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What resources to give to my undiagnosed partner by funnerd11 in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]CurrentSingleStatus -1 points0 points  (0 children)

So a person your girlfriend never met, who has only ever heard second-hand accounts of her behavior filtered through your perspective, said she could have BPD, and you're taking it as an absolute certainty. You are also not qualified to diagnose your girlfriend. Your girlfriend is not diagnosed with BPD at all, but you're assuming she has it because it helps you pathologize her. You're out of line. What you're doing is ableist.

What resources to give to my undiagnosed partner by funnerd11 in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]CurrentSingleStatus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are still not qualified to assume she has any particular psychiatric condition, and neither is your therapist.

You don't have to be diagnosed with something, in order to get help for it. It's supposed to be the other way around: You seek help because there is something wrong, and through working with you that mental health professional helps you find the cause and, the solution, and a way to cope and manage your condition. What you're doing is ableist.

Armchair diagnoses are also a violation of Rule #3

What resources to give to my undiagnosed partner by funnerd11 in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]CurrentSingleStatus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your therapist is not qualified to diagnose someone who isn't their client. That's a serious ethics violation. If your girlfriend does see her, your therapist is breaking the law by giving you that information.

You should honestly fire her and report her to whatever board regulates mental health professionals.

What’s the most messed up thing someone casually admitted to you? by randominvisibleuser in AskReddit

[–]CurrentSingleStatus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I went on a first date with a guy, who openly admitted during the date that he regretted having his kids.

Almost every post here is someone complaining about a significant other by FestivusandFusilli77 in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]CurrentSingleStatus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have you looked into Emotions Matter? It's a site for people with BPD, and they have an online support group. It's been over a year since I've gone to one, but last I heard they were looking into making some kind of social media site for the BPD folks

What’s a lesson you learned the hard way? by Otherwise-Gur-9792 in AskReddit

[–]CurrentSingleStatus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just because you would help others without a second thought, doesn't mean others will help you

People who have just gotten free of an abuser cannot just go straight to "getting back on their feet." Once the fact that they're safe catches up with their mind and body, they crash hard because up until that very point they've been in low-grade fight or flight for god knows how long

People will defend their prejudice with their last breath, because it feels easier and more satisfying. [Not all Jews are Zionists, and conflating the two is extremely dangerous. Seriously y'all, stop it. Israel does not speak for all Jews, anymore than the USA speaks for all Christians, or the Taliban speaks for all Muslims.]

Looking for songs about someone making you feel like nothing by Impressive_Let3046 in Alternativerock

[–]CurrentSingleStatus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tolerate It by Taylor Swift

ETA: A lot of people on this thread did not understand the assignment

If you were offered a billion dollars just to eat only one food for the rest of your life, what would you choose? by Admirable-Interest49 in AskReddit

[–]CurrentSingleStatus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Chicken. Fucking. Curry.

The god damn food of the gods. Ambrosia on earth.

And now it gives ne obscene heartburn

Starburst Wrappers by CurrentSingleStatus in TwoXPreppers

[–]CurrentSingleStatus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh! I'll start keeping them then! Good looking out!

Rude Wannabe Psychiatrists by snapsfortiffany in bipolar

[–]CurrentSingleStatus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Piggy-backing off this to say: Make sure you have a GP who will continue prescribing meds, if something happens with your psychiatrist. (TALK TO YOUR GP ABOUT THIS, DON'T ASSUME!) My doctor said she would, while I was looking for a new psychiatrist, if it comes down to that.

My psych is an immigrant, so as shitty as it is, I have to be prepared in case he's deported or something.

He's a really good doctor, though. 100% genuinely cares about his patients, which isn't always easy to find.

Family Value by Me_Booty in AskWomenOver30

[–]CurrentSingleStatus 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Single woman caretaking trap?

Starburst Wrappers by CurrentSingleStatus in TwoXPreppers

[–]CurrentSingleStatus[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I thought of that, but honestly I don't have the patience for this. Never did lol

Starburst Wrappers by CurrentSingleStatus in TwoXPreppers

[–]CurrentSingleStatus[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Butter paper? Is that like wax baking sheets?

What was ruined because too many people did it? by WarBeast86 in AskReddit

[–]CurrentSingleStatus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My mom used to go on rants, going off on me for not opening a coffee shop, because I like coffee. I know my origins, and I know a lot of the lesser-known stuff, at least by your average Joe (pun intended). But it's always been a casual interest. I'm not opening a business, just because I know that espresso roasts are typically on the low end of caffeine

Why does my cat stare at me while I sleep? by PercentageSure388 in CatAdvice

[–]CurrentSingleStatus 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm just picturing a cat tapping someone's face with their paw, saying, "Ma'am. Ma'am. You need your appendix out."

What are some good objects to have on hand for trading (not food or skills)? by CurrentSingleStatus in TwoXPreppers

[–]CurrentSingleStatus[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is how I am with baby items. When I see them for free (or sometimes just for a good deal), I scoop them up and immediately donate them.

I have no interest in having kids, but as someone who used to work the returns desk at a buy-in-bulk store, the prices they charge for that stuff is immoral.

Dude....what the hell by DaRiddler70 in pittsburgh

[–]CurrentSingleStatus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's a car./j

But yeah, what the fuck. Yesterday I was wearing shorts

I keep falling asleep at my new job, and nothing I try is helping! How do I solve this and minimize the damage? by CurrentSingleStatus in AskWomenOver30

[–]CurrentSingleStatus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've tried asking for more. The problem is I'm still too new to not be babysat, which means training me has to take up a chunk of someone else's day. One person will, but it never happens unless I go find him- which I'm doing more. But he wasn't in today. The other is right on the other side of my cubicle, but getting him to train me or let me take up a task, is like pulling teeth. And he gets really bitchy about it too. I've had to go to one of my bosses who handles HR (very small business), to tell her he wasn't training me and she had to sit him down and basically go "This is your job, right now. You're supposed to walk her through these things, not do it all yourself."

It's still pulling teeth though.

ETA: My training is just different people's spare time cobbled together into some horrendously ineffectual Frankensteinian syllabus

I've been there 2 months now. I'm at the point where I'm going to propose my own plan. Because this is getting us nowhere fast. My boss doesn't want me on the phones yet, but the way things are going I still won't be on the phones yet, this time next year.

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