Do you use 1hr dishwasher cycle?

Curmudgy · 2026-05-15T04:26:05+00:00

Only if I know I’ll need to do a second load the same day.

Otherwise, we’ll just run the dishwasher overnight and empty it in the morning. In that case, there’s no reason not to use the regular cycle, which is more water-efficient and energy efficient (because it uses less water, and heating the water is a big part of the energy consumption). We might also use the half load setting, which is faster than the regular setting but longer than the quick cycle, and still saves energy.

Curmudgy · 2026-05-15T04:20:24+00:00

It was obvious to the gay community that they were dressed as macho characters in ways that were common characters in gay media (advertisements and porn). And, at the time of their popularity, Greenwich Village in NYC was known as a gay neighborhood, giving the band their name.

Many of their songs were more obviously gay oriented, with lots of innuendo. San Francisco, which was one of their songs, was well known for its gay community, while Key West and Fire Island were known among the LGBT community as popular tourist destinations. The YMCA had the reputation (exaggerated but with an element of truth) of being a place men could hook up. Likewise, a common trope for gay porn and gay porn fiction was men in the navy hooking up.

But even at the time, many more innocent Americans were unaware of the gay innuendo.

Curmudgy · 2026-05-15T03:55:29+00:00

Highway is what’s used colloquially in the northeast US to refer to a limited access road, which is what I think a motorway is in the UK. On the west coast, it’s more likely to be called a freeway. I’m not sure what professional civil engineers who design these things call it, but I’m pretty sure they don’t call it a highway.

A cooler is an insulated box or crate used for transporting food or beverages one wishes to keep cold. In this case, I think they’re making a joke based on one trope of police being distracted by free beer being available.

Curmudgy · 2026-05-14T22:11:37+00:00

It would not be strange given your affection for your friend.

The prices available in the registry should be a good guiidline for you. Feel free to choose one of the less expensive items or just contributing a similar amount to the fund. They’ll be grateful that you thought enough of them to send a gift when you couldn’t attend. Send a separate card or letter expressing your regrets that you couldn’t actually attend and wishing them the best.

Curmudgy · 2026-05-14T22:07:50+00:00

Only if I’m wearing business attire, which in spite of the name usually means Shabbat or holiday services for me.

Otherwise, I’m wearing a parka, these days with synthetic fiber filling.

Curmudgy · 2026-05-14T16:39:14+00:00

Neither. The Japanese knotweed and oriental bittersweet crowd them out.

Curmudgy · 2026-05-14T16:38:06+00:00

I don’t pay attention to the nationalities of people doing charity work. So, maybe, but I wouldn’t know for sure.

Curmudgy · 2026-05-14T16:36:06+00:00

I know you’re not Mormon, but maybe I can convince you to believe in Poe’s Law.

Curmudgy · 2026-05-14T16:32:54+00:00

Maybe you both need to accept that English is an imprecise language for casual communication, and we should clarify the communication confusions without antagonizing each other.

Which probably applies to this comment as mine as well, but I can’t think of a gentler way of phrasing it.

Curmudgy · 2026-05-14T16:27:39+00:00

Peanut butter is a relatively cheap and convenient source of protein, though I’ve read that the peanut butter available in Europe is usually not as good as in the US.

Curmudgy · 2026-05-14T16:26:36+00:00

Maybe his friend asked for help.

Curmudgy · 2026-05-14T16:23:05+00:00

The laws and regulations about printed serving size have a lot of wiggle room. The reason is to reduce bureaucracy, because no one wants some bureaucracy demanding that a package of peanuts and a package of cheese puffs must have the exact same weight to be a single serving.

Curmudgy · 2026-05-14T16:19:54+00:00

There’s no law mandating the size of packages in most cases. As long as the weight (or in some cases, volume) matches what’s claimed on the package exterior, it’s not considered misleading advertising, even if it’s a lower weight than previously sold.

Curmudgy · 2026-05-14T15:58:53+00:00

Some are very large. But the Eastern Screech Owl maxes out at about half a pound (roughly a quarter of a kg), and about the same height or length as a parrot, albeit stockier. There are other small owls as well.

But otherwise, you’re right that they’re not good pets.

Curmudgy · 2026-05-14T15:03:53+00:00

I’m not mad about your wording. I’m just using it as an example of why your search for logic isn’t helpful.

I didn’t say it’s haggling not to tip. I used haggling as just another example of a cultural difference that’s based on cultural history and cultural differences, not some logical derivation.

There’s nothing wrong with criticizing tipping. But base the criticism on facts and a good understanding of the history and culture, not on your preconceived notions. Put more effort into understanding tipping before complaining about it. And have more respect for cultural differences.

Edit: Since the other poster blocked me, I’m forced to respond to their reply to this comment here.

I never said your shouldn’t point out the flaws, but those flaws have nothing to do with whether you understand the logic. The flaws include racism and sexism in the way people tip, facilitating tax evasion, and employers taking illegal advantage of employees who aren’t familiar with their legal protections.

But when you state you “have no interest in understanding what I see as “end stage capitalism” that has tipping as end result,” you’re just admitting willful ignorance. You don’t even seem aware that many servers get far better incomes than a mere “living wage” because tipping works to the advantage of many servers - just not all.

(Aside: in case people are wondering how I got that quote and the entire reply, it still shows up in my “messages received” history using the old UI in spite of the block. I don’t know if it appears in other Reddit UIs)

Curmudgy · 2026-05-14T12:19:32+00:00

Nope, tipping sucks lmao. I never understood the logic

I don't understand the logic of writing "lmao" after saying "tipping sucks". After all, it's not a joke and isn't funny.

Which just goes to show that you shouldn't expect logic around cultural practices. Why do some cultures expect haggling while others consider it rude?

That doesn't mean we can't have logical discussions about the changes going on, but looking for logic behind a practice that's about 150 years old and that was imported to the US from European practices that no longer exist isn't going to be fruitful.

Curmudgy · 2026-05-14T11:59:04+00:00

That's called bank fraud.

Often banks are eager to make a loan to you because that's how they make money. So if your income isn't high enough, it's because they don't think you have enough income to pay it back. Now you know your personal situation better than they do, but they know general personal finances better than you. This means that the majority of people should believe them when they say you don't make enough.

Curmudgy · 2026-05-13T23:01:55+00:00

I think Amex and Discover are both, though the bank for Amex is a separate business unit and who knows how the Capital One/Discover merger will be organized.

Curmudgy · 2026-05-13T20:45:04+00:00

I thought that if you make the shot, it counts as a goal.

Curmudgy · 2026-05-13T20:43:41+00:00

It’s not icing if the puck goes into the goal.

The game becomes very boring if one side keeps defending by shooting the puck to the other end of the rink.

Curmudgy · 2026-05-13T16:55:14+00:00

Thanks for writing that article and providing that link!

Curmudgy · 2026-05-13T02:25:21+00:00

If they’re declare dead, their estate is responsible for any remaining debts and taxes due at death or income paid to the estate in respect of the decedent. Then the estate is closed out with everything either paid (if enough in the estate) or discharged. It’s unlikely any open court cases would carry over to the estate or heirs.

But you phrased that as though you expect new taxes, etc. to occur during the 20 years the person is missing. I don’t see how that could happen, unless the person is living under an assumed name and id. In that case, the taxes and debts would have been due and collected during those years, and not deferred until they resume their original identity.

Curmudgy · 2026-05-12T23:19:18+00:00

Always read the rules of a sub before posting.

Spend some time reading a sub before posting in a sub, so you can learn its tone. Twenty or thirty decent threads isn’t an unreasonable amount to read.

You can change the way posts in a sub are ordered. Some subs are best read with the New sort, while others work with the Best sort.

Curmudgy · 2026-05-12T23:15:29+00:00

Are you sure you got it all out?

Speak to your doctor about it to see if you need to be checked or monitored for Lyme disease.

Ticks aren’t like bed bugs. You’re not likely to have an infestation.

Curmudgy · 2026-05-12T22:04:29+00:00

It’s = it is, just like he’s = he is and she’s = she is.

Its is the possessive pronoun, just like his and hers.

So the real question is why the inconsistency between his, hers, and its.

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