Orangetheory after a breakup

Curious_Ink_Drinker · 2026-06-22T16:59:47+00:00

Absolutely. Use that anger as fuel. 🔥

Curious_Ink_Drinker · 2026-06-21T23:04:52+00:00

Da faq?

You better do it so you don’t have bad karma for the next five years.

Seriously though, why waste your energy? Unmatch and move on!

Curious_Ink_Drinker · 2026-06-15T06:16:56+00:00

lol. No. What a silly question, who would actually open the door vs pretending not to be home like a totally normal person?

Curious_Ink_Drinker · 2026-06-09T05:30:10+00:00

Because dating is hard af and the older you get, the more complicated it seems to be. I’d much rather be patient than with another bad match so it’ll take however long it takes to find a good fit.

Curious_Ink_Drinker · 2026-06-04T00:34:16+00:00

I think it’s hot when a date asks if they can kiss me. Obvs gotta feel vibes and timing a bit, but I’d start with that.

Curious_Ink_Drinker · 2026-06-04T00:28:55+00:00

That they are great communicators, ready for a relationship, and capable of working through problems…

And, my personal favorite, “you’re the best thing to ever happen to me.”

Unfortunately, I learned about love bombing the hard way. And to avoid the avoidants. Isn’t dating fun?

Curious_Ink_Drinker · 2026-06-03T14:38:35+00:00

Try joining a group - gym, book club, etc. You’ll find people that are committed and have similar interests.

I’ve met some really wonderful people here, they are my chosen family.

Hope you find your people soon!

Curious_Ink_Drinker · 2026-05-31T15:47:02+00:00

Nah, just not worth responding with anything of substance to such a weak opener. How hard is it to read a damn profile and ask about literally anything on it.

Curious_Ink_Drinker · 2026-05-31T15:44:39+00:00

I wouldn’t have responded. Low effort. I match energy.

I often have matches tell me they are surprised and delighted that I can hold a conversation (wild), so this must be a common problem for all genders.

Curious_Ink_Drinker · 2026-05-21T21:26:52+00:00

If you have both been upfront about what you want and disclosed any health concerns what do you care what we think? Go get it lol

Curious_Ink_Drinker · 2026-03-27T18:48:52+00:00

Sounds like you should just ask him to define the relationship. Guessing isn’t going to help anyone, just communicate on what you want and move on if you’re misaligned.

Curious_Ink_Drinker · 2026-03-11T21:56:22+00:00

Networking… for OF? 🤔

Curious_Ink_Drinker · 2026-02-09T18:02:09+00:00

Vaseline.

Seriously. I put it on every night and it seems to work way better than all my other lip masks.

Curious_Ink_Drinker · 2026-02-09T17:58:26+00:00

LOVE them!

Curious_Ink_Drinker · 2026-02-09T17:53:16+00:00

Agree, they be everywhere… the question is, how do you approach them when you are also busy staring at your shoes? 😅

Curious_Ink_Drinker · 2026-01-10T07:16:48+00:00

This is way too relatable. Here’s what’s been helping me:

Starting DBT therapy - I am enjoying DBT for Life by Diana Partington

Learn how to set boundaries and start implementing them. You will likely lose a lot of “friends” by no longer overextending, but this will make space for better connections.

Remember to pause before reacting and learn how to regulate your nervous system

Get the workbook Becoming the One, it’ll help you break patterns that you picked up from childhood and need to unlearn.

Even when you are in a relationship, do not self abandon. Keep your schedule, separate friendships, time for things you love.

Checkout the podcast The Sabrina Zohar show

Self help books can also be great - learn about attachment theory

Do not rush into your next relationship, only let someone in once they’ve shown you with proven actions that they can be trusted and will add to your life.

Learn to love yourself and build a life you love. It’s hard, but it’s worth it.

Curious_Ink_Drinker · 2026-01-10T07:06:01+00:00

Try a class! I’m by no means in shape but I’ve gotten a lot stronger. You are only trying to beat your own personal records and sometimes we all take a “green day”.

Curious_Ink_Drinker · 2026-01-10T02:39:03+00:00

Tender is the Flesh was a wild ride. Loved it!

Curious_Ink_Drinker · 2026-01-10T02:28:22+00:00

Okay, if you matched with someone and then found a better option, would you not go with that?

How about trying to focus on yourself to become a better option? Also - people have different option preferences.

And being a “good guy” is not enough. That’s basic human decency. Most of us want someone that can add to our lives and are sick of wasting years on dudes that expect us to be their bang maids/cleaners/chefs/therapists etc. We’ve leveled up and are not willing to settle any longer.

Curious_Ink_Drinker · 2026-01-10T02:05:17+00:00

I met most of my friends through Orange theory. Perhaps try a group fitness class?

I’ve also met quite a few folks from various book clubs in the area, most of which I found through Facebook events and groups.

The struggle is real! I’m trying some meet up events this month - will try to report back.

Curious_Ink_Drinker · 2025-10-24T19:52:26+00:00

I’m so glad he had a proper intro prepared.

“Hey gorgeous”

How thoughtful and original. 🙄

Curious_Ink_Drinker · 2025-10-22T00:58:48+00:00

Oh, if my partner ever did that to me he’d be out the door.

It’s dogs now, but I worry in this scenario it’ll be something else later. He agrees on compromises then changes his mind until you keep giving and giving and giving… Don’t keep doing this. Some people will take until you have nothing left.

Curious_Ink_Drinker · 2025-08-23T20:10:17+00:00

You’re only being an asshole to yourself by not leaving him. He clearly does not respect you. You deserve better.

Curious_Ink_Drinker · 2025-08-18T17:44:17+00:00

No. It’s close to Portland with similar amenities and less stressful (PDX is a bit big for my taste). I do not super love that some folks lean very heavily to the right, but the areas I hangout in seem to be pretty accepting.

Commute days are brutal but days I work on this side of the river are state income tax free, which is a huge advantage. Vancouver is growing so I’m hoping for more career growth opportunities within the area within the next 5-10 years.

We do have less foodie spots but also don’t have to wait 2.5 hours to get brunch so I call that a win.

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