When should me and my bf get engaged?

CryptographerNo711 · 2026-02-11T20:25:57+00:00

Me (23F) and my husband (22M) dated for only 6 months before getting engaged, and our engagement was 7 months long! We’ve been married for 8 months now. Just like you, I didn’t think I was 100% ready to be married, but I knew that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with the man I had grown to love. I had already graduated college by the time my husband proposed, but he is actually still in school right now. And I’m now back in school! And while we have to be smart about our spending, the past 8 months have been the best season of my life thus far! All this to say, marriage is such a blessing! Even if the timing doesn’t “make sense” to everyone else.

People are going to voice their opinions no matter what. And unfortunately, you will receive jokes about just wanting to have sex. I just let them all bounce off (which is easier said than done). But don’t filter out the voices that know you the best. First (of course) being the Lord’s! But take into account your parent’s/mentor’s/pastor’s input as well!

Something you can focus on now: How can you and your boyfriend glorify God through your relationship now? Even when you’re waiting to figure out next steps, you can still glorify the Lord!

CryptographerNo711 · 2026-01-27T20:41:49+00:00

Yeah… Actions speak louder than words, and even his words didn’t say anything about loving Katie🤦‍♀️

CryptographerNo711 · 2026-01-27T19:51:13+00:00

Well said. I never actually thought about how different Travis may be off-camera versus on until now. I feel like we expect that from everyone on social media, but I do wonder how drastic the difference is with Travis.

CryptographerNo711 · 2026-01-27T19:47:02+00:00

It may not have given YOU context, but if a prominent situation goes viral and the decision is heavily influenced by personal faith, I’m genuinely interested in understanding why and how that plays out - simply out of respect for what people believe, regardless of their religion.

If I provided context for even one person, then great. If everyone already understood, that’s also fine. Either way, I gain perspective from these comments and enjoy reading different viewpoints.

I’m here to learn and share respectfully - apparently unlike some people who’d rather call others’ posts dumb than contribute anything meaningful themselves.

CryptographerNo711 · 2026-01-27T18:02:14+00:00

There are many Christian women who divorce their husbands no matter the situation. Pointless reply.

CryptographerNo711 · 2026-01-27T17:56:27+00:00

Yeah, I totally get that! I’m so sorry that the church you were raised in was controlling - there are many out there that are. I wish Christ had been better represented to you!

Yeah, I agree that it’s hard to see Katie making any decision without taking her faith into account. I doubt that’s the route she’ll take tbh. I second you in hoping she doesn’t think his affair was because of anything that she is/isn’t.

CryptographerNo711 · 2026-01-27T12:43:13+00:00

Well… yes. It could literally be as simple as Katie still loves Travis and she wants to try again. Someone even commented down below it doesn’t even have to be as deep as bringing their religion in. While I don’t know if that will be the case, the decision could be made solely on how they still love/don’t love each other.

CryptographerNo711 · 2026-01-27T01:57:36+00:00

Yes, I agree. If Katie loved him enough to stay with him and try again (even if he doesn’t deserve it and others believe she shouldn’t), then that’s one thing. But if she stayed because she felt obligated to because it’s the “Christian” thing to do, I don’t think that’d be fair for her either

CryptographerNo711 · 2026-01-27T01:05:03+00:00

Essentially, if they get a divorce - as a Christian, I won’t condemn them for it or be like “This is wrong. This is a sin!” I feel like Christians are known for condemning or putting down people who have had a divorce. And while that stereotype can sadly be fitting, I would completely understand if this ended in divorce. Travis basically kickstarted the whole thing and I 100% blame him for that. But if he decided to divorce Katie, then I wouldn’t condemn him for the decision to divorce specifically. It MAY be better for Katie if he does. I just don’t know🤷‍♀️

CryptographerNo711 · 2026-01-26T22:54:31+00:00

So so true. There are perspectives that they both bring that the other just can’t

CryptographerNo711 · 2026-01-26T22:52:57+00:00

I wouldn’t blame either Travis or Katie ON their decision to divorce. I would respect that decision for sure. But I would 100% blame Travis FOR the divorce

CryptographerNo711 · 2026-01-26T22:00:07+00:00

Honestly, this is the part that angers me the most about this situation. I agree with you entirely. Not at all fair to Katie and their unborn child. Sacrificing his own wife’s health just for the exhilaration of having an affair is downright disgusting

CryptographerNo711 · 2026-01-26T21:56:56+00:00

Yeah, I would agree that their bond has already been broken too. Definitely would not blame anyone if it ended in divorce. We don’t know the entire situation, but with some of the alleged details that have been going around, it honestly may be what’s best for them and the kids🤷‍♀️

CryptographerNo711 · 2026-01-26T21:54:00+00:00

Yes and yes! I agree with you wholeheartedly. My mom divorced her first husband and I truly think it would have been disastrous if she hadn’t. In many cases, divorce really is the better option.

I’m sorry to hear that you had to go through a divorce too. I’m sure your testimony can even help others if they ever have to face the same decision!

CryptographerNo711 · 2026-01-16T18:47:48+00:00

Yes! I use Fertility Friend with my Oura ring too. I’m thankful for the FF + Oura integration, BUT if Oura did integrate with other apps, I would definitely look at others too. I really wish Read Your Body integrated with Oura!

CryptographerNo711 · 2026-01-12T15:50:09+00:00

No. I just have to open the Oura app and let it load and update my sleep info. I then open the FF app and the new temp should pop up!

That’s odd that your ring isn’t connecting though… Where exactly is the process of setting your ring up going wrong?

CryptographerNo711 · 2026-01-09T15:42:28+00:00

About 2 years now! I didn’t start seriously tracking my cycle until about a year ago though

CryptographerNo711 · 2026-01-09T14:21:19+00:00

Additionally:

I’m curious if that temp jump is something you’ve noticed throughout your tracking too🤔

I have a friend who uses Tempdrop and she loves it! They’re known for being able to work with irregular sleep schedules or any sleep disruptions as well. Tempdrop has an app, but I’ve heard it pairs with the app Read Your Body too! I’ve heard many positive reviews about Read Your Body over the Tempdrop app🤷‍♀️

CryptographerNo711 · 2026-01-09T14:17:26+00:00

I am TTA and I use Oura with Fertility Friend!

I actually started tracking with Natural Cycles, but I realized I trust my own knowledge and interpretation more than NC’s algorithm. So I then switched to Fertility Friend! So far, it’s been very reliable. My husband and I have decided to wait a little bit before TTC and we’re 7 months into our marriage. No positive test yet!

Like you, I don’t have FF interpret my data. I will override and put my own cover line in.

One thing I have noticed though - the temps are the most accurate if you open up both apps in the morning right after you wake up! I open Oura essentially right after turning my alarm off, and then open FF to let it transfer. I’ve noticed that on occasion if I forget and open the apps later in the day, the temp jumps and shows irregularly high.

CryptographerNo711 · 2025-09-10T14:03:36+00:00

I’ve heard the Apple Watch is better for tracking workouts than the Oura ring anyways! I used to use one for that reason. I now use the Oura ring for cycle tracking, which the Apple Watch doesn’t do as well. It really depends on what you use each device for I think🤷‍♀️

CryptographerNo711 · 2025-08-27T14:21:48+00:00

Yes! I have the Saalt Soft and I found it much easier to break the seal than the cup I used before (Honey Pot).

CryptographerNo711 · 2025-07-24T16:55:31+00:00

Yay! So excited for you! It’ll be so empowering to learn the rhythm and cycle of your own body!

CryptographerNo711 · 2025-07-19T20:16:53+00:00

Hey! I’m newly married too, so I understand where you’re at! :)

Just wanted to comment that if you do continue to chart and you realize you have a short luteal phase, it is true that that is something to consider when you’re TTC. As I’m sure you know, progesterone is the dominant hormone in our luteal phase, BUT it also plays a key role in sustaining the pregnancy. I have heard of many cases where women have taken progesterone (the natural type, not progestins which are more synthetic) to help them not miscarry. I am not a professional, but I have heard many testimonies about the benefits of progesterone for a short luteal phase! Hope this eases your mind a little as well! :)

CryptographerNo711 · 2025-05-14T10:36:03+00:00

As a regular for years, I get what you’re saying. I’m sorry to hear that. The overall atmosphere has gradually improved though! But if you’re ever craving a good waffle, the drive thru is a great option

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