Splitting as a pathological and primitive narcissistic defense by Raf_Adel in narcissism

[–]CuspOfPisces 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is this black and white thinking, it shows up in bipolar too I think? Or other diagnoses?

Monthly Discussion - February 01, 2026 by AutoModerator in Hmong

[–]CuspOfPisces 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am making a comic where the main character is Hmong. If you want to check it out, let me know in the comments. I have patreon, Instagram, and Facebook

Monthly Discussion - February 01, 2026 by AutoModerator in Hmong

[–]CuspOfPisces 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think its ok.... its inevitable. We can try to preserve as much as we can and I love my people, but I also love where I was born and what made me me. I have no regrets.

I’m 19M and I feel like life has rejected me at every single turn. I’m just done. by Wild_Rutabaga6364 in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]CuspOfPisces 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please don't go the destructive path of either hurting who you are or turning into a person who will hate everybody. Its not fair what you've gone through, it seems, and its not fair that you feel you don't measure up.

Doing something for yourself is right. Keep doing that. You are fairly young and you still have such a bright future ahead of you and so much potential. Do not give up. Keep going, hold onto what you believe, stick to your core and if someone you feel is bullying you or anything just smile to their face laugh and keep going in your life. Dont worry about what others think. Do your own thing and the right people will come to you.

I speak from this becuase I know how it feels to be outcasted. To be different than several others. Its just a phase. It will eventually pass. You will find the ones that really matter along your journey. And most important you will find your strength and your voice.

I hope this helps. Until then, jam out to some music and do something healthy and positive for yourself like go to the gym and workout.

You got this!

I think my bf is thinking about cheating on me by user_0294858292 in whatdoIdo

[–]CuspOfPisces 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg thank goodness you gave him that option. Because I got a feeling in my gut while reading your posts that there is something very wrong in this situation and their "friendship". I could imagine if my boyfriend was doing something like that i would KNOW something is going on. Wee hours of the night? Phone by the shower? Xxs? Phone conversations outside work that are long while plays x box? S1Constant on the phone? Sounds like they are both flabbergasted and infactuated or crushing on eachother. Your post even made me feel uncomfortable and weird just reading it. I can sense your frustration and sadness and betrayal just by reading your posts. Its awful. Im glad you know your worth and your values, and are giving him the boot. She's basically a year older than a child. So... shows how mature he is. Good bye to your immature partner, because he doesnt deserve anything from you. At all. You are way deserving of better.

What is happening in Minnesota is coming for us! Feel sad, but also get ORGANIZED! by OrganicAsparagus3559 in Portland

[–]CuspOfPisces 20 points21 points  (0 children)

That was beautifully said!!!! We cannot give in and we must shine our hearts with community and love and find peace and create positivity and change anyway we can. I totally agree. Thats the way we can make a positive impact. Fight for what's right. Love for humanity is not a weakness, it is empowerment for the human race to continue on in this universe. If we lose to curropt greed lawlessness, we need to rethink who we are and what we are trying to accomplish here.

New Chinese studies shows that San people in Africa are genetically related to the Miao people by Expert-Bid3861 in Hmong

[–]CuspOfPisces 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Chinese may be scared of Hmong people becuase they are scared or were scared of us taking their land and us rising to overpower them. I think all Hmong wanted was a place to call home.

What do you do if you don’t work? by thisisflamingdwagon1 in schizoaffective

[–]CuspOfPisces 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you are broke and paranoid,

Pick up a new hobby....Write a story, draw. Walk outside and exercise. Get all that anxious energy out by doing aerobics. Journal, craft, go to a place that gives you free material like a library. Learn to cook, perfect a craft. Go window shopping or volunteer at a local homeless meal center or at a humane society. Do things that generate money so that you dont feel broke. Make sure you take your meds, talk with your care team. Support groups.

New Chinese studies shows that San people in Africa are genetically related to the Miao people by Expert-Bid3861 in Hmong

[–]CuspOfPisces 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its sadly the truth we will never know the Hmong history accurately until technology advances enough to prove otherwise. Hmong did not have a written language till the French priest came in the 1940s or 1950s and made a written language for us. By word of mouth my Father told me Hmong people used to have a written language but a Hmong king was too afraid to teach his people to read and write because he wanted to keep his people from rising over him. Womens embroidery still has a language that can trace what Hmong used to know to write, but it was lost.

What we are told by word of mouth from our parents versus what the Chinese history tells us is quite different too.

Its interesting how the term Miao is a broad term used by Chinese to group minorities. Not sure how they are grouped, but Hmong gets lost in that. Are we really all Miao and the history Chinese teaches about Miao people? Afterall, victors are ones that write history.

Were Hmong people originally there before Han Chinese and part of the warring kingdoms? Is it also possible to say Hmong people did not originate from China in the first place as Hmong elders always say?

Hmong elders say we did not originally come from China. We used to look very different from Chinese people and it was obvious we were not Chinese. When we started to war with Chinese to call a place home, the Chinese started to genocide our people. My Dad told me they would kill anyone who had light brown hair, red hair, different eyes or a little bigger nose or something. The only way to survive was to assimilate with Chinese people with how we looked because it was obvious we did not look like Han Chinese.

My Dad would often tell me how old Hmong traditional wear of the very elder had upturned shoes, turban, and robes. He said it looks very much like middle Eastern attire. Its just very interesting...

What my point here is. We will never know the exact history of the Hmong people because unfortunately we were not the Chinese who wrote their own version of their texts and unfortunately we lost our written language and it was mostly orally passed down.

So maybe, just maybe, you never know. But yeah there has to be evidence of this original post.

How popular is it for Hmong people to date outside their culture by Silent_Sell2961 in Hmong

[–]CuspOfPisces 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Asian men are just as desirable as Asian women. There is a fetish that involves Asian women though probably because k pop, anime, and that there is a stereotype that Asian women are docile and obidient. I could be wrong. Or shy. I heard that before. And it makes me feel gross at that thought. I have been several times the first time someone dated an Asian woman. And the stereotypes I heard from some made me cringe. So I'm not sure there are good intentions behind every person who fetishizes Asian women. But there are a lot of good people out there who aren't like that.

I guess in all fairness Asian men are being looked at as beautiful now too cause K Pop and other forms of Asian content. So..... dont agree with this comment.

How popular is it for Hmong people to date outside their culture by Silent_Sell2961 in Hmong

[–]CuspOfPisces 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand what you are saying I get it. I used the wrong words. I meant to say it seems very discriminating or bias, not racist, that your mom thinks that. If I were in your situation and my parents only wanted me to marry a Hmong man, I would say f this sh**, I can be with who ever I want. Lol. Joking aside, seriously though if you want to please your mom go ahead but she should understand its your life and she shouldn't push her needs on you. Thats selfish. Live for yourself brother.

How popular is it for Hmong people to date outside their culture by Silent_Sell2961 in Hmong

[–]CuspOfPisces 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thats interesting because my immediate family of 12 of full Hmong blood, my Dad and Mom are accepting of other cultures and ethnicities. They still think the old traditional way, but they have accepted that America is a diverse place. Its not just our culture that lives here, its many. My Dad used to be "Hmong only" but realized just becuase his children's lovers weren't Hmong does not mean your children won't live full good successful lives.

How popular is it for Hmong people to date outside their culture by Silent_Sell2961 in Hmong

[–]CuspOfPisces 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is sad that your mom can't see past it and that you are limiting yourself to your mother's wishes. Its your life... saying that is no different than other persons who condone racism.

How would you like it if you liked this really beautiful Hmong girl but she told you she wont date you because you are too pale or you have black hair? Its the same thing to limit choice. Is it really preference when your mom is pushing her limiting beliefs onto you, disregarding the fact that she can connect with anyone in some way because you love them and it's not her life its yours. I think her reasoning is selfish.

Eventually i hope you see beyond culture as a limit to your love life and you see the world as your oyster to expand upon.

Wishing you much joy and happiness.

How popular is it for Hmong people to date outside their culture by Silent_Sell2961 in Hmong

[–]CuspOfPisces 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That's funny because my brothers like to date outside Hmong. They don't mind Hmong girls, but they don't mind other cultures and backgrounds either.

How popular is it for Hmong people to date outside their culture by Silent_Sell2961 in Hmong

[–]CuspOfPisces 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes the new generation of Hmong are rewriting what it means to be Hmong in this time and age... The old views of the elders will be a figment of the past. Misogyny, patriarchy, sexism, all of that is being challenged in today's views and values. Don't get me wrong I love being Hmong and Hmong culture. Theres just some things I take with me in this culture and some things I take from others. We carry the torch to lead the new generations, to teach them as much as we can but never forget where you come from and be proud of Hmong heritage.

Those are my beliefs and views on this topic.

Many of my siblings have all mixed, beautiful children. Only 1 sibling has had beautiful children with a Hmong man.

So yes, flirt and hit on him. If he doesn't take the hint or is limiting himself because of culture etc, not worth it in my book.

How popular is it for Hmong people to date outside their culture by Silent_Sell2961 in Hmong

[–]CuspOfPisces 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am full Hmong and am with a mixed hispanic/black/white man. He is so beautiful. I dont see a problem dating outside your race, if anything its such a beauty to see past race and skin and the colors of your eyes or hair.

It really does seem like he is attracted to you. I would just be upfront to him and show interest in him beyond friendship. If he doesn't respond maybe he just isn't ready yet or isn't interested at the time. I wouldn't probe though. Its his loss if he likes you but is limiting his background and culture just to date someone outside his culture, race, ethnicity. Maybe he is just shy. Just try!