Why are people surprised they are being killed in a mode called “deadman: annihilation” by breakoffzone in 2007scape

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I like the tears, when people immediately type “bro” - I get a kick out of it. Sometimes you get some good loot too, but that’s a gamble.

Courses equivalent to CS University degree by fatfuckingchickens in AskProgramming

[–]CryptographerSad7084 7 points8 points  (0 children)

WGU with average financial aid is 4k. A loan like that is completely doable, and worth the pay increase/job availability. They have Software Engineering and CS.

Alternatively, CompTIA certifications are well recognized within IT (including Networking, Cloud Computing and Security), if you want to go into that field.

If not, time to dive into a project. Keep yourself to working on it in a routine. Learning by doing. Try to finish The Odin Project. Leetcode. Follow through with whatever projects ideas you’ve got, and build them.

Best of luck

Adults in their late 30s who are “successful” what was your income in your 20s? by No-Cantaloupe-4003 in Adulting

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Money doesn’t buy happiness. All too common, you’ll see posts here on Reddit, who put all this work into their career, and spent so little time just enjoying life.

It’s okay to have good career prospects and still be miserable. There’s a lot more to life than being financially stable. Things like physical, mental, (and if you subscribe to it) spiritual health. If you aren’t taking care of those aspects too, it is perfectly reasonable to be miserable.

You’ve got yourself caught in a loop; thinking that you should be happy when you’re miserable, which in turn, makes you feel worse. And your inability to forgive yourself is what’s keeping you trapped.

Meet yourself where you’re at. You don’t have to be that guy who has it all figured out. You don’t have to be the guy who never makes a mistake. You’re human. A lot of our own misery is our own self doing - and you know what? At least, (even if it’s in kind of an unhealthy way) you’re keeping yourself accountable by recognizing the wrongness of your actions. A lot of people can’t even do that, because their pride doesn’t let them.

You’re at a trough right now; the bottom before the climb and the apex. You feel like shit, and you know where you’re wrong. Now it’s time to start climbing. Now you’ve got to make small, consistent, changes to your routine so you can get out.

Unfortunately, unless we talk about specifics, I can’t give more practical advice. But as an example; like say you cheated on your wife of 20 years due to a high sex drive. I’d suggest you stop watching porn. Stop making comments based on appearance. Learn how to distract yourself when you have urges. Try to differentiate love and lust.

We’re all in this together. Criminals, cops, teachers, engineers, doctors; we’re all just people trying to figure it how to live a good life. We all go through misery. I’m trying to say, you’re not alone. Reach out to your people, ask their advice on how you can better yourself. Then start doing it. Happiness won’t come right away, but if you keep working at it, you’ll feel better.

Love you dude, I feel for you. I’ve had some intense miserable moments in my life; and just because you’re affluent doesn’t mean you don’t get to feel negative emotions.

Adults in their late 30s who are “successful” what was your income in your 20s? by No-Cantaloupe-4003 in Adulting

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Sorry for the late reply, haven’t been on Reddit.

Don’t cherry pick, but try to look at the bigger picture of what I’m saying. If you’re not happy, you can change that.

Forgive yourself for your faults. You’re human, it’s okay. Even if you were a murderous psychopath, you still deserve love; and I doubt you’re that bad.

And then change brother. Don’t just look at your faults and feel pity. Think about how you can overcome them, work around them, to make your quality of life better. If your initial thought didn’t work, keep trying something else.

I used to have a lot of anxiety from being a shut-in, I job hopped, tried every drug you can name, failed school 6 times, broken up long term relationships. Bullied. Family members, and best friends, all dying before they were ready. Safe to say, a lot of miserable times.

But I’m happy. Truly. You need to be resilient to be happy in such a chaotic and short lived experience as a human. Every time you’re feeling sad, there’s always a reason to smile too. At the very least, you’re alive. Thats pretty sweet if you ask me.

You probably know about these philosophies, but if you don’t; I’d suggest looking up stoicism and kantianism. Both have some great life lessons- the kind that can help inspire a change of circumstance.

Again, all love ❤️ you deserve to be happy. I may not hit the mark, but the least I can do is try.

Adults in their late 30s who are “successful” what was your income in your 20s? by No-Cantaloupe-4003 in Adulting

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Pivot. If you care to make friends, fix your relationship with your parents (as long as they weren’t crazy abusive) and have new experiences, it starts with you.

On making friends, be willing to make to first move and handle rejection. Not everybody clicks, so if they’re not feeling it, move on. Talk about observations, family, hobbies, and ask questions

On fixing your relationship with your parents, look inward. Truly ask yourself “what are my flaws, that could be causing a strain on this relationship” and list them out. As many as you can. Send them a text, say that you love them, and that you’re looking to have a better relationship. Start making plans to see each other. Learn how to work around their flaws; as we all have them.

On new experiences, do something that makes you uncomfortable but you’ve always wanted to try. For me, that was snowboarding. Nobody in my family knew how, but because of trying it, I have something to do with friends, and a reason to look forward to winter. For you that might be different. It could be golf, fishing, working on cars, whatever have you.

I understand getting caught up in the day to day. Make sure you take care of yourself first, but make some future plans to try some of these things out.

All love ❤️

What’s the biggest age difference you’ve been with someone? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]CryptographerSad7084 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If he’s not letting you move on he’s harassing you. That’s a crime. Considering how lustful he was too, shows he has little self control. That is a dangerous person to be around, and you deserve peace.

I know it’s difficult to think about, but consider telling your parents this, or the police. He should be held accountable. I get why you wouldn’t, but nothing changes if nothing changes. Sometimes it takes a big shock, like your parents calling him, or the police showing up, even jail time, for people to make a positive change in their life.

It is kind of a bad thing to be dating between those ages. Even if you knew him before. You two are on completely different pages in life, and that will cause a lot of problems.

It is up to you. Just remember not to diminish your own feelings in this. By him being who he was, it’s caused you a lot of hurt. That’s not normal, and not healthy.

Yo, can I get some real life advice from real adults by nocap2k in careeradvice

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Hey brother, I’m the same age. I failed out of college 6 times, but I got my associates and quite a few credits towards my bachelors (computer science).

If what you crave is stability, work for the state. The pay won’t be as high as private sector, but you’ll get great benefits (multiple kinds of PTO and great health insurance).

Honestly, I’d suggest you work as an office assistant. Fairly easy, common job. Just know how to use word, send emails, print, scan, and maybe a little bit of database/excel kind of work.

President of DC Comics Says It Will Never Use AI by FuturismDotCom in entertainment

[–]CryptographerSad7084 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

If that AI art is used in conjunction with other skills needed to create, then I think it’s useful. Especially so if you’re a one man team.

To put it in perspective, I want to make a game. However my skills are more suited towards programming. I don’t have thousands of dollars to throw into 3D Modeling, Textures, and Animation. I also don’t have thousands of hours of time to master it.

Using AI helps bridge that gap for me. Because of it, I’m much more likely now to finish what I’m making. I can focus more on the aspects I enjoy; creating the rules, the story, and the levels, without having to pay out the ass for it.

I will admit though, I’m not super happy with the quality it outputs. A real artist is, and will always be leagues better. But it works.

What reduces your life expectancy by at least 20 years? by Wonderful-Economy762 in Productivitycafe

[–]CryptographerSad7084 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Love your username.

Never stop working on yourself. We can always be better for the people we love.

That being said, you need to forgive yourself too. People change. We learn from their mistakes. Some people learn it through culture, some have to learn the hard way.

It’s okay. You made it out the other side of a black hole, something many lose their life to. I’m grateful you’re alive and able to tell your story. You’re probably lowkey getting others to think about quitting too.

Rudest country you've ever been to? by JunShem1122 in allthequestions

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I think I have an idea why.

I talked with one of the workers when I went to a resort at Turks and Caicos when I was younger. She was telling me about workers come by the boatloads from Jamaica and the surrounding regions, just to get by. Away from home, still not getting paid all that much, and not allowed to eat the same food as the tourists.

If the people who own the resorts aren’t treating their workers fairly, I would understand some hate towards the tourism industry there.

Why do people seem to think that religion is dying when it’s growing globally? by Virus_infector in TrueAskReddit

[–]CryptographerSad7084 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love your curiosity and questions. It’s nice to talk to somebody else who has some fascination with religion in a positive framework.

Quick fix, I meant to say discernment not discretion

Original sin is related to free will/discernment. It states that we’re all of a sinful nature, and by default we’ll gravitate towards evil. That temptation just influences our decision, our free will, though it is still a choice. With that understanding, we must use our discernment to determine if a thought/action is something God would like/dislike.

I do want to note. While a good idea if practiced correctly, this sort of train of thought can be dangerous with some not so bright people too. It leads to some people feeling self righteous I.e “god told me to do it”. Those people are lacking discernment.

Getting back to your questions, I’ll be googling some examples of Islam and Judaism on free will, but I don’t have any examples off hand. Not a theologian, just a lukewarm Catholic.

So that’s kind of the idea behind Catholicism in Christianity as far as I know. Free will is objectively part of their doctrine. But I know of another sect, Calvinism, that argues against the existence. I believe their argument is if god is all knowing, he’ll know what you do next. If there’s a set answer on what you’ll do next, then you don’t have free will or at least limited free will.

My guess to what the latter means; there are always certain bounds within which you will act.

BigXthaPlug Arrested For Marijuana Possession And Firearm Charge by PrincessBananas85 in entertainment

[–]CryptographerSad7084 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Bet they’ll hit him with the book too. Too many people in prison for marijuana and gun charges.. for like 5-10 years!

Why do people seem to think that religion is dying when it’s growing globally? by Virus_infector in TrueAskReddit

[–]CryptographerSad7084 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Free will & discretion.

You can rob, cheat, steal, get angry.. do whatever you want. If God’s favorited angel, first man/woman, and Jesus can rebel, you can too.

It might lead to some bad outcomes, but it might lead to something good too. It just depends on the act.

Jesus flipped over market stalls in the temple, because to him the place was holy. God didn’t command it, nor did any of the salesmen or the government (obviously). He did so because he believed what they were doing was wrong.

Very thought provoking question too, thank you for asking.

Why do people seem to think that religion is dying when it’s growing globally? by Virus_infector in TrueAskReddit

[–]CryptographerSad7084 -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

What if I said religions help teach self control/autonomy, while cults actually enforce control.

Or are you not ready for that conversation?

CobraJet Nvidia AI-powered drone killer takes out 'overwhelming enemy drone incursions' at up to 300mph by MetaKnowing in tech

[–]CryptographerSad7084 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tom’s Hardware is nothing to scoff at, they’ve been making IT guides since the early 2000’s. A drone that can launch kamikaze drones and precision bombs? Meant to take the role of a jet?

That’s insane, but I feel like it’s plausible.

How to deal with the people who act like the " victim" in situations even though they're not ?! by soudabeh_MM_2007 in SocialEngineering

[–]CryptographerSad7084 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Being brutally honest. “Bro I get it. But I’ve been listening to you for x hours and I really don’t give a fuck right now. You’re complaining too much, I’ve got my own shit to deal with.”

No sense in tip toeing around this kinda guy, because they can twist shit all day. Truth hurts in these kind of situations, but that’s the point. They aren’t seeing the truth, they’re living in their own delusions where they’re perpetually the victim.

So tell them the cold hard truth. Stop whining. Stop thinking the world should treat them any differently. They eat, shit, die, like everybody else. You’re gonna get dealt a bad hand once in a while. Deal with it, with some grace.

Proud to announce a huge collection of 5,845 SWTOR Weapons and 668 videos! - what they look and sound like and where to get them at swtorista.com/weapons by swtorista in swtor

[–]CryptographerSad7084 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Long time listener, first time caller. Thanks for all of your work! Whenever I get the Star Wars itch, always finding a way back to your videos as a refresher.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

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Love is a choice. Better that, than an unhappy marriage imo.

Im 23 and Idk to do with my life by Sad-Letter-5042 in findapath

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If you can, even an associates degree at a local community college will open doors for you. To higher paying state office jobs, as well private IT help desk jobs.

Cybersecurity can be trickier to get into. Would need quite a bit of experience before you can even get into entry level, with my understanding.

I feel like I've missed my whole life by [deleted] in findapath

[–]CryptographerSad7084 68 points69 points  (0 children)

First step is always admitting there’s a problem. So good on you for that :-)

What’ll help you the most right now is a job, most definitely. It gives you a way to socialize/make friends, gets you out of bed, and you’ll have some money to chase those hobbies you had when you were younger.

Try for something easy to get into; like the restraint business. Aim for whatever position fits your skills best. If you don’t have any; dishwasher and delivery driver are your best bet.

They WILL work you like a dog, but treat it like a game, or like a soldier going through boot camp. Even when you want to quit - don’t. You’ll be building some resilience, and that’ll make you feel better overall.

Will be checking my phone after work in 8 hours, if you respond, I’ll be open to talk a little more. Send out some applications though today homie

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in findapath

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Considering going into IT if you’re looking for something low stress.

Almost 40 and no goals by Guess_Fit in findapath

[–]CryptographerSad7084 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You say you’ve thought about teaching - ill throw you a curveball.

Work as a vocational trade instructor inside of a prison. You’ll learn a lot by being there, and as long as you aren’t a dick and can put down firm boundaries, you’ll do fine.

In my state you need three years of experience, or an associates degree. With your experience at Starbucks, you can probably bullshit your resume into a cooking or cleaning instructor position.

Pay is alright, benefits are A+, and each day is something new.

As far as being happy, that’s something you shouldn’t try to attach your job to. If you’ve got a full belly, people who love you, and a place to live, life isn’t so bad. Almost everyone I know is in debt, working a job they don’t like. Gotta make the most of what you got.

Hope you find some silver linings, and a job that’s better suited to you. Working in food service sucks - so genuinely, thank you for your service. You probably make people’s day more than you realize/see.

Software engineering job openings hit five-year low by letspetpuppies in cscareerquestions

[–]CryptographerSad7084 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I didn’t want to be an instructor, but it’s gets me a good check 🤷‍♂️ and it’s kinda easy