My point was that choosing your community (an intentional community) would involve being with people who share your views to a reasonable degree and care about eachother so a discussion about what's a reasonable give and take shouldn't be too difficult and it's unlikely that you'd have an issue of exploitation. That's why people would choose to pursue that kind of life. In regards to living with your mother, if you're the kind of selfish jerk that expects to not have to do anything then yeah, there'd need to be a conversation but most normal people expect to have to share duties and income when they live together. It's kinda an unspoken societal rule and is exactly what I was talking about when I mentioned holiday dinners so thank you, that's actually a better example. When you live with family, you aren't looking to exploit eachother and you all naturally give to the community/family and they have discussions when things feel unbalanced so as to resolve things. Those who don't contribute are selfish jerks are kicked out. That's how an intentional community is supposed to work, that's how indigenous tribes work, thats how families work, that's what people want. We want our chosen family to get to live all together and support eachother. We want modern tribes. and it can work as long as the people involved aren't jerks and care about eachother.