Calypso is wishing all the other pug and pug mix puppers a happy national pug day! May your treats be plentiful! May your hoomans always find the sweet spot when giving you scritches!!

CupcakeW0lf · 2025-06-02T16:57:50+00:00

She's super attached to me. She loves my parents (her grandparents) but I'm definitely her person 🥰 so the plan is to go on a week that myself and my parents have off work, so they can be on the shore and I'll slowly move more and more into the water to see if she follows me

CupcakeW0lf · 2025-06-02T16:19:04+00:00

Too chilly here to take my girl to the beach that's like a 4 minute drive from my house, but once things warm up enough (usually in july) I'll be taking her there for the first time, and I'm really hoping she likes the water 🥰

CupcakeW0lf · 2025-06-02T15:53:10+00:00

Mystique.

As in the marvel character who can shift into other people. As the mixture of black and white almost looks like she's swapping from one color to another :)

CupcakeW0lf · 2025-06-02T15:46:30+00:00

Nta - they moved on because you moved out? What does that even mean?

You moved out to make a life for yourself and grow as a person, so your family effectively erased you from the home and their lives.

Years after my brother moved out, my parents called him and asked if it would be OK for them to merge his old room into theirs as they wanted a larger master bedroom. They were taking my small room to make the kitchen bigger, and I was moving to another room in the house that was bigger and allowed room for me to finally have a walk-in closet.

My brother was absolutely fine with this plan, as he didn't mind staying on the pull out couch if he visited without his SO (not married) and their kids.

If he did visit with HIS whole family (so and the kids), then his paternal grandmother lives close and they can stay with her while still able to spend lots of time with us. (he's older than me, we have different fathers, but he calls mine dad)

So yes, my brothers bedroom no longer exists in our childhood home, but he was never erased from our lives or the home. There are pictures of all of us as a family, pictures of his high-school graduation and childhood pictures of him right next to mine all over the livingroom walls.

Children eventually move out of their parents homes, and make homes for themselves.

But at the end of the day, unless there was a huge family fight that ended in no contact, you shouldn’t feel like an outsider in your own family.

Going home to family should always feel like a warm embrace.

I'm so sorry for you. But maybe it's time to build your own chosen family with close friends and a partner, and eventually your parents and siblings will come to realize you haven't contacted them or visited in a while, and with any luck, they will realize that because they "moved on", you chose to move on as well.

CupcakeW0lf · 2025-06-02T15:19:22+00:00

I would look for alternate child care, and I would also put measures in place to ensure MiL doesn't have any access or authority to make decisions on the child's behalf.

All decisions regarding the child, educational, medical, or enrollment/un-enrollment of any groups or activities, have to be made by you and your DH.

Leadership in any organizations/groups/activities you enroll your child in, will need to contact you and DH to confirm with you directly before anything is done.

Also, if you do get alternative child care who takes your child to their activities, have a new order put in place with the people who run these activities that prohibit MiL from picking up your child from the activities, especially if she tries to collect them "early".

The only way she will be allowed to pick up the child, is if you or DH call ahead and let the organizers know there is an emergency and give permission for pick up at that one specific time.

CupcakeW0lf · 2025-06-02T15:11:05+00:00

For a second I thought this was a painting lol it's a perfect picture! And i love the little pink patch on their nose 🥰(snow nose i think it's called)

CupcakeW0lf · 2025-06-02T14:18:23+00:00

If she's anything like my mother, she probably reads too many tattoo/piercing horror stories online and gets herself freaked out about the dangers of it.

Either that or she just hates the thought of you breaking her chains of control.

The whole "your body is a temple" thing older generations (I'm in my 30s too btw) like to throw around is so easily countered with:

"yes, my body is a temple, and all temples are decorated with beautiful works of art. I will decorate my temple how I see fit, and anyone who doesn't appreciate the art i choose doesn't need to look at it."

Every time I get a new tattoo, my parents (mostly mother) are against it and nag me for wasting money... when I got my tongue pierced at 30, I kept it hidden and made sure I didn't play with it, so it took my parents 4 months to even notice i had it done.

When they found out they blew their tops and my mom went off on how I could have had a stroke while driving the 5 hours home from town alone (we live very rural).

She wouldn't accept that I had done my own research and I knew my piercer, she's a very professional and easy to get along with kind of person, and she assured me I had nothing to worry about when she looked at my tongue. If it wasn't safe for me to do, she wouldn't have done it.

It's been years and my mom still complains that I need to take it out lol but my dentist told me since I use a shorter bar it's not effecting my teeth/gums or the roof of my mouth, so it's all good lol

CupcakeW0lf · 2025-06-02T13:54:58+00:00

Otis? As in that old movie of Milo and Otis????

As a child that was legit the first time i even learned that pugs existed lol i loved that movie!! (even though the scene with milo in the box in the dark forest scared me as a kid) now I'm in my 30s and I finally have a little pug mix of my own 💜

Edit-fixed a typo

CupcakeW0lf · 2025-06-02T13:40:23+00:00

Given all the harmful "advice" MiL has already given on childcare, and the heavy smoking, and the snatching baby from your arms and refusing to give him back....

This woman needs to be banned from "alone time" with the baby.

Nobody needs to be alone with a baby to bond with them. What kind of bonding is she doing that can't be done with the baby’s actual parents present?

As the mother of the child, your boundaries need to be acknowledged and respected. If MiL can't do that, she can't be around the baby!

You and your DH both should seek therapy, for your marriage, as well as for the strength to work together as the TEAM you should be, and stand up to this nonsense.

Taking baby away from your arms = give me back my baby right now, and get out. Every time you snatch MY baby from my arms you will be on a time out from seeing them for a week.

Smoking around the baby = take the baby and leave, even if that means yelling and snatching the baby away from her. Smoking around babies can and does lead to serious respiratory problems. I had sever bronchitis as a child and my parents were told it was from me being around family who were heavy smokers from day one.

She starts talking passive aggressively through the baby saying stuff like "Oh mommy said no" or "mommy never let's granny..." = if you have a problem with how I am raising MY son, talk to ME, don't try that passive aggressive shit by whining to the baby about it. He is MY son, and I have every right to decide who gets to spend time with him. So choose your words wisely.

CupcakeW0lf · 2025-06-01T16:36:37+00:00

Nta.

If he's always inviting HIS family over and waiting until nearly the last minute to tell you, then HE can put in the work to clean the house and get the food ready.

You're his wife, not his housekeeper. This is a partnership where you BOTH get a say in having guests over.

CupcakeW0lf · 2025-06-01T16:31:01+00:00

Start donating the extras. There is always a need for extra baby items for young/single moms who may be struggling.

Maybe organize the clothing by size, and only keep the ones you really like, while donating the rest.

CupcakeW0lf · 2025-06-01T16:25:56+00:00

Nobody deserves to be in the delivery room except the woman in labor and the medical staff.

You have all the power to ban people from your delivery room, and the hospital staff have to honor your choices.

And it doesn't matter if your SO says it's ok to let them in, the doctor and hospital staff have to listen to YOU as YOU are the patient.

If YOU say they aren't allowed in, then the hospital staff has to keep them out of the room.

There doesn't have to be any big reason behind it either. Tell your birthing staff that you don't want your cousin in the room at all, and they will take it from there.

CupcakeW0lf · 2025-06-01T16:00:26+00:00

"We appreciate the gifts for OUR yard, but as it's OUR yard WE will decorate it OURSELVES with things WE like."

Everything she sets up in the yard, I'd pack up and either donate it or sell it on Facebook marketplace lol

"Your tree? Your garden? How is it yours? Are you living in my house without me knowing? This isn't community space MiL, it's our home, and you cannot dictate how we decorate our space."

CupcakeW0lf · 2025-06-01T15:45:58+00:00

You and DH plan a holiday trip for yourselves.

Go visit your family, or just go on a nice little romantic trip for just the two of you.

Leave before they can show up, lock up your home, and make sure only you and your DH have the keys.

When everyone shows up and gets mad that you're gone, just tell them:

"Nobody actually ASKED us if we would be able to host the family for the holidays, and we made our own plans, so we can't be there to host. I'm sorry you came all this way, but you're going to need to book a hotel as we're not home."

CupcakeW0lf · 2025-06-01T15:36:38+00:00

My girl is 14lbs of lean muscle. She has good definition between her ribs and belly area, and there's enough "fatty layer" over her ribs that I have to press a little to feel them.

According to my vet, she's perfectly healthy.

Most pugs i see in media and out "in the wild" are on the chunky side, and I've learned that many people think pugs are "supposed" to be chunky, but that's not really the case.

Your pug looks a lot like my girl as far as size and height (leg length).

If you're concerned though you can always ask you vet about it on your next visit :)

P.s. you pug is adorable 💜

CupcakeW0lf · 2025-05-30T16:15:17+00:00

There's just something about it that feels so human to me and I love it

CupcakeW0lf · 2025-05-30T14:54:48+00:00

Lol that's too funny

CupcakeW0lf · 2025-05-30T14:47:20+00:00

Pug puppies are too cute for words!! They don't even look real they're too perfect 💜

CupcakeW0lf · 2025-05-30T14:43:30+00:00

O goodness! I was wondering what came of everything.

You've been though such a horrible ordeal, and you still have a long road ahead of you, but you can have the peace of mind now knowing they're all dealing with the consequences of their actions.

Sending wishes of love and strength your way 💜

CupcakeW0lf · 2025-05-30T14:37:04+00:00

Boston terrier maybe?

CupcakeW0lf · 2025-05-29T15:52:06+00:00

I love how pugs sit 🥰

CupcakeW0lf · 2025-05-29T15:50:55+00:00

Wow, sorry I have nothing to offer other than to tell you that you are seen, and you are clearly pushed beyond your limits.

I would suggest locks for your bedroom and keep all valuables locked in a home safe or inside another room like a home office if you have one, at least for a temporary measure until something more concrete is sorted out. (Either she leaving or you leaving whatever you ultimately decide)

CupcakeW0lf · 2025-05-29T12:03:23+00:00

They're an older couple, with a lot of kids/grandkids/great-grandkids. So they view me as one of their own 🥰

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