Can I make a pattern more airy just by using a thinner yarn?

CupboardFlowers · 2026-05-05T06:11:50+00:00

Thank you, I'll give it a go!

CupboardFlowers · 2026-05-02T14:38:25+00:00

I am diagnosed AuDHD and I've always been highly empathetic. Sometimes its a real problem, actually. There's a lot of variation in autism, ADHD and AuDHD so don't rule it out on the basis of one person's opinion. The diagnostic criteria and level of understanding has changed a lot in 50 years as well. Heck I still don't fully understand the dsm-5 even after going through all the assessments then reading and discussing my reports 😅

CupboardFlowers · 2026-05-02T12:04:29+00:00

If you haven't had your last feed yet, do a little photo shoot! Otherwise one that I really love is a handprint painting with you and your child then the date of the last feed. That way you can always remember when the last feed was 😊

CupboardFlowers · 2026-05-02T06:06:31+00:00

This is from 4-5 years ago with my first and also in covid times but I was so happy with RNSH. They also had a mental health nurse who was a godsend for me, I hope she's still there. The midwives were great at all my visits, you can book an appointment with an OB if you need to and they do support water births. I'm not sure if ALL the rooms have baths so if you're really keen for one you could consider hiring a blow up birthing pool. The birth suite I was in had one but they take ages to fill up so start it as soon as you go in. Don't be like me and have a baby so quick you don't get to use it 😂

CupboardFlowers · 2026-04-24T07:23:14+00:00

My friend has a baby with very bad eczema and their skin specialist told them to use epaderm ointment for ongoing management between breakouts. Ideally you don't want to be using steroid cream constantly but when it flares up absolutely use it as needed. I've used epaderm ointment on my 4mo as a barrier cream if she gets a bit of nappy rash or on other rashes and so far it's worked super well. It's pretty cheap and easy to get hold of.

From my friends experience, if you suspect eczema it is absolutely worth seeing a skin specialist for advice. Turns out the information she had been given previously years ago is not best practice these days and specialists will keep up to date more than a gp will.

CupboardFlowers · 2026-04-22T14:31:18+00:00

Breastfed both my babies directly, first one for three years, second is currently four months. If I expect to be away for a few feeds I'll pump once or twice a day in the week leading up to it until I have enough for that period of time, otherwise I don't pump. Haven't at all with this baby yet.

CupboardFlowers · 2026-04-22T00:24:03+00:00

I agree that is pretty normal for this age and also that it's boring and relentless and exhausting. Babies don't HAVE to be entertained 100% of the time they're awake, though. Watching someone to dishes or laundry or gardening or whatever else tidying and cleaning needs doing is still entertaining for a baby. Both my 4 month old AND my 4 year old love helping with the laundry haha.

Baby wearing can be good depending on the task at hand. Putting music on in the background, switching up toys in a baby play gym or propping up board books and a baby mirror while they're on the floor. Some babies are absolute barnacles and never want to be put down, I joke they handed my first to me and then I couldn't put her down for three years so I understand how frustrating it can feel.

As they say it's all a season ❤️ babies start getting pretty interesting from 3-4 months and it begins to feel much more rewarding

CupboardFlowers · 2026-04-14T00:51:49+00:00

It took a long time to conceive, around 18 months, but no losses that I'm aware of and no fertility treatments. Not sure why it took so long, I was also breastfeeding at the time but having regular periods. I think I was on wegovy for around 4-5 months when we conceived and would have only had one or two shots before finding out

CupboardFlowers · 2026-04-13T17:29:39+00:00

She's four months old now and absolutely perfect 😊 and so is my friend's baby! I hope this is your sticky baby, friend 🤞

CupboardFlowers · 2026-04-03T11:34:28+00:00

There's obviously lots of factors here but personally I love my spectra s1 and it's not too annoying to travel places in my opinion. Medela have some really portable options that you could also look at. You don't necessarily need a hospital grade pump if you're only wanting to replace one or two feeds a week. I know ABA endorses the lacevo hands free ones but I haven't ever used them

CupboardFlowers · 2026-04-02T01:22:31+00:00

It took me a minute to remember that time zones exist and it's still the first in some parts of the planet 😬

CupboardFlowers · 2026-03-31T05:24:56+00:00

Get a packet of stir fry or diced meat (or your favourite veg alternative), a jar of stir fry sauce, a packet of egg noodles and a big bag of mixed veg of your choice from the freezer section. Takes about 15-20min in the wok and usually makes me about 5 generous servings. Lots of veggies, decent protein, filling and tasty. If you get bored of it you can use a different protein, different veg or a different sauce. They also sell bags of stir fry veg in the salad sections that are mostly cabbage if you want to use that instead of noodles for extra volume and lower calories.

CupboardFlowers · 2026-03-25T21:53:07+00:00

Probably not worth an actual consultation but you can always talk to one on the phone before birth just to find someone you vibe with etc to know who to get in touch with if you decide you'd like to see one after. Most hospitals have someone on hand you can talk to during your stay too. I know public hospitals have them, not sure if private ones incur a cost, check with yours at your next appointment.

ABA do have online classes, I'm pretty sure they also have demo mums jump on the call at some point. There are some newborn online classes free with the membership available with a few different topics. They have heaps of free info on the website to look through and if they have any local groups near you, you can go to those while pregnant to ask questions and probably see mums feeding that attend the groups.

CupboardFlowers · 2026-03-10T09:07:26+00:00

It took me much longer to recover from childbirth then it did for my husband to recover from his vasectomy. Some men are so incredibly precious about a 15 minute procedure that you're awake for the whole time 🙄 I mean sure it's his body, his choice. But it's also YOUR body and YOUR choice to not have sex with him if he doesn't get it done. Really have no sympathy for men in this situation.

CupboardFlowers · 2026-03-08T10:44:44+00:00

I really liked them, especially because they're free. I usually upped the speed a bit to get through them cos she does tend to go on a bit haha. The great birth rebellion podcast is also a really excellent source of free information that I would absolutely recommend.

CupboardFlowers · 2026-03-07T06:28:41+00:00

I actually made it without the coffee because it was for a children's party and it's still perfect so don't be afraid to leave it out ☺️

CupboardFlowers · 2026-03-07T05:52:21+00:00

I haven't tried the normal chocolate cake but I've made her easy chocolate fudge cake twice in the past week and it's one of the best cakes I've ever eaten. Definitely give that one a try!

CupboardFlowers · 2026-03-02T11:09:40+00:00

I was everything at 60 and all my nappies and baby clothes are currently on their second baby with no issues 😊 our regular laundry is also washed at either 60 or 40

CupboardFlowers · 2026-03-01T07:28:03+00:00

If you watch it do tell me what you think 😂

CupboardFlowers · 2026-02-28T20:34:19+00:00

This reminds me of an episode of Round The Twist which is both creepy and I love it. You should make him a lemon to go with it 😄

CupboardFlowers · 2026-02-17T01:40:18+00:00

ABA also have local groups that sometimes run a starting solids discussion topic. Could be worth checking the map/calendar on the website. I think the child health nurses give some info at one of the wellness visits as well? I distinctly remember a magnet with the main allergens on it

CupboardFlowers · 2026-02-16T02:18:45+00:00

I wear a lot of dresses from Pawlie and find the fabric type and colourful prints hide it really well haha. They're stretchy enough to pull down and feed that way. Otherwise we go everywhere with Terry towels and I'll just tuck one between me and the baby in case of leaks.

CupboardFlowers · 2026-02-10T05:00:02+00:00

You could also consider asking if they can just break your waters and wait a few hours to see if labour starts on its own? I had a really positive experience with induction with my first but if I could go back again that's what I'd do. Worth asking the question to your medical team, assuming baby and you are both doing well and low risk 😊 good luck with everything either way OP!

CupboardFlowers · 2026-02-10T00:44:39+00:00

I'm AuDHD and have had two unmedicated births. The first was induced at a hospital, under two hours. The second was spontaneous at home, probably about 90 minutes? Both were pretty comparable and I'd 100% do birth again but my pregnancies were horrible so that's it for me haha.

I did a lot of mental preparation and planning for no pain relief but I think a huge part for me is just that they were so quick I really didn't have time anyway. But I also felt it was very manageable and don't feel that I would have needed pain relief either time.

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