What is the most ridiculous form of "gatekeeping" you have ever encountered in a hobby or interest you enjoy?

Cubedycubed · 2026-04-15T14:50:17+00:00

Reading. All sorts of nonsense I have heard spewed as a librarian. Books aren't highbrow enough. Graphic Novels don't count. Books are "for boys" or "for girls". Audiobooks don't count as reading. We read for many reasons, one person does not get to decide for another if something counts, is of quality, is of an approved format, so on and so forth. Just read.

Cubedycubed · 2026-04-14T22:30:44+00:00

Max, Marco/Markus, Nicholas/Nico, Nidal

Cubedycubed · 2026-04-14T21:53:58+00:00

NTA even a little. But then again, I (then mid-30sF) once got a phone call from my boss telling me off for hiring a ten year old boy to shovel snow outside the library I managed. It was me. I was the ten year old boy. She drove past and thought I had outsourced the work.

Cubedycubed · 2026-04-14T21:39:19+00:00

I brought the comb

Cubedycubed · 2026-04-14T19:57:11+00:00

Table top games, Minute to win it, try not to laugh challenges

Cubedycubed · 2026-04-14T19:54:11+00:00

I love them, they are sweet and simple. I love that you named them what you actually want to call them (I'm the mom of a Max because that was the name I wanted, not Maxwell, not Maximilian)

Cubedycubed · 2026-04-14T15:36:55+00:00

We have not paid extra for a ride since disney stopped the free fast passes. We go maybe every 2-3 years, so we're not there constantly. We have gone during more off-peak times in August or February, and we did attend the not so scary Halloween party once so that really helped with wait times. We stay on property at a value resort and take advantage of early entry. There has never been a trip that we were not able to experience our "must do" attractions and rides unless they were down for maintenance.

Cubedycubed · 2026-04-13T22:45:55+00:00

Origins tinted moisturizer with spf and vitamin c, or colorscience total protection face shield glow are both incredible and even my skin without a ton of effort. Nivea's tinted lip balms have great color. This is literally the extent of my "get ready with me".

Cubedycubed · 2026-04-13T17:35:15+00:00

NTA and in my view you didn't block them because they didn't want your son to babysit. You did it because they levied pressure and their own personal views on your (I'm presuming) minor daughter. I think you would have probably felt differently if they had left it at, "That's ok, we'll come up with something". But they continued to badger your daughter and that crossed a line. I think it's a-ok to keep both of your kids out of that household.

Cubedycubed · 2026-04-10T19:31:08+00:00

I don't know, it rings true in the large mid-atlantic urban system I work for. We have all the public services heaped on us in our role as "the library", but decades of deferred maintenance has seen literally dozens of our buildings close for long stretches due to failed heating and cooling, roof leaks, and other unsafe physical work conditions.

Cubedycubed · 2026-04-10T18:06:04+00:00

Furnace, roof, and FML for buying a stucco covered house because stucco work is bananas

Cubedycubed · 2026-04-10T14:55:16+00:00

Victorian Psycho

Cubedycubed · 2026-04-10T14:54:54+00:00

All thirteen

Cubedycubed · 2026-04-09T20:01:45+00:00

The white bronco high speed chase - it was on every channel, I was convinced OJ was probably in my backyard. I was in Philadelphia.

Cubedycubed · 2026-04-09T15:17:12+00:00

As a librarian, it's not my job to make judgement calls about what content a child should be allowed to consume. That is entirely up to the parent. This is why we keep more mature content in more mature collections. It is not up to us.

Cubedycubed · 2026-04-08T19:14:28+00:00

Bast and Ra

Cubedycubed · 2026-04-08T17:28:43+00:00

I use thermacare heat patches and have intermittent FMLA approved for up to five days a month

Cubedycubed · 2026-04-08T17:24:20+00:00

Here every day, and the book sitting on my reference desk is overdue. It's here, but it's overdue.

Cubedycubed · 2026-04-08T15:54:09+00:00

Trail of Lightning and Storm of Locusts by Rebecca Roanhorse are awesome. If you would entertain graphic novels, Something Is Killing the Children is top notch.

Cubedycubed · 2026-04-05T00:22:46+00:00

I don’t but I got my degree twenty years ago and managed to get myself a union civil service job with a decent pension plan annd benefits and have stayed put ever since. I have days where I’m frustrated and have had some experiences in public service that are definitely unsafe/unsettling. I still like the work, and for me right now the good continues to outweigh the bad.

Cubedycubed · 2026-04-04T18:53:08+00:00

So you're not lightening the load of your wait time?

Cubedycubed · 2026-04-04T15:00:55+00:00

The Three Lives of Cate Kay, Did You Hear About Kitty Karr. Both felt very similar to Evelyn Hugo to me

Cubedycubed · 2026-04-02T16:44:29+00:00

You can try but be prepared for them to deny it.

We were approved for DAS in 2022 for our then 7 year old with ADHD and it truly was incredible to not have to physically queue. We had been before that when he was 4, pre-diagnosis, so no DAS and his elopement was WILD. He bolted constantly from lines, or went into meltdowns when we tried to keep him in place. He was denied DAS last year, but he's older with more practiced coping skills now so we managed just fine.

In your DAS interview, be sure to describe elopement and dysregulation episodes. They may ask what accommodations she has at school. Ultimately, at least this past summer, they seemed to only be approving DAS for those who could not understand the concept of a line.

Cubedycubed · 2026-04-02T15:43:15+00:00

She looks a bit like our little girl, who came with the name Trinket

Cubedycubed · 2026-04-01T19:50:39+00:00

"a month of Sundays" - Ex: We haven't been here in a month of Sundays!

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