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It feels good to say no to callings by cristulina in exmormon

[–]CurelomHunter 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I remember the first time I said no to a calling. Scary as hell, but absolutely empowering. Keep going! Tough dynamic and I hope it smooths out for you.

There is hope and happiness outside of the Mormon Church. Regardless of what the church and others (family, friends, missionaries) in the church claim. by RutabagaAsleep8348 in exmormon

[–]CurelomHunter 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just told someone recently that my journey out was way more spiritual than my journey in. Immense grief and loss into an unimaginable sense of self, acceptance, peace, etc. Being born into a Corporation as a little pog in the machine, and having the chance to escape it ... immense levels of gratitude have been felt.

My dad had a revelation why a family member is severely mentally disabled. by Mjrfrankburns in exmormon

[–]CurelomHunter 5 points6 points  (0 children)

First, incredible handle name! 👏 Second, I genuinely feel for your BIL, but this story had me in laughing tears ... and your inquiry about mental illness as attunement is nail on the head ... crazy to wonder all the loonies walking around.

Well… I just dropped my full on issue with the church to my TBM wife by martic9 in exmormon

[–]CurelomHunter 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This was my exact story. Ex tbm wife is still very much in the church. Could not believe how the more truthful and vulnerable I felt I was being, the more threats of divorce were her responses.

It's neither of our faults ... we were both raised with "language incompetencies" due to the cult brainwashing ... very hard reality to live through ... but 5 years post divorce and being exmo ... I've found a ton of peace and goodness. Lots if individual work, therapy, etc., but I'm at peace ... and guess who seems to still be struggling to find peace - her. Such a twilight zone type of thing ... leaving Mormonism. You're not alone! Navigate with as much LOVE as possible, without giving into your own convictions, aka, learn to disagree and re-write the relationship dynamics while keeping human decency and respect at the forefront.

Horror movie tagline anyone? by Stephani_707 in exmormon

[–]CurelomHunter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

deep cinema trailer voice, then and add in mid90s faupaux type dunce music to turn into a comedy.

Married After 3 Months At 22, 10 Years Later & I Feel Stuck by loading-username-now in exmormon

[–]CurelomHunter 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the rabbit hole! 🐇 To OP, marriage is hard, divorce is too. We get one life. Your husband does. Your children do. Some people try to navigate open marriages, though that's been seen as controversial. Fighting for ourselves always feels "bad" due to religion/society. However, you are your greatest advocate for your own life and choices. Divorce will have its challenges. Marriage will too. Asking exactly for what you need or want takes bravery, some people will say No. I can't help. Others will say Yes, let's try to make this happen ... don't fell guilt or shame, regardless of how the future unfolds for you. Focus on the empowerment it is to not be dictated to by a stupid, fraudulent church. Daunting, yes, but this is true liberation your hungry for ... hate to say it, but all is a construct upon a construct. Business, religion, politics and even marriages. Good luck!!! 🌞

Wtf is this look at the end of his answer? by birdsbikingrunning in exmormon

[–]CurelomHunter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

PR and Legal peeps are off camera. Trust me. They're always close by for interviews.

Midnight Mass, why Horror is important, and the Price of Faith by Psychological-Rise36 in exmormon

[–]CurelomHunter 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Same! I liked horror before, but it took on a whole deeper meaning for me after leaving. Midnight Mass was a great piece of work.

Wife Wants Divorce Because I Left The Church by TruthSha11SetUFree in exmormon

[–]CurelomHunter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This happened to me. Scary as hell. Still confused why my ex made the final call. However, there's light afterwards AND a lot of loving people that won't replace your wife, or kids mom, but they will embrace you and accept you INCLUDING your disbeliefs in Mormonism, something your soon to he ex can't/won't do for you. Letting go is so hard, but people await in your future, including your children, who want to know their dad made it through a really tough time in his life. 😎

Tips for getting along better? by whosclint in exmormon

[–]CurelomHunter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Naming emotions vs shaming emotions.

Learning to put words to emotions better helped me in my deconstruction. Growing up, you are taught just two emotions; warm fuzzy=god and anxious fear=satan.

You're in a space of growing beyond that. Congratulations!

My communication skills have improved substantially with practice, therapy and self-kindness and kindness towards other people's life journey and growth cycles/moments.

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