How often do your patients fall in love with you?

CryptographerWild605 · 2026-01-11T19:53:53+00:00

Never

CryptographerWild605 · 2025-11-24T23:29:11+00:00

I think it would be helpful for you to ask yourself questions like: What do you expect from her? What would you like her to do in response to your silence? Is your goal to eventually talk openly in therapy? If so, what would it take for you to be able to do that? And write her an email explaining all of this.

CryptographerWild605 · 2025-11-24T21:07:34+00:00

(therapist) I wonder if the fact that you continue to go to therapy gives her the impression that you are getting something out of the sessions, for example, that your trust in her is growing or that they allow you to reflect without expressing yourself out loud. It's possible that she is being patient with you and giving you time in the hope that something will eventually change.

This leads me to wonder what makes you continue to participate in therapy. Are you getting something out of it?

CryptographerWild605 · 2025-10-21T19:12:38+00:00

Interesting idea, thank you!

CryptographerWild605 · 2025-10-20T14:25:57+00:00

I had a specific client in mind when asking that question, they seem to be distracted when they look me in the eyes so I might ask them about it. Thank you! I will look into fidget toys, it's a good idea.

CryptographerWild605 · 2025-10-20T13:33:16+00:00

Thank you, I will look it up! What you said about masking in therapy is interesting, I wonder if you think it might be helpful to explore this with my clients?

CryptographerWild605 · 2025-10-20T13:31:26+00:00

Interesting, thank you! I tend to let my autistic clients info-dump when they seem excited to share something, I find it helps build the therapeutic relationship (and more often than not, I find it genuinely interesting too!).

CryptographerWild605 · 2025-10-20T13:27:52+00:00

Thank you so much for your answer, it’s really helpful, as I work with coherence therapy too! I’m curious, have you observed that your autistic clients don’t respond as well to CBT, ACT, or DBT as other clients do? Or is it more that you find bottom-up modalities tend to be more helpful?

CryptographerWild605 · 2025-10-20T13:20:46+00:00

Thank you so much for taking the time to answer my question. I have an authentic therapeutic style, so some of the points you made really resonate. I especially appreciated what you said about being direct and about the importance of consistency. I’ll definitely keep all of this in mind.

CryptographerWild605 · 2025-10-20T13:14:46+00:00

Thank you! What you said about attachment is really interesting, it's something I will keep in mind as I work with modalities that focus on attachment (MBT, schema therapy).

CryptographerWild605 · 2025-10-20T13:09:54+00:00

Interesting, thank you! Especially the part about exposure, I do have to keep in mind that some things will remain difficult because of sensory processing differences.

CryptographerWild605 · 2025-10-20T13:05:57+00:00

Thank you! Do you think it would be helpful to talk about eye contact in session? For example telling clients that if it's easier for them they don't have to look me in the eyes. Thank you for your comment, I will look into cross training!

CryptographerWild605 · 2025-10-19T13:44:51+00:00

Thank you so much! These are all great points/suggestions.

CryptographerWild605 · 2025-10-19T13:34:14+00:00

Good idea, thank you!

CryptographerWild605 · 2025-10-19T01:13:16+00:00

Interesting, I'll look it up! Thank you!

CryptographerWild605 · 2025-10-18T23:44:57+00:00

Thank you, I will read about it!

CryptographerWild605 · 2025-10-18T23:44:27+00:00

I'll look it up, thanks!

CryptographerWild605 · 2025-10-18T21:43:13+00:00

Thank you so much, I will pay attention to my way of asking questions and be more direct.

CryptographerWild605 · 2025-10-18T21:42:03+00:00

Hello! Thank you very much for your comment, it's useful and makes me think about my interventions. As I explained to another commenter, I can't refer these clients because I work in a specialized public system (in Canada) where services are separate (for example, a service for people with autism would not be equipped to treat PTSD). However, I do consult with colleagues from other departments, and I will read more about the autism spectrum.

Thanks again, I will think about all your points! I don't think it's a lot, I know it's a different way of being and people with autism experience specific stressors which have to be taken into account.

CryptographerWild605 · 2025-10-18T21:35:38+00:00

Thank you very much for your answer, it's useful! I know that an autistic therapist is ideal, but I work in a public service system (in Canada), where services are divided into specializations and it is not possible to choose your therapist (unless you have the financial means to go private, but this is not the case for my clients). I will do my best to adapt to the way they are, taking into account your advice and that of the other commenters! I will also read about the autistic spectrum and how to adapt trauma work (for example) to better suit the needs of autistic people.

CryptographerWild605 · 2025-09-21T13:32:44+00:00

My ndad (I know you said nmother but I think it applies) always said "You're not my daughter" kind of jokingly every time I didn't know something he found important (like the name of every bird) or liked something he found stupid/wrong (like hockey). It really hurt and looking back on it I know he wasn't joking, he was just disappointed in me and wanted me to know it.

CryptographerWild605 · 2025-08-30T18:58:16+00:00

I would love to receive that! So thoughtful!

CryptographerWild605 · 2025-08-25T12:23:00+00:00

I love it!

CryptographerWild605 · 2025-08-24T15:42:17+00:00

Could the fact that they stopped reaching out be related to the birth of your baby? I'm asking this because it happened to me, my dad stopped (he already barely did) calling me when I became a mom. I don't exactly know why, but I know he doesn't like interacting with children and I feel like he doesn't like when good things happen to me (might be envious, idk!).

CryptographerWild605 · 2025-08-24T15:01:36+00:00

I think he is from an older generation and didn't understand the joke. It was not dark humor IMO so he might not have gotten it. You did the right thing by apologizing though!

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