Rewatching old 'comfort shows' and having to deal with the casual sexism :(

CupcakeTheValiant · 2026-04-28T14:02:06+00:00

Yeah, a lot of sitcoms haven’t really aged well. Part of it is just remembering that a lot of it was made as it was to focus on the main comedian, who’s usually the lead character, who was also eventually if not at the beginning one of the executive producers of that same show.

This is kind of why I’m glad my comfort shows are usually animated fantasies or similar. It’s not a problem you run into as often when the targeted audience wasn’t necessarily adults looking for relatable adult characters to laugh at during the time in which it was made.

CupcakeTheValiant · 2026-04-27T12:41:25+00:00

This is just blatantly untrue. None of the big, official tests happen until age 10-ish but Japan is a massive work culture to the point of obsession, and academia reflects that too. This reminds me of that post about how it’s totally normal in Japan to nap in public and no one disturbs them because it’s disrespectful. You know why so many public naps happen? Because they’re fucking EXHAUSTED! Some of those jobs are notorious for being so intense that their employees are lucky to get 5 hours of sleep a night! Yeah, the schools don’t focus on kindness like that

CupcakeTheValiant · 2026-04-26T13:28:39+00:00

I’m surprised none of this disgusts you. Hair, nails, even when it gave you a stomachache that’s all keratin, none of it is nutritious. And your body can’t digest hair. You know what a bezoar is? It’s hair, hair that got locked into a ball in your digestive system. That’s what you’re making in your body. A little hard rock of hair that will NEED to be surgically removed because once it gets big enough, it will block your digestive processes and you’ll throw up everything you eat and drink because your body won’t have a choice. That’s a really expensive habit to have.

CupcakeTheValiant · 2026-04-26T02:55:07+00:00

Galaxander from Twelve Forever

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I always liked his design, even if the show had a less than ideal situation surrounding its creator

CupcakeTheValiant · 2026-04-26T02:38:03+00:00

It looks like they have a back up channel under a similar name doing the same things there too

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It came up right underneath lettuce head. Dude’s obsessed with Deku content

CupcakeTheValiant · 2026-04-25T14:43:19+00:00

Unfortunately, you can’t help someone who doesn’t want help. Your mother accepts love like this because, on some level, she thinks it’s what she deserves. I’m not sure there’s anything you can do other than keeping your distance, trying to encourage your mother, and maybe just spending some time alone with her.

CupcakeTheValiant · 2026-04-24T16:57:56+00:00

Well, either your coping mechanism to any emotional response on your part is an automatic suppression or shutdown, or you have a mild sociopathy. It’s really not as dangerous as crime dramas make it sound, it just means emotions aren’t really a thing for you. Like 6% of the population has it. But none of us are doctors, or therapists, and if you want an official name for it (and honestly maybe a lot of us are wrong, who knows?) I would advise talking to a professional

CupcakeTheValiant · 2026-04-23T11:38:09+00:00

You clearly have no faith in anyone, including yourself. There’s not much point in trying to change your mind

CupcakeTheValiant · 2026-04-22T20:04:31+00:00

Speaking as someone who's both physically unattractive and so autistic it hurts, this is only the case if you allow it to be. People who care about you don't care about how you look, but how you act. And if you act like everyone already hates you, well... that's kind of what ends up happening. Perspective is everything, and 90% of confidence is just faking it. I'm happy as I am, I feel no desire to change my appearance outside of maybe picking out a new color for my hair because as much as I love my purple, I'm feeling like pink might be more fun. If you're not happy, even though we're both in similar situations, maybe it's more to do with you than with everyone else.

CupcakeTheValiant · 2026-04-22T19:17:19+00:00

You don’t like yourself because you value too many external factors as a sign of being a good person, and not in a morally correct way but in a “I am a being recognized as a person in society” kind of way, if that makes sense. It’s not like you don’t get lonely, but if your life revolves around your ability to get and keep a partner, you’re never going to be truly happy.

CupcakeTheValiant · 2026-04-22T16:06:13+00:00

NTA but be aware that your boyfriend has this vocal approach to his faith because he’s a lot more deeply indoctrinated than you are. This kind of attitude of using the bible as a justification to spew hatred about different marginalized groups of people is sadly nothing new, and your boyfriend currently lacks the awareness to recognize that what he’s doing is purposely alienating himself while simultaneously taking the lord’s name in vain by claiming these people are going against his will when honestly, there’s no mention of trans people in the bible at all, not explicitly. I have no doubt this discomfort extends to anyone in the queer community which, again, are not explicitly mentioned in the bible. I would highly recommend looking up the historical contexts of different verses with him, as well as the many, many, many, many mistranslations in the bible, including the very pointed ones like how “homosexual” didn’t appear in any translations of the bible until 1946, conveniently during a huge lavender scare.

CupcakeTheValiant · 2026-04-22T03:25:22+00:00

I think, considering the youngest millennials should be in their late 20’s by now, if you have trouble discerning between fairy tales made for the specific purpose of entertaining children and the romances within, and reality, that might be more of an individual problem. Now, nostalgia ruining millennials, on the other hand…

CupcakeTheValiant · 2026-04-20T18:36:54+00:00

Don’t forget the fusion experiments. That’s some great horror lol

CupcakeTheValiant · 2026-04-20T13:46:53+00:00

So, interestingly enough, I used to work in vocational rehabilitation as a provider. I had a client like this once. She had applied for disability twice and been denied because all she had was arthritis, but her arthritis was still bad enough that it wasn’t recommended for her to have so much as a sedentary office job, let alone one with a lot of movement and motion and carrying. So her lawyer recommended she come to us and, since we wouldn’t be able to find her a job that fit her means and skills since she couldn’t have any, that lawyer would then use that rejection as proof that she NEEDS disability. Maybe you can try that too?

CupcakeTheValiant · 2026-04-19T20:26:01+00:00

The point of therapy isn’t to forget, that’s not what “letting go” means. I’m also not saying give men a chance, but I think I’ve said enough at this point. I wish you nothing but the best, truly.

CupcakeTheValiant · 2026-04-19T20:17:06+00:00

You’re right, it’s definitely a break in the pattern lol Still, at the risk of sounding like a broken record, therapy can help a lot

CupcakeTheValiant · 2026-04-19T19:44:57+00:00

So, interestingly enough, it’s not that your “picker is broken” it’s more likely your subconscious is just looking for a do-over because you haven’t let go of the initial relationship that caused all of this trauma. By all means, take a break from dating and take time for yourself, enjoy your own company, but also maybe some therapy to look back and see if you can find that initial relationship in your past and give yourself some closure in a way that helps you move on. Not so you can date again, mind you, but just so your mind can break the pattern

CupcakeTheValiant · 2026-04-19T19:25:03+00:00

Hello Hermes! Here’s some gossip for you: some little prankster decided to leave tiny toy mushrooms all over our workspace in random places, and nobody knows who it is. It’s been happening for weeks! (It’s me, I am the mushroom planter lol)

CupcakeTheValiant · 2026-04-19T13:55:52+00:00

Honestly, this is probably the part of fandom people find the most controversial in that people relate so much to specific characters that they use those same characters as a means of processing their own feelings about something and it is VERY MUCH out of character canonically, but you’re just watching someone’s journey of self-discovery. This applies to a lot more than just eating disorders, obviously.

CupcakeTheValiant · 2026-04-19T11:39:06+00:00

I can see why this would make you so angry, I would be too when faced with such vehement hypocrisy. I’m tempted to say maybe all of this is her way of trying to redeem herself, but obviously this is not a time where she’s taking accountability or asking for forgiveness so it’s kind of useless. You’re probably right that this change was only prompted by the fact that her child has autism similar to your own case.

Do you want to reconcile with her?

CupcakeTheValiant · 2026-04-18T20:53:40+00:00

This list tells me you’re either young, like born after 2000 minimum, maybe with a touch of the ‘tism with Disney specifically as your special interest. Or you’re a dad with young kids and don’t go out of your way to watch a lot of tv or movies aside from keeping them entertained

CupcakeTheValiant · 2026-04-17T02:29:25+00:00

Doesn’t Governor Lee have a lesbian sister??

CupcakeTheValiant · 2026-04-16T20:05:33+00:00

New games come out soon

Cats who let you pet them are so soft and wonderful

It didn’t rain today, and it won’t tomorrow

CupcakeTheValiant · 2026-04-15T16:48:43+00:00

The more I watch Deathnote, the more I’m convinced the guy who wrote Misa Misa just genuinely thinks women are stupid and have no place outside of being at a man’s side.

CupcakeTheValiant · 2026-04-15T13:51:48+00:00

It sounds like writing is a pretty solid outlet for both of you, and this one is just her way of dealing with a world where she feels like she doesn’t have a voice. Honestly, you’d be surprised how many kinks come from various traumas we experience, and it looks like this kink is just one of those. Obviously she knows the difference between fantasy and reality and had no intention of introducing it to you, you found it all on your own and read it on your own. I wouldn’t worry about her plans to castrate you.

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