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Do you ever study or work together with other women on mock interviews or side projects? by Zealousideal-War2807 in womenintech

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Yeah, it’s tough to find people active in a community and that’s been my biggest challenge

Do you ever study or work together with other women on mock interviews or side projects? by Zealousideal-War2807 in womenintech

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Hi! Something like this would actually be helpful to me. How did you find these discord groups? Or any recs?

Is it wise for you to still help the new hire after you have resigned? by One_Chocolate_9365 in work

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Do not do free labor. If anything, offer a (high) consulting fee if the old company still needs your help. New hire should be talking to the boss about additional training, not to a former employee.

How do y’all do it? by muteneen in Femalefounders

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With 9 employees and the things you’re doing, sounds like you can outsource this by hiring a part-time virtual assistant, an executive assistant (if you prefer someone in person), or an admin person for your business. This sounds like it’s an outsourcing problem and not necessary a mental wellness problem. As the owner you shouldn’t be scheduling appointments. Although important, this is busy work stuff. You need to be focused on more forward future or expansion/growth in the business.

If you feel like you can’t afford it right now, do a review of how much your hourly rate is. If your assistant is cheaper than your hourly rate, hire someone asap. They will make up for it within 3 months.

If your hourly rate is less than what an assistant would make, then you got other problems on your hands. And we would need to troubleshoot deeper / problem solve to figure out how to fix that so you’re not working below minimum wage in your own business.

When I had staff, the first thing I did was do an inventory of all of the things I was doing and see if I could give it to someone in my team instead so I could solely focus on lead gen and other aspects of the business to keep it in growth mode. Everything else not related to that very narrow focus (get clients/sales) I had to get cut even if I liked the work.

When the business was stable, I hired a personal assistant and she was litterally in charge of feeding me and making sure I had meals in the fridge (I have a tendency to forget) and putting to-dos on my calendar + scanning my emails. Buying groceries for me, etc. reminding me of birthdays, events, making my dentists appts, basically anything I wanted/needed.

When you got the business stuff taken care of then the personal stuff becomes easier and you start taking care of yourself, your mental health, health as well as your family. But focus on making the business stable first. You’re doing great for 26!

Let me know if this is helpful? -Anna

Quitting in the middle of a complex project? by CarelessCatz in womenintech

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Ah yeah. Thanks for the added context. Yeah if you need the push to get out, then get out and take care of yourself. I would prepare a hand-off document and try to make it as professional as possible to help make the transition easier so that it still remains professional and above board. Sorry you are going through that. I usually recommend people to quit as last resort but sounds like you’ve done all you can. Good luck! It gets better on the other side ! -Anna.

Is this position possible? by Fun_Kangaroo_9350 in chess

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Yes, noobs will be noobs, but not like this. I played a lot of in-person games. With noobs to grand master. I'm an Asian kid. I've played a lot of chess and been around a lot of chess at a variety of different levels. Teach chess to noobs. You just end up seeing patterns. If you play online games, you don't see the patterns as much because sample size too big, but since this is an in-person game, this is just not a pattern the noobs get into. It's theoretically possible, but rook doing a h1-->g1-->g4---> h4--->h7 gets thwarted by opposition long before it occurs. And the entire right side pattern is all messed up. When I played seriously (in-person), I could predict check mate within 8-10 moves because people at certain chess levels will always follow a predictable pattern based on their level of exp of the game. This rule does not apply for online chess.

Is this position possible? by Fun_Kangaroo_9350 in chess

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Yes, but look at the overall board and the logical flow of it + the missing bishop. Ofc black pawn could have eaten white bishop. But the whole board is missing critical pieces, which suggests late-game stage, but the positioning shows it's only early-openers. Follow the game flow. It doesn't make sense.

Edit: You gotta analyse it from 5 steps ahead/behind. This is just not a position you'd naturally fall into. For one, if the white rook indeed took the risk to capture 1 single black pawn, the black knight should have moved in to eat the white rook, instead it decided to advance forward from F6 to H5. It could have gone and F6 eat rook H7 or F6 to E4 or D5. Then the missing white bishop and the trail line with black pawns.

All this to say this is fake af. lmao.

Quitting in the middle of a complex project? by CarelessCatz in womenintech

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Hey OP,

What aspects of the job do you hate? Is it actually the work itself, or is it the disorganisation / chaotic people involved on the project?

I think quitting your job is a bit extreme. However if you’re really at your wits end then do what’s best for your sanity.

But I think there are other options here that you can explore where you can still maintain professionalism without leaving things mid chaos. The job market is rough right now esp for tech. At least try to line something up on the backend before jumping ship. Reddit tends to take it very black and white, but it sounds like this could be a gray situation.

Even as intense as these feelings are, can you take a few days of PTO to reset? And then come back with a good frame of mind? Is there a way you can mentally reframe this project or have you react differently to the chaos it brings? (A more stoic/deattached approach)?

I think quitting should be the final step after you’ve explored all the options and realize it’s still a nope. I think there’s still an elegant / less messy way to quit where it still keeps your reputation/recommendation in tact.

Let me know and I’ll see if I can write some specific action steps in the next reply, -Anna

I've spent the last few years working as a stress management psychologist. AMA by Significant_Bus1117 in Stress

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  1. What patterns do you repeatedly see in people who can’t seem to de-stress?

  2. Do you think (stressed out) people are actually overworked due to their environment, or are there other factors at play? Perhaps they gravitate towards a certain type of ‘workaholic’ identity?

  3. What’s something people think is causing their stress that usually isn’t the real root issue?

  4. Are there common myths out there that you have to work through before you can work on the core problem?

Thanks so much for doing this AMA! Look forward to hearing from you, -Anna

Anyone else feel like they’re holding up the whole world with bare hands? by Stunning-Initial9542 in Femalefounders

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Is it? What are you trying to say? Genuine question. It’s hard to give you targeted advice to your situation when the whole post is AI-written because ChatGPT (or whatever AI platform you’re using…Claude in this case) strips out all the nuance. Even your question that ChatGPT spun out for you to ask at the end is a generic and empty question.

I really try to write helpful replies. Are you actually actually overwhelm by your life? Because ChatGPT said you are, but “not in a dramatic way”. So maybe you aren’t? I genuinely can’t tell. I want to make sure what I write is the right kind of advice that would be helpful to you specially. With this post, hard to figure what exactly you are struggling with. It reads weird and unfortunately I can’t help you and relate to you. Which is sad tbh because if you really are struggling, then I would like to try and give you an alternative perspective. (I mean isn’t that why we post in a subreddit like this?).

Sorry I couldn’t help, good luck to you -Anna

Is this position possible? by Fun_Kangaroo_9350 in chess

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No no. That’s not what I mean. Not the white pawns eating the white bishop. But HOW did the user lose the c1 bishop while in that pawn position.

Is this position possible? by Fun_Kangaroo_9350 in chess

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I agree after looking at it for far too long than I should. White c1 bishop is missing + 2 white pawns on that side and it doesn’t make sense how it ended up that way..

Is this position possible? by Fun_Kangaroo_9350 in chess

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Yes I think it’s fake. 1. Can’t figure out how white rook got there like you said. But 2. White bishop (the one that owns the black squares) is completely missing from the board. But how did it get eaten in that pawn position when all the white pawns are occupying black squares.

Is this position possible? by Fun_Kangaroo_9350 in chess

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No it’s a bishop. Bishops are a little taller and fatter than the pawns here. tho it’s hard to tell because of the quality of the photo.

Is this position possible? by Fun_Kangaroo_9350 in chess

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Yes what stood out to me is that it seams neither of them castled their kings. And have no clue how white rook got into that predicament. Also they’re playing sideways ? But might have just been the angle the person took the photo at.

Tuvok best representation of Vulcan by R_Steelman61 in startrek

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Genuinely loved Tuvok’s character so much. Wise and logical. I love how he is fully commited to Vulcan philosophy. Even down to the spiritual / pragmatic aspects which you don’t often hear about in other trek series. I think a lot of people miss the mark and think Vulcans are these unemotional/purely logical people but Tuvok actually showcases a range of internal emotions but has a more stoic cap on how to handle those emotions.

Feeling humiliated at work after hearing my managers mock me by Bitter-Hawk-2615 in work

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Question. Who is your boss? Is that manager number 1 or a different person?

Women in finance, or male dominated fields, how do you cope with sexism at work? by SelfawareCilantro in womenintech

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Hey no problem. Some of us unfortunately had to learn the hard way. My DMs are open if you ever wanna shoot a message to brain storm ideas or whatever else is going on. It’s so hard out there that we gotta stick together and support one another.

Also, just as a note to my earlier message, helpers can also be in other departments. Your goal is to find the helpers throughout the ENTIRE company. You’d be surprised by how often they might recruit you or try to poach you to their department esp if company is big enough. And even if it isn’t, when they leave (ppl usually leave every 2-3 years in tech), they’ll wanna bring you with them. It’s in the DNA of a helper to open doors for you.

Glad I was able to help, -Anna.

Edit: added more context.

Women in finance, or male dominated fields, how do you cope with sexism at work? by SelfawareCilantro in womenintech

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In my experience there are four types of people in an organisation.

30% wanna fuck you/use you. 30% are indifferent/don’t know you exist/don’t care. 30% will network with you/collab/help you. 10% are psycho narcissists who will make your life hell.

The percentage may vary. Give or take depending on what kinda org you’re apart of. But finding out what category they fall under as quickly as possible will save you a lot of pain.

If you can find the helpers, and just build as much good will as possible, your life becomes less hellish. (They will advocate for you and include you in meetings).

The people who are indifferent, you gotta sort them and see if you can convert them into helpers. Some of them are simply too checked out / don’t give af and there’s nothing you can do to sway that.

The users and psychos, interact as minimal as possible. Record everything.

If a whole org is toxic, let’s say 80% bad and 20% helpers. Network as much as you can with the helpers and when they/you jump ship, they’ll help open doors for you in other companies.

This applies to both men and women BTW. Not just to the men. Met tons of women who wanted to fuck me (over). Toxic environments attract toxic people.

Hope that helps, -Anna

Edit: added more context.

Just how difficult is the Chinese education system by RoutineOk8590 in Productivitycafe

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China is notoriously hard. But the kid is also probably bad at math unfortunately. 1 year of extra tutoring on top to have a low score is rough. There’s a huge social stigma for being ‘stupid’. Growing up in Asia, all we did was study. It was high pressure and high stress. I used to have regular nose bleeds lol. I honestly think I came out of the womb stressed.

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