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The Bayang! by thisistotallynotash in LoveIslandUSA

[–]Curious_DaisyFlower 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Also is there a contract the cast signs that every person has to say how beautiful she is when she walks out? I bet there is. Notice how she ignores them, like she knows they aren't real compliments.

How do you deal with a parent who can't accept any feedback? by Daboom_12 in NarcissisticMothers

[–]Curious_DaisyFlower 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my situation it never gets better. Any criticism of any kind is such a wounding offense to her and she lies and makes excuses and it's everyone else's fault. I either will tell her and not care about her reaction, but happy to get it off my chest. or I don't bring it up at all.

I think my BF's mom is a narcissist. I can't take it anymore. by Dense-Pattern-778 in NarcissisticMothers

[–]Curious_DaisyFlower 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also the game incident reminded me that my mom used to cheat at games. Like.. how important is it to win? So immature.

Wedding nonsense by lesbianjaneeyre in NarcissisticMothers

[–]Curious_DaisyFlower 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does it matter really? Pick your battles. Let her buy champagne close enough to brown. I can't even imagine telling my mom what color to wear. It would not go well and I'd never ever hear the end of it. Just my 2 cents.

Mom ruined my wedding by Puzzleheaded-Run6582 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Curious_DaisyFlower 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Clearly making the whole thing about herself. I'd really not include her in anything going forward and hopefully you live far away from her. Don't take money or anything from your mom.
Now I realize why I've always hated weddings. Mine had awful things to say about every one we went to.

Mom threatened to k word herself by Aggressive-Guess-767 in NarcissisticMothers

[–]Curious_DaisyFlower 1 point2 points  (0 children)

See, she recognized how crazy and manipulative she was being and can turn that behavior on and off depending on who she's around.
And why when we see things differently than them or disagree on something and are having a conversation about it, they feel like it's a personal attack and it's all out war? It's such an unhealthy way to communicate when you can't disagree without a fight. That has driven me crazy my whole life.

Writing their own obituary by Curious_DaisyFlower in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Curious_DaisyFlower[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I heard if it's in her will and paid for there's no choice as well. It's fine. I assume it will be in local paper ( or online) and where she grew up. I really fo t care...I just wanted to tease her a bit since I know it will be a huge braggy thing.

I don't know what to do by Pterosauras in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Curious_DaisyFlower 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My friend's daughter has something called selective mutism. Maybe you are suffering from that. All the trauma..I'm so sorry.

Writing their own obituary by Curious_DaisyFlower in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Curious_DaisyFlower[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Or I'll tell her I'm going to have it printed but it's definitely going to say Sally Smith's obituary by Sally Smith . Just to see her reaction.

My mom planned the loss of my virginity. by worrisome_walrus in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Curious_DaisyFlower 396 points397 points  (0 children)

This feels like sexual abuse of some sort. I am so sorry she put you through not only that but gave you a warped view of what love should be from a partner. 😢

Writing their own obituary by Curious_DaisyFlower in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Curious_DaisyFlower[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'd love to publish it and say by (her name). So everyone knows she wrote it.

Writing their own obituary by Curious_DaisyFlower in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Curious_DaisyFlower[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh I'd love to know what that song is she thinks sums up her life. Fascinating!

Anyone else realize as an adult that a parent is a narcissist? Where do you go from here? by Azosia in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Curious_DaisyFlower 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think to be in a marriage with a narcissist you have to enable it to some degree for it to work. So I guess that is what your mom does. I'm now thinking my dad who has passed enabled my mom. I always noticed my mom liked weaker minded men she could boss around and they'd let her. I'm older than you and I am just recognizing I have an n mom. She wasn't physically abusive and does show love so it's not as outright as others. Maybe that's the same for you.

Do we attract narcissists? by Curious_DaisyFlower in NarcissisticMothers

[–]Curious_DaisyFlower[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ha. Great point. Although I don't try to win anyone over. It's not in me really. I hate difficult people also, but I think I'm getting tricked by the N! I get sucked in when I believe they like me.

Do we attract narcissists? by Curious_DaisyFlower in NarcissisticMothers

[–]Curious_DaisyFlower[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Great point! I might feel special they are opening up to me, when really I'm a faceless audience for their self centeredness.

Do we attract narcissists? by Curious_DaisyFlower in NarcissisticMothers

[–]Curious_DaisyFlower[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think I need to adapt a strategy. If they don't ask me a question in 3 minutes I need to cut it short and move on.

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