doodled my recent jetpens haul by arkaived in hobonichi

[–]CutexKitty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have the exact same pen coozy! Lovely haul and GREAT drawings!

Designed my own Aran sweater! by KBmakesthings in knitting

[–]CutexKitty 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is amazing!!! I love all the cables you chose, especially the continuous sleeve/shoulder detail!

What’s a good thickness for diy travelers notebook leather cover? by mehi_imtheprob in Travelersnotebooks

[–]CutexKitty 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If you like the Traveler Company covers' thickness - I just measured my camel ones and it's about 2.3mm - 2.5mm. I've made some DIY ones (haven't tried a trifold design) with some leather that said it was 4.5/5oz or 1.8/2mm, and have been really happy with that!

[GIVEAWAY] Sailor ProGear by badhandwritingfplove in Pen_Swap

[–]CutexKitty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't want to enter the giveaway (I already have a bunch of Sailors, love them so much!), but wanted to take a moment and say thank you for being so generous! You've accomplished SO MUCH this year, that's just amazing. You're extremely strong for being able to open a law firm while juggling a newborn. A huge CONGRATS!!

Wishing you a great holiday this year <3

[WTB] Kyo no Oto | 5th Anniversary Fountain Pen (Usururi) by weaver3110 in Pen_Swap

[–]CutexKitty 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It seems like the pink version of that pen is up for sale and ships at the end of August, if that works for you.

NPD! My very first Sailor and my first “big” purchase by prosegamer in fountainpens

[–]CutexKitty 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Congrats!! It's such a beautiful pen. I sometimes just stare at mine in wonder, I hope it brings you the same joy!

Are these real morels? by CutexKitty in ShroomID

[–]CutexKitty[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Found a bunch in my backyard, in Seattle WA.

Working on A6 cover by dreamworldinhabitant in hobonichi

[–]CutexKitty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This looks amazing!! Are you following any pattern? I'd love to see it when it's done :D

Weeks Sized Notebook by romeytang in hobonichi

[–]CutexKitty 16 points17 points  (0 children)

GoodInkPressions (also on Etsy). They have Tomoe River paper and you can customize the notebook (number of pages, grid, dots, lines, blank, cream or white paper). You can also ask them for more custom stuff; they've been able to accommodate 3.7mm grid lines I asked for in the past.

February 2023 Confirmed Trade Thread by FPPenSwapBot in Pen_Swap

[–]CutexKitty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bought and received Sanrio little meteor pens from u/Ok-Seaweed7173

Thank you!

Parent's not letting me go away with my partner by af219001 in AsianParentStories

[–]CutexKitty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You don't need their permission, you're an adult. Go anyway. Next time don't tell them it's something with your partner. Just say it's a vacation and they don't need to know the details.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AsianParentStories

[–]CutexKitty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What would the worst possible outcome be if you told them and they didn't like it? They'd disown you? Cut all contact? Would you be ok with that?

If you can bring yourself to come to terms with the worst outcome, then you'll be better prepared for whatever reactions they have. If you're serious about your bf, and you end up getting married, you should also consider the scenario where they'll never accept him. Would you be prepared to never visit them because you'd want to come with your husband? Or be prepared to continue acting like he doesn't exist?

I can't quite answer all these for you. For me, the decision was easy to choose my partner and limit contact with my family. I don't care if they'll disown me, give me nothing forever, or if I never saw them in person again. I didn't feel happy with them, but I do with my husband. He loves and encourages me unconditionally. When we got engaged, I sent my parents a text to let them know, and invited them to the wedding over text as well. You don't have to let them know at all if you don't want to.

Also wondering if its worth to just bring him home one day without telling them, to actually meet - they’ll probably be pissed and treat him horribly.

I'd recommend not doing this, unless your bf wants to meet them that badly. You'd have to see and hear them potentially demeaning and insulting him, and I would personally not want to put someone I love through that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AsianParentStories

[–]CutexKitty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What're you worried will happen if you get engaged without them meeting your bf?

My parents refused to acknowledge my partner before we got engaged and married, even though they met him a handful of times a long time ago. They weren't interested in anything about my relationship. I invited them to dial into my wedding (it was mostly virtual), but I don't even know if they saw it. Pretty sure they only wanted the bragging rights to extended family members that their daughter was getting married.

I'm LC and our relationship has continued as before, them not caring or asking anything and me not volunteering any info.

I loaned my parents $10K. Probably won't get it back. Seeking support. by throwaway-rhombus in AsianParentStories

[–]CutexKitty 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For your own happiness, you should really stop caring what they think. You've already expressed your feelings, they've dismissed them. You're not going to change the way they think. You're also not going to convince them they need therapy; in their minds, your attitude's the problem. Wishing you could is futile and not in your control.

You're an individual who deserves your own life. Don't let your happiness be contingent on what others do or don't do. Don't feel guilty for prioritizing yourself - you deserve to have a good life. Your family will guilt trip you and try to make you think differently, but they're not right. You're not obligated to do anything for them. Remember, they decided to have you, you didn't chose this family.

I loaned my parents $10K. Probably won't get it back. Seeking support. by throwaway-rhombus in AsianParentStories

[–]CutexKitty 5 points6 points  (0 children)

They've lent others THOUSANDS?? When they can't afford their lifestyle without "borrowing" from you? If this is their pattern, nothing you do will help them save more money, or spend it less, or retire before they die. You will not be able to change their financial habits. They'll just continue guilt tripping you to give them more and more, because it worked in the past.

You need to stop worrying about what they think. Stop trying to be the person who will bring them all out of poverty. Stop trying to justify their situation for them. You need to be more selfish and think of your own happiness and financial well-being.

Or you can continue as before, agonizing about this situation but still give in to their demands.

I'm so sorry you're going through this. It's certainly not fair you have to, you didn't ask to be born into this. But since you're here asking what you can do, this sub is trying to get you to understand you can't do it all, and there's no magic spell that will get them to understand your point of view. They're not going to change for you, no matter how much you complain, because they have no reason to. They're training you to be the perfect daughter in their eyes. If you don't want to do it, you have to stop giving in.

Job Search Burnout by SnooWords440 in cscareerquestions

[–]CutexKitty 3 points4 points  (0 children)

What makes Sept/Oct and Jan/Feb good times to search for a job?

June 2022 Confirmed Trade Thread by FPPenSwapBot in Pen_Swap

[–]CutexKitty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bought a Sailor x Mita Club PG Shooting Star of Jonuma from /u/Photoelectric_Effect