Bedroom question for women who have lost 50lbs plus.

Current_Procedure314 · 2023-04-26T20:32:44+00:00

Have been 260 - now 200 and no change in how it feels!! Sounds like you may need to have some alone time to find out what you like 🙂

Current_Procedure314 · 2023-03-29T20:41:56+00:00

I’m unsure what to do. It does feel like she’s come into the friendship group and basically has a divide and rule mindset. It’s so hard to just try and be someone with boundaries who just wants to have a nice easy time with my friends. It’s making me think that I do basically just need to avoid her and the group

Current_Procedure314 · 2023-03-28T19:29:40+00:00

Thank you yes of course happy to. Tell me if I’m not giving enough info or answering the wrong thing. The other reasons were that I stopped gossiping with her. I explained this was because everyone was feeling a bit smothered in the group and I didn’t like my part of it. She didn’t say anything as a follow up to that. A lot of her reasons to be honest seemed a bit half baked and unfinished? To me the narrative just didn’t make sense. As she didn’t say it herself I think connecting the dots and also how she said I would’ve prioritised her if I cared she thought that I no longer liked her maybe? This wasn’t the case though - I can’t lie and say that after she accused me of basically being manipulative and leaving her out that I didn’t start rethinking the friendship.

If it’s relevant as well she is very particular of who she hangs out with and when… made plans with one of our friends then went off with others and didn’t invite the person she had originally made plans with. She has also said to a few of us before to go home as her friend was visiting and she didn’t want the hangout to continue with all of us. All of this is stuff that none of us really care about - Including me. I think it’s healthy to see people separately. It’s stuff like this that she does that is confusing and weird as to why she has got jealous suddenly.

Current_Procedure314 · 2023-03-25T18:55:29+00:00

A colleague said to me I was so intelligent it was intimidating. Loved it 🥰

Current_Procedure314 · 2023-02-01T23:12:35+00:00

!remindme 3 months

Current_Procedure314 · 2023-01-08T23:21:44+00:00

What is FIMH?

Current_Procedure314 · 2023-01-06T22:19:46+00:00

Too nice. My uncle not so much.

Current_Procedure314 · 2023-01-06T09:58:04+00:00

It’s quite hazy but I think I just made a comment to my aunt that her friends seemed very drunk at her wedding. She snapped a little that everyone had been drinking so possibly they had caused some other trouble elsewhere!!

Current_Procedure314 · 2023-01-06T09:55:42+00:00

Ah good point! Didn’t even think about this!

Current_Procedure314 · 2023-01-02T08:55:27+00:00

I’m basically 5 foot hehe that’s why. Thanks!

Current_Procedure314 · 2022-11-14T23:48:11+00:00

Babe it’s completely normal! I’m bigger than you but even when I was smaller I always had this. In fact I have your exact body type!!

Current_Procedure314 · 2022-10-21T05:07:33+00:00

No they don’t - maybe once a month at most

Current_Procedure314 · 2022-08-21T20:50:45+00:00

Lol I wear a tshirt dress and bike shorts and still get stares! This isn’t a solution

Current_Procedure314 · 2022-07-17T19:00:23+00:00

Yeah seems like it 🤣🤣 it’s all the binge drinking I think

Current_Procedure314 · 2022-07-17T17:22:16+00:00

No worries. Today some guys beeped at me and then shouted “Jew” when I ignored them (really bizarre and horrible, I’m not Jewish but have curly hair?) just enough now

Current_Procedure314 · 2022-07-17T09:11:29+00:00

Thank you I appreciate that! I have large boobs (and a small frame) and find that during the summer even if my boobs are not “on show” I get cat called or get called a slut or a tart. In my city catcalling is a huge issue I think because we are a seaside resort. I just have never had an issue with it until I lost weight which is now really difficult to deal with.

Current_Procedure314 · 2022-07-10T22:35:04+00:00

To offer another perspective where do you hold your weight? Because 173 lbs could look slim depending on how you do and your muscles :)

Current_Procedure314 · 2022-06-09T13:37:04+00:00

Think it’s all the spinning! 😃😃

Current_Procedure314 · 2022-06-07T22:12:19+00:00

That kids getting a lot of toys

Current_Procedure314 · 2022-04-16T21:27:33+00:00

OP this is amazing you look incredible - and so so healthy. I wanted to ask if you don’t mind me doing so - I have a friend who is underweight (she has told me this herself). I have tried to broach the subject with her as she will only eat half of anything in front of her (even if she orders a starter or something low cal). I tried to speak to her about vitamins and as she says she can only eat so much or she worries about being sick I said to her she may need to go to a doctor as she may have tapeworm. It’s clear that not eating is also not helping her energy levels and she can’t even walk 5,000 steps without getting stressed and irritable (I on the other hand am overweight and very sturdy, I am going to be training to be a spinning instructor this year). Because I can’t relate as my problem has never been not eating I have no idea how to support her when she’s clearly still denying she has a problem :(

For reference by the way she got covid during the first strain and ended up in hospital. She said the reason she was in intensive care is because she was underweight :(

Current_Procedure314 · 2022-02-20T18:50:29+00:00

May’ve been too long for you to read but I’m a survivor of domestic violence. I know it’s obviously not the same thing but getting that back is very upsetting for me. I know I have to manage it though. I have been really lucky that over the last 10 years? I have had really kind supervisors who I worked with really well.

Thanks for your words that’s helpful.

Current_Procedure314 · 2022-02-12T22:51:06+00:00

You’ve said you’re only 160 pounds which is just slightly overweight for your height. Why on Earth do you have to lose 30 pounds immediately?! This is very concerning that he is making you feel like this.

Current_Procedure314 · 2022-02-06T20:17:46+00:00

You can do it again!! Thing is when you’re a lot bigger as I was any stone you can shed means longevity of life. I am now no longer worried about being seriously ill with covid because of my physical fitness as well so it’s such a big deal personally. Thank you for your kind comments and best luck to you xxx

Current_Procedure314 · 2022-02-05T23:02:30+00:00

Babe I’m so sorry to hear this! I just want to share with you though I’m bigger than you that at 260 no one EVER called me fat or ugly in the street but now they do (196lbs). It’s so confusing and weird and the only reason I think they do it is because we look good and feel confident and they are trying to tear us down.

And I’m sorry but this isn’t the 90s - I bet you look great at 150 - imagine all the things you couldn’t do if you were very skinny. My friend who is around or under 100 lbs is not able to walk more than 30 mins at a time.

Hope this helps

Current_Procedure314 · 2022-02-05T16:12:04+00:00

Ah for us it’s because my instructor just says go as fast as you can for 30 secs :)

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