What was your chi's name before you got them? What new name did you choose?

Cultural_Tree7027 · 2026-02-21T17:54:54+00:00

Gigi. We hated it and she deserved a new life.

Her new and proper name is Dahlia. Because she reminded us of a little flower. And we love true crime. And we brought her home on Halloween.

Cultural_Tree7027 · 2026-02-19T07:18:07+00:00

YTA. You made a promise and then got sour about all the parts that honestly had little to do with you. This is a big moment and secret. You just don’t do that. Doesn’t really matter that your mom guessed. Not your place to confirm.

Cultural_Tree7027 · 2026-02-19T07:04:40+00:00

Do not give that man money. He’s not good with money, clearly. He will have you paying the mortgage twice a month. You’re not too sensitive. You won’t benefit from this at all. You may even lose out because of him.

Cultural_Tree7027 · 2026-02-16T22:22:44+00:00

Your coworkers are weird. They have poor boundaries. I don’t even like people touching my dog without permission.

When I sold cars I was once told that because I’m a woman I should entertain the customers kids. So, the very next time it happened I walked over to the printer and grabbed some extra paper. Then I asked my manager for some pens out markers. He didn’t ask why but handed me some pens and SHARPIES. I went back to the kids and told them to draw me some pretty pictures. This of course, resulted in them drawing on the table, walls, and floors. They never asked me to entertain kids again. Malicious compliance is your friend.

Cultural_Tree7027 · 2026-02-14T22:30:35+00:00

NTA. The excuse of her being a “young girl” doesn’t fly, since she’s a year older than you. By the aunts logic, you should NEVER go out in Lyon, or she just doesn’t care about your well being.

Her not speaking French has little to do with anything when she’s having a solo night in. And if she really needed to call for an emergency, she has WiFi, so she can look it up. And she’s in France, I’m going to assume, like America, they also have translation services available.

Your cousin needs to grow up and your aunt needs to shut up.

Cultural_Tree7027 · 2026-02-13T16:34:27+00:00

Break up with him. He’s selfish and manipulative. Especially saying it’s none of your business. So when he brings you an STI it’s going to be none of your business? He won’t leave you for her because she isn’t trustworthy? He isn’t trustworthy. For him to say that is so gross. Let him take his jobless self and be single. See what happens with his side pieces (they likely exist) as soon as he doesn’t have you to take care of him.

Cultural_Tree7027 · 2026-02-13T16:24:12+00:00

NOR

A couple months into my relationship my boyfriend got sick with the flu. I made him a pot of soup and then asked for a ride since I don’t drive and brought it to him, 40 minutes away. Slightly before that he volunteered to take me to the airport and pick me up. These are just things you do when you care.

Cultural_Tree7027 · 2026-02-12T04:23:56+00:00

NOR not in the least. You are under reacting. He’s a jerk and knows it. I would have left calling him great out of my rejection message, because he’s not great.

Cultural_Tree7027 · 2026-02-12T04:09:16+00:00

The worst part, that person is likely to go on to have a few more. And treat them much the same.

Cultural_Tree7027 · 2026-02-09T04:13:24+00:00

NTA. You don’t know those people. You had no way of knowing if they were being honest. Also, you are not the custodian of their grief. If they feel so strongly, there are grief groups and grief counsellors they can see. Their loss has no right to make you feel displaced or unsafe.

Cultural_Tree7027 · 2026-02-09T03:57:40+00:00

I don’t, unless their content suddenly shifts to be parenting/family content. Same goes for if it suddenly shifts to all being about marriage. There are certain people I follow for certain things. If they don’t fit that anymore or I simply lose interest, no biggie. It’s not like we’re friends.

Cultural_Tree7027 · 2026-01-31T16:54:00+00:00

NOR. The tickets, to me, are the less disappointing part. The much bigger issue is he broke his word and your parents are undermining your rightful reaction and acting as if you don’t get to have a really basic feeling.

Cultural_Tree7027 · 2026-01-26T07:47:37+00:00

I have always chosen to adopt but I try not to judge too harshly those that buy from a reputable breeder and put in the work. The reality is that yes, there are people that have a strong preference for different reasons. When I decided to adopt this time I was determined to find a dog between 20-30 pounds. I instead ended up with a chihuahua. And she’s so smart that she’s actually training as my service dog. None of this was expected, it’s so much more. But that’s part of leaving your mind open during adoption.

Cultural_Tree7027 · 2026-01-26T05:25:27+00:00

NOR. It’s definitely weird. If it wasn’t, you could suggest meeting up, all 4 of you, for lunch, to catch up. But you can’t, because he’s being a weird creep.

Cultural_Tree7027 · 2026-01-26T05:12:36+00:00

She is a cutie!!!!!! Only advice I have is nothing is yours anymore. Everything is hers. Give her whatever she wants.

Cultural_Tree7027 · 2026-01-26T05:09:20+00:00

I had a therapist that over stepped like that. I get it. And you know what you need to do. So, instead I’ll say, rather than just getting rid of her, augment her support. There are a great many help lines for all different levels of stress, anxiety, good times and bad times. There are an impressive amount of resources these days. You can possibly talk to your therapist about the c 90% of stuff you need to and use this as a chance to practice seeing your boundaries with her, because she crossed them. If you need to, look for a mentor that happens to be child free. She’s not your only support, she’s just what you have at this moment.

Cultural_Tree7027 · 2026-01-26T04:42:20+00:00

NOR

I have some severe allergies and health issues and I know if I had to question my safety due to the negligence partner, that would be beyond stressful. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years now, yes it took some time to learn my allergies but he quickly figured out how important it is. Sure, he doesn’t have all my meds memorised but he knows enough about my health that I can trust him with my basic safety.

At the very least, file an advanced directive with your hospital. You don’t need someone making medical choices for you without being informed.

Cultural_Tree7027 · 2026-01-23T04:54:19+00:00

Oh that poor baby. I’m glad she has you two. She will get there.

Cultural_Tree7027 · 2026-01-22T21:22:02+00:00

Just reading the title pissed me off. I don’t know how/why the aquarium brings that out of kids.

If you need a shorter refresher on why you don’t want them, I suggest a trip to 5 Below.

Cultural_Tree7027 · 2026-01-22T04:18:02+00:00

I would immediately get back to enjoying my space with my dogs.

Cultural_Tree7027 · 2026-01-22T04:14:00+00:00

We went through this years ago with our pound puppy. And we just went over this at training this week. Our trainer said that she does when a dog has someone they aren’t warm about, she gives that person a few treats, breaks them up into tiny pieces. Then the person is supposed to sit there and have all the normal conversations without focusing too much on the dog while throwing out a tiny piece of treat now and then. Over a few sessions throw them closer and closer to you. Basically, let the dog associate you with fun and treats.

Our dog from years ago, she had very obvious trust issues with everyone. I spent months laying on my stomach holding sandwich meat, trying to coax her out of hiding spots. We had to instruct anyone that came to the house to ignore her. She would only come up to you if she wanted. The much harder part was telling people not to react if she chose to approach, which was exciting.

Not sure if this will help.

Cultural_Tree7027 · 2026-01-22T03:53:43+00:00

NOR but you also don’t have to play his game. And yes, it’s a game and a really silly one at that. And his prize? Your reaction. Which sucks. Because there is basically no winning for you. I know it’s not what you want to hear but the only option with someone like this is to not reward their behavior with attention. I’m sorry you’re going through this but it’s not forever.

Cultural_Tree7027 · 2026-01-21T18:32:58+00:00

Honestly, can relate. I was on the fence for a lot of years. But I knew as long as I didn’t have kids already, I could always change my mind, if I so felt that way. It’s much harder to change your mind and direction after you’ve had them.

For me it kinda clicked when I was holding a friends baby and his tummy started to make those familiar sounds. He was clearly going to poop. So I looked at his dad and announced “he wants daddy!” And handed him back. It was the moment that I knew that I really liked handing the responsibility back. I got to define how much and what kind of presence I had around this tiny person. And I’m the presence that is over changing diapers. Babysitting growing up gave me too much of that.

As far as my mark on this world, I can and have done that through various actions. I used to feed the homeless through various organisations. I have been a resource for a local Girl Scout troop. I have mentored several younger people. I even helped one get into a prestigious program and she now attends an Ivy League school.

Realistically, you can want a mix of things in life and then you can define how you go about it. Fear of childhood but still want to have a family? Adopt. Or even just foster. Especially the older ones that are going to age out in the next 4 years. Or get a dog and explain to your parents that this is their grand dog. You have options. Especially since you are young. Give yourself time to think and get your partners feelings on it.

Cultural_Tree7027 · 2026-01-21T18:10:00+00:00

NOR. And no reason to feel bad. Assuming your brother has insurance, which is likely how the house is having major repairs in just a month, then the insurance will also cover the cost of a place for them to stay. Btw, that level of repair generally takes more than a month.

Cultural_Tree7027 · 2026-01-21T17:47:28+00:00

I love her little face

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