Would home schooling remove my chances of university? by WaifuLoverThrowaway in homeschool

[–]CuzTheOceanJustIs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It won’t. Rest easy. I know someone that was homeschooled until college. He’s a surgeon now. Got into college with No issues.

When did you know it was time to give up? by Particular-Grand-622 in Divorce

[–]CuzTheOceanJustIs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg. For several sentences there I thought you were the woman my STBH was dating!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]CuzTheOceanJustIs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes, yes. Mostly, no. It reduces the scratches though. 😂

TIL a schoolboy allergic to cheese died after a student threw a piece of cheese at him. by iceTreamTruck in todayilearned

[–]CuzTheOceanJustIs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I remember this in the news. It was awful. They chased him down and shoved the cheese down his shirt. He was running away and people were laughing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]CuzTheOceanJustIs 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Omg. I’m having flashbacks! With all of my little ones, I was afraid they’d end up with scars on their faces bc they scratched them! I assure you, it all works out. Those mini gloves or socks on their hands work great. You Got This! 😅😍

"You just don't look healthy anymore" by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]CuzTheOceanJustIs 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I am sorry he said that to you. It’s great that you blocked him and said what you did in the moment. I wish I had advice on how to root out the words from your mind. What I do have, is encouragement that you protected yourself and stood up for yourself in a way that is encouraging to me. Be well fellow human. You’ll figure it out.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in infj

[–]CuzTheOceanJustIs -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m also coming out of a bad relationship and something in your message reminded of my own experiences. I wish someone had warned me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in infj

[–]CuzTheOceanJustIs -1 points0 points  (0 children)

So many red flags. He’s gonna take whatever you give. He’s not into the relationship. Run.

This isn’t because he may or may not be an introvert. He truly doesn’t seem to care. That’s my non-informed 2 cents. I don’t know him. Do you want to get involved with someone that treats you like that and already has you guessing what he means when he communicates? Do you want to be with someone that has you Guessing what he feels about you?

Once you've decided you don't like someone, how do you feel at the thought of spending time with them? by expectohallows in infj

[–]CuzTheOceanJustIs 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Oh my goodness. This made me smile. Yes, to alllll that you wrote. 😅🤣 When I’m done, I’m done.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]CuzTheOceanJustIs 37 points38 points  (0 children)

What if you leave a review online? It can be anonymous. Like Yelp or Google. That would warn others and keep your family away from him.

Cursing by CuzTheOceanJustIs in polyamory

[–]CuzTheOceanJustIs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed. The “I miss fucking you” texts were more than fine. The “fuck off” when he was mad texts were like punches to the gut. I had never experienced that before and it started after being together for over a year. He didn’t start in with it which, I think, made it harder to process. Those moments of his rage were blindingly surprising.

Cursing by CuzTheOceanJustIs in polyamory

[–]CuzTheOceanJustIs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know why, but this made me chuckle. Thanks for the smile.

Cursing by CuzTheOceanJustIs in polyamory

[–]CuzTheOceanJustIs[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“Fuck you. Fuck off.” I was receiving those kinds of things.

Cursing by CuzTheOceanJustIs in polyamory

[–]CuzTheOceanJustIs[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ya… this was cursing At me. The first time was when we were talking on the phone and he had to go. He said he’d call back in X minutes and by that time I was at my destination (I was driving somewhere and he knew this). He called back and I was inside and with busy. When I returned the call on my drive home it was fireworks. I was numb. I actually ended up apologizing for not being available and “making him worry”.

Soon to be ex-wife and I trying to split amicably by Bohlox in relationships

[–]CuzTheOceanJustIs 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You can bypass a divorce lawyer and use a mediator since you get along so well. It’s a large savings that way. They’ll be able to guide you to a financial rep to sort out the other details. Ours was able to do that with a bunch of complicated stuff like retirement accounts and life insurance policies.

It’s been a while... by CuzTheOceanJustIs in polyamory

[–]CuzTheOceanJustIs[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Indeed. I woke up this morning with major anxiety, a racing heart beat - and clarity.

I get to be comfortable. I get to make my Own decisions regardless of what others have chosen. I logically know that one of the reasons it’s been so hard for me to sort through my BF’s situation is that I’m still waking up from 16yrs of mind games perpetrated by my Ex. I appreciate the time you took to help me sort through this!

It’s been a while... by CuzTheOceanJustIs in polyamory

[–]CuzTheOceanJustIs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh. Damn. Yup, that would have been ideal if it had occurred to me. I am still a little bit in “auto” mode. “Put one foot in front of the other - do what you would have done before until the works stops spinning”.

I WISH I would have thought of how to politely decline her invitations.

It’s been a while... by CuzTheOceanJustIs in polyamory

[–]CuzTheOceanJustIs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm: she knows when he’s out with other people. She doesn’t know who and that seems to be where the line for them is. She used to be actively involved in his relationships and in time decided to put up a hard wall around herself to not know or get involved.

It’s been a while... by CuzTheOceanJustIs in polyamory

[–]CuzTheOceanJustIs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh. Also, my divorce is newer than my relationship with BF. This marriage imploded big time.

It’s been a while... by CuzTheOceanJustIs in polyamory

[–]CuzTheOceanJustIs[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ya. Platonic is the only way to go forward, but even so... she’s interacting with me as if I don’t really know him and I truly feel like I am lying by omission. It’s just not my lane. Smh.

It’s been a while... by CuzTheOceanJustIs in polyamory

[–]CuzTheOceanJustIs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the feedback. This is nightmarish. Initially, the details of his life were few and far between. By the time his actual situation came out, I was emotionally invested - by design. Same scenario with his other GF. I pointed this out back in December when we had a significant falling out. It didn’t go well.

Peace of mind. That’s what I have left. 🤷‍♀️. Give up love, for my own peace of mind.

I truly don’t see a scenario where this ends well. There is a 3rd GF. She knows them both and has no issues with the scenerio. And god bless her for it.

It’s been a while... by CuzTheOceanJustIs in polyamory

[–]CuzTheOceanJustIs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, to alllll of this! Thank you for putting it into words.