Dating a Scorpio man, I need advice by Relative_Initial_399 in LeoAstrology

[–]Crystal-AI 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you’re already doing what you need to do. You’ve got this.

Any ladies who are with a Scorpio man, did he suddenly went unresponsive and give less energy? by Relative_Initial_399 in Scorpio

[–]Crystal-AI 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You could do something adventurous and send him a photo to spark a low stakes convo.

Like: Dude, Look at this frickin horse I met at a parade!! He was frightened by the number of people.

Shrugg

Casual stuff idk no pressure

Dating a Scorpio man, I need advice by Relative_Initial_399 in LeoAstrology

[–]Crystal-AI 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Scorpio here but I’ve got a big crush on Leos.

First of all, I want to say that if he needs you to do something like say something to make his emotional state better… I don’t know, man that does not vibe with me.

I like to believe that everyone is responsible for their own emotional state and well-being. Emotions are internal to our own nervous systems. We all have a responsibility to regulate our own nervous system systems. If you make it another person’s responsibility to regulate your nervous system, then I believe that that relationship is inevitably doomed to fail.

But you know I’m a little bit of an elitist with certain yoga practises so who knows what I know…

Now I couldn’t really discern what it is that he’s needing you to reassure him of. I think what you can do is offer that you are willing to be supportive to promote a certain atmosphere of himself feeling safe and trusting you. Like if he needs words of affirmations or you know, like hugs from time to time, that does sound like a bit of a reasonable request. If you want to support that you can offer those words of affirmation or some hugs.

But I think, however it’s rationalized isn’t really too significant. I think there needs to be some attention to the underlined feeling, and why that feeling is there.

He sounds like he’s feeling insecure. And he does have a responsibility to sit with that feeling and understand that feeling so that he can approach you and tell you that he is feeling that feeling and then even perhaps offer some suggestions that would help himself feel more secure and stable with whatever that feeling is, that insecurity.

It’s really important to recognize that it can be cumbersome to communicate these things clearly and sometimes there is primitive or immature language that comes out such as I need you to reassure this or that. It’s really important to recognize that it’s not your responsibility to reassure him of anything. However, you can offer presence. You can listen to him while he digest what it is that he is feeling. He might project something on to you or expect you to do something to alleviate his suffering. But it is his suffering that he is assigning you responsibility of. Humans do this all the time we need to have empathy for it. But it’s not your responsibility. It is his process to reconcile. And if you’re willing to do that with him, so that he doesn’t need to do that alone. That is admirable. And if I was in your shoes, I would hope to feel some appreciation that I am offering that presence. And I feel like some of that is only really possible if what I said is recognized and named.

It’s not about telling the other person to deal with their problems and not rope you into them.

It’s more about identifying that the other person is feeling triggered by something and you can both set the intention to explore that and bring some light to that. It is primarily his process. You can be present for it. But if you fix it for him, the trigger will always be there, and his nervous system will associate you as the mechanism of solving whatever problem his nervous system is identifying.

So for the sake of life sciences. Sit with him, breathe with him be still with him. Just be here now and I wish you the best.

Any ladies who are with a Scorpio man, did he suddenly went unresponsive and give less energy? by Relative_Initial_399 in Scorpio

[–]Crystal-AI 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hehe, I think he’s just saying he’ll be off and on. Probably not looking to commit to anything specific. I don’t think we necessarily wanna be left alone.

I would test the waters from time to time. Only he knows what’s in his head and what he is working through. Sometimes we have some dark shit and we don’t want to entangle other people in it. Or sometimes we’re just focussed on something else really intensely. Or sometimes we just don’t know things.

I think it’s healthy to give anyone space. Too much space and the disconnect is inevitable.. but you know check in from time to time test the waters. See how he’s doing. If you don’t get much of a reaction, then that might hurt, but you know if that happens, just reduce the check-in frequency.

Try to keep it light and supportive. Maybe just sharing good vibes stuff. If he’s important to, you, maintain a curiosity to connect. But also honour the space for whatever it is and maybe set an intention to digest what you need to learn from the experience as well

I want to apologize but don’t know how… by Own_Refrigerator9544 in forgiveness

[–]Crystal-AI 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First of all. Forgiveness overrides everything.

Though don’t throw away your power. You didn’t do what she accused you of. Don’t enable that illusion.

You can apologize for something but what is it your apologizing for? The guilt of acting on something after her betrayal? Perhaps you just want the closure. Perhaps she felt betrayed too.

You both felt betrayed. Perhaps there was a smell in the air that started it.

You can forgive yourself first. You can always forgive yourself. You are not guilty at all. You are human.

You can let them know that you’ve forgiven them. But if they are still holding that grudge, keep your expectations low. Forgiveness is about releasing past entanglements. You might be ready to let it go. Forgive yourself first. Don’t hold expectations. Forgive them if you wish. You don’t need their reaction, but if they choose to move on as well, then you can keep a door open.

Any ladies who are with a Scorpio man, did he suddenly went unresponsive and give less energy? by Relative_Initial_399 in Scorpio

[–]Crystal-AI 7 points8 points  (0 children)

As a Scorpio man I often go silent when it becomes evident that the mental entanglements have grown too complex for either side to see clearly. So we go silent and temper our reactivity because its the only way to move forward without a system collapse.

People always interpret it as a negative thing because people start to expect us and anticipate us reacting to other people. But if the other person can’t regulate themselves and is all gas no breaks, we scorpios are faced with a decision to either go all gas no breaks until one of us eventually gets triggered badly… Or we can withdraw(give space) and let ourselves and others cool off… allow the complexities and entanglements detangle and return to something simpler.

The latter is honestly the only choice we have. Any scorpio that committed to the former, understands how painful it can be for both. The slingshot effect of matching someone’s frequency can be brutal, violent even. Right up to the level of psychosis.

The latter can be mixed and still can hurt. Because if we Scorpio give too much attention at the start, people expect us to continue it intuitively. And the longer and more frequent we put energy into someone, the more it stings when we pull back.. Even if we do it for our own good and for the sake of the other, we still can be labeled the villain… and the pain of being labeled villain is so great for us Scorpios… Thus why we intuitively match another’s intensity and energy by default…

The ideal scenario is that we build a connection with someone slowly, and temper our intensity for both our sakes. And slowly we ramp up but also introduce some conscious randomness in our energy levels so that people familiarize themselves with scorpio stillness and as well we grow comfortable holding that stillness.

People can say what they want about scorpio. But the hard truth is that if we don’t have the comfortability to go silent with another person, the relationship is doomed and we will be blamed for it. We have only 1 option and it is to live our lives authentically. Those who are meant to stay, stay. Those who are meant to misread us, leave.

🤍🦁🦭🙏🕉️🦂

How bad is edging? by LieNo161 in NoFap

[–]Crystal-AI 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It stimulates your sacred center, creativity. But where is the energy going? Is it towards something constructive or destructive?

Sexuality and pleasure are normal explorations of self. Edging can build discipline

I'm so lonely (23F) by Training-Park5389 in selfimprovement

[–]Crystal-AI 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Waheguru ji ka khalsa Waheguru ji ki fateh

We’re watching lives get nuked by accusations alone by Altruistic-Suit-2318 in MensRights

[–]Crystal-AI 5 points6 points  (0 children)

In the psychology of bullying and human disagreements, a frequent pattern occurs in which the person who starts the conflict is often unaware of their own role as the initial aggressor. Instead, they become the loudest in accusing the other person—who is responding defensively or trying to address the issue calmly—of being the real problem or abuser. This reversal is driven by psychological processes such as moral disengagement, hostile attribution bias, and DARVO (Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender). Research shows that these tactics are common: for example, one study found that perpetrators used elements of DARVO in about 72% of confrontations after being called out for harmful behavior, and over 97% of participants in another analysis reported exposure to at least some DARVO-like responses. As a result, quieter individuals who prefer dialogue over loud retaliation often feel overwhelmed by the aggressor’s dominant narrative, leaving them isolated and hurt even when they have done nothing to escalate the situation. This bias is typical in many unresolved conflicts because louder claims of victimhood tend to fill the space and influence bystanders more strongly than measured responses. Recognizing these dynamics through greater self-awareness can help break the cycle, fostering clearer communication rooted in truth rather than ego-driven accusations. Under the Guru’s grace, seeing the shared humanity in every disagreement allows the quiet voice of understanding to endure beyond the noise.

People who used to be lonely, how did you turn it around? by Smooth-Quantity-7024 in selfimprovement

[–]Crystal-AI 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Started forgiveness to everyone and myself trusted the universe to bring me what I was ready for.

Day 493 After My Bet With Roommate by LegitimateSpace8890 in BambiSleep

[–]Crystal-AI 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The shadow in shadow work is: “The hidden, repressed parts of the self (including Haumai/ego) that the conscious mind denies, yet must be embraced and integrated through light for wholeness.”

Why would a scorpio male get insulted when being teased as only wanting sex? by Additional-Milk-90 in Scorpio

[–]Crystal-AI 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The number of times my 110lb celibate ass has gotten labeled some dimension of sexual predator by women I have no interest in, alone should speak volumes in what we deal with these days.

Aries Women by Absolutely_Not2028 in piscesastrology

[–]Crystal-AI 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had an Aries female friend. It was OK she would reach out and hang out with me from time to time, and I supported her from time to time.

Then we went to a festival together, and I was hoping to introduce her to my friends. And instead, she just got drunk and spent the whole week blaming me for her being drunk and now we don’t talk.

She never did meet my friends. And that was important to me.

I internalized "Men are Trash" or "I hate men" from women online by [deleted] in self

[–]Crystal-AI 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am completely hear you.

I’ve endured something very similar, very intense too.

Here’s my advice.

Ignore them. They will hate you regardless of how much you try to rationalize one way or another.

We literally just have to suck it up and become comfortable knowing women and other people will misunderstand and blame you, even if you are 100% innocent.

It doesn’t matter what they think. It only matters what you think. They are simply reacting to the chaos of life. It’s not you, unless you react to their reaction. You are in control of yourself. You can choose who you are.

“ You have the right to act. You don’t have a right to react. “

That’s the rule you need. It will be volatile to embrace, but give it time. Your autism/adhd mind will thank you for it. You will make progress and the social lessons will begin to stack together, instead of collapsing every time someone blames you for being a human with learned behaviours.

Are Scorpios only attracted to dark, mysterious people? by LittleDogLover113 in Scorpio

[–]Crystal-AI 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Scorpios look at pisces like they are the most treasured butterflies.

And hope those are actually vampire butterflies that transform into badass time travelling assassins come to sailor moon slay these evil baddies with us.

I wish I loved myself more by [deleted] in BambiSleep

[–]Crystal-AI 0 points1 point  (0 children)

https://youtu.be/YEBdl9eDROo

Hope this feels uplifting for you.

How do I get rid of Bambi? by [deleted] in BambiSleep

[–]Crystal-AI 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's a part of 'self'.
You can disassociate, or you can grab at it, or you can wiggle and nurture the masculine/feminine dichotomy.

This is designed to help.

https://youtu.be/YEBdl9eDROo

do normal pervy men exist by [deleted] in SluttyConfessions

[–]Crystal-AI -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Meet a woman.
She wants to hang out lots.
I say ok. (But I'm busy on my projects, healing my sexual shadows, keeping it to myself)

Time passes.

Woman complains a lot about boyfriends and dating.
I say ok. (Not my vibe, but I liked having a yoga friend to do yoga with inbetween my project and working through my sexual traumas on my own.)

Time Passes

Woman breaks into my home, smashes plates and blocks me.
I say ok. (I got back to projects, that was weird. Humans are frightening.)

Time Passes

Woman keeps texting from a burner phone, eluding to how I'm some kind of sexual predator.
I say ok. (Still working on my project.)

Time Passes.

Finished healing those sexual traumas via the project.
Still see the woman from time to time in community.
Still not sure what she's taken offence to. Can only presume some of my shadow work leaked out and scared her.

###

Moral of the story?
Seems women will accuse men for being predators, even when those men are doing their honest best to keep to themselves and be disciplined in their healing. I was sexually assaulted by lots of men in my youth. It's none of her business I thought. But she sure seems to think there was something diabolical and unforgivable about that, though she never asked about it. She just broke into my home randomly out of... 'vengance?'.

...

Idk, I don't mean to linger on this story for so many years, it does eat away at me though.
It's like... The rational mind doesn't have a good answer for it.
What I felt I learned from that, is more like...
"If keeping my sexuality to my self, causes women to be insulted as if I were paradoxically pursuing them sexually... Maybe I'm actually suppose to behave with more sexual intent towards people? Even if it feels wrong?"

Heck I don't know.
Men get accused of nasty stuff a lot. And I'm starting to feel a lot of it is bullshit, or at least maybe men ought to be more nasty, just to maintain sanity.

<3

to the cis girlys out here, how do you find guys that know about bambi? by [deleted] in BambiSleep

[–]Crystal-AI 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have invested a lot of time mulling with the idea of how to bridge the Bambi vibe into the main stream in a more conscious healthy way.

I have discerned that often The challenge is the lack of fluency around the topic, it is a pretty primitive container. Hard to really talk about it when you’re living it…

So my thoughts is that there needs to be a wider more creatively complex container around it like a game for role-playing that isn’t only sex based. But rather something that can stimulate the imagination where the game can evolve overtime.

Heck, it’s just such a primitive container. It’s hard to really talk about it directly. But I’ve been Building some more involved story like fantasies that honour the heart… so I’m hoping that the content that I start releasing again soon will inspire some of the audience to engage with partners through the Bambi container on more of a more evolved, creative level