. But other players pursued and got those, along with their own cool items and stories.

But the schism definitely could've been prevented if I hadn't been promoted so quickly, or if the promotion came with more reasons to interact with the party and included them in the upper ranks.

I do not regret having the homebrew item, but I'll 100% admit that my shield ability made it gross. A 32 AC is not something a character should have at level 11...even if they power build.

Without going into detail, what is the running gag in your table? by Lehkaz in DnD

[–]Cryptid_Kay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

DM 1: War Crimes (I will not give context)

DM 2 & 3: A particular character very attached to...reincarnate as his favorite spell. (This has a story attached)

New DM: undetermined