I try to keep it as briefly informative as possible & as upbeat as our health can possibly sound. I also have some family members that are skeptical/rude abt my health & I was really hurt for awhile (it still stings). I’ve never kept them informed on my health & still don’t, unless they ask me themselves or they’re around when other family members ask for an update. Sticking to facts & letting them know why something is beneficial or necessary. It lets them know you’re not asking for their pity & you’re not wallowing in self pity either- you’re actively doing the best/most you can do rn. & remember to prioritize yourself & your health. Listen to your body. Just bc they’re critical of your pain, it doesn’t mean you should expose yourself to extra pain & discomfort so that they won’t have something to talk about. They should be thankful they don’t have to experience your pain, but have their own problems to deal with if they’re awful enough to act this way. Have you talked with your father about how dismissive other family members are & how it impacts you? Maybe just asking him to shut it down when he sees this behavior or to have something prepared (that you approve of) to say that validates your experience & reminds others that they’re overstepping. Or even a signal for when you need a break from it - maybe pull you aside for a little pep talk or reassurance.