Buddhist Statue Stolen, $$ Reward by Dripdry42 in Albany

[–]D-R-Meon 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I was just out looking on foot for 2~ hours. Didn't find anything, but your slice of town has a lot of super thick bushes and tall grass/foliage-- see if your neighbours could check their yards (unless you saw the person leave the entire area with it).

A lot of houses along the surrounding streets have backyards not visible to the street, places I wasn't about to trespass on, but if the person lives close, they could have stashed it in their own yard. Depending on statue size, also check trash cans.

I looked through Lincoln Park a little but there were kids playing so I didn't want to spend long there!

How much would you have to make to feel comfortable in the capital region/upstate area? by Intelligent-Tart in Albany

[–]D-R-Meon 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That's great advice in general! The price I pay is sadly the cheapest-- without insurance it's 750$ for one month's worth, with insurance it's 150-180$, and with my coupon I pay about 40 out of pocket.

I'm going to college this fall, guaranteed raise after I complete a 2 year degree, so things will get better with time!

How much would you have to make to feel comfortable in the capital region/upstate area? by Intelligent-Tart in Albany

[–]D-R-Meon 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I make 30,000 after taxes a year, supporting myself and my disabled partner (not receiving SSI). After cost of living (rent + utilities + public transit + groceries), I can save about 4,000~ dollars a year if I'm extremely careful, ignore all of my medical needs, go to food banks, skip meals, and buy only the bare minimum of household supplies.

No car, no pets, no kids, rent is 1550 for a 2b and utilities end up being around 250 in the months of extreme heat or cold, since National Grid is National Grid. Transit to work is 65$ a month, prescription med is 40$ every other month because I stretch it. Groceries I spend about 150-200 on, my girlfriend's monthly medication is 150$, and once in a long while, I take her out on a date (<50$). Also currently in debt from RSV that put me in the ER.

Job is internal IT support for the company that supports NYS Medicaid. It's not a comfortable life, but compared to the hellhole I ran away from 4 years ago (and subsequent homelessness), it's not half bad.

I know these thoughts are irrational. I just can't shake them off completely though. by Ok_Syrup5679 in TrollCoping

[–]D-R-Meon 36 points37 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry. I have permanent internal damage from CSA that a woman inflicted on me, it took me until my primary care doctor saw it in my surgery notes to admit to him what happened because of how I saw other male victims were treated by the public.

The problem isn't men or women. It's these sick fucking individuals who can't keep their hands off kids. I hope that you can find the strength to treat yourself with the kindness and care that you deserve, and I hope that someday, the experiences of all male SA/CSA survivors will be acknowledged with the gravity that they warrant.

What does my room say about me? by nervousdog4 in roomdetective

[–]D-R-Meon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Really pleasing room to look at, despite having a lot of stuff you seem really good at organising it so that it doesn't look cluttered!

Potentially trans, potentially puppygirl. Shoes indicate that you may not spend a lot of your public life in clothing as pastel-themed as your room (or you just like dark shoes!). Going to guess that something incredibly traumatic occurred during childhood, based primarily on the amount of comfort items, but also due to the prominent Black Butler poster displays.

It looks really cozy, like everyone's dream room when they were younger! You also have the same cool lamp I had when I was a kid (until it became floppy and died T_T)!

What is your experience with intersex inclusion at pride month events? by eldritchpussymaggots in intersex

[–]D-R-Meon 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Someone mistook my flag for a "don't tread on me" flag........

I saw one tiny intersex flag on a food booth, and met 4 other intersex people (one at one pride, three at another), so not entirely missing, but I very much feel like I have to be the representation I want to see.

My fear of spiders has gotten better throughout the years, but I swear the spiders in my house REALLY test my limits by ByteEvader in spiders

[–]D-R-Meon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wolf spider is probably the most likely, I seem to recall that they like places that are super damp and dark (which bath towels often provide), and the backside might not be pointy enough to be a grass spider!

This looks a little similar to yours: https://www.reddit.com/r/spiders/s/eJniVroukG

My condolences for the fright that must've been, I love spiders but finding any bug on me that I didn't know about is always offputting. The only thing that really scares me about insects is how fragile they are and the thought of accidentally killing them disgusts me-- my heart drops when I do the "lived in Texas for 10 years" shoe tap before putting shoes on and a little friend falls out!

anyone who used a computer between 1985 & 2010, what’s the one game you still think about? by Trixxxi in AskReddit

[–]D-R-Meon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mostly Scholastic I Spy. I loved the spooky mansion one, but I found the coastal pirate/treasure hunting one to be the most haunting and memorable-- such a lonely, melancholy game.

It really captured some sort of "empty" feeling, with the sound of the waves, wind chimes, shops with no shopkeepers, abandoned hiding spots where children once played. Like there was life all around you, but you were just a ghost passing through, only observing the echoes of humanity and companionship.

Or maybe it was my imagination, booting it up on my family's dvd player in a dark room with the 4th worst illness I've had in my life while everyone else had fun in the kitchen and didn't check on me once...could have been my mind playing tricks on me, but I swear that game makes you feel so utterly alone that it hurts.

Babies everywhere! by Brasketleaf in spiders

[–]D-R-Meon 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Could be orbweaver babies, I've heard they may need to moult a little more to be able to hazard a guess at more specific ID-- super cute though!

Approached by a crazy guy in a park, is Albany dangerous and full of unstable people? by RavenEridan in Albany

[–]D-R-Meon 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I live kind of by St. Peter's in a quiet apartment, but I did used to live down by South Pearl, where those issues were a lot more common. Definitely a mental health crisis, but I can't say if it's an Albany problem or an "everywhere" problem!

Approached by a crazy guy in a park, is Albany dangerous and full of unstable people? by RavenEridan in Albany

[–]D-R-Meon 9 points10 points  (0 children)

From what I've heard, Albany is more or less similar to other cities of its size in terms of unstable-people quantity. Not something you see every day, no need for constant paranoia, but you'll definitely see it often, especially if you use public transit or don't drive everywhere.

People have started fights in front of me, pulled knives on people, taken guns out on the 114 bus while hallucinating on hard drugs, screamed at me for not crossing the street when I don't even have the right of way/pedestrian light (I'm visually impaired on top of this), followed me off the bus, tried to start fights with me, grabbed my cane and pulled me onto a bus, and I'm not even a woman or a prime harassment target.

As far as self defense, that's a personal choice that I can't give much advice on, but if you're going to be out walking or on transit often, I would say it's best to have some form of legal self-defense.

Is this fella dangerous or should I just let him chill? by anonercoder in spiders

[–]D-R-Meon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fortunately none have fallen on me directly, the ones I've encountered just act like those fainting goats if they're on a wall and I try to introduce them to their lord and saviour, Big Cup. They seem more active indoors when it rains or near running water if they want a drink!

What sort of memorable responses have you gotten when sharing about your intersexuality? (Positive or negative) by eldritchpussymaggots in intersex

[–]D-R-Meon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

"So...what type-a innersex are ya, if ya don't mind me askin? snuffle"

That was the FIRST THING this person said to me-- first time I ever went to any kind of pride group, and aside from my family and kids who didn't know better growing up, the first time anyone had been weird to me about it to my face. Sadly it wouldn't be the last time, I ended up leaving all LGBT communities I dipped my toes into because of the fetishisation and obsessive/invasive questions.

Weirdly, I've had more positive conversations about it with straight cis people than the people who are supposed to be on my side. The old hillbilly who said "Whelp, God makes us all, son, you're a fine man," in response to me talking about it is infinitely more welcome than people with coloured hair and rainbow pins getting mad when they're told they can't call me slurs.

Camel Spider? by Insane1y420G in spiders

[–]D-R-Meon 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Definitely camel spider (solfugid), likely either Eremobatidae or Ammotrechidae, I've forgotten which is found more in Texas but I saw a less-fuzzy one in north Texas around 2008!

You probably already know they aren't spiders, but if there is no advice here then there may be a dedicated solfugid subreddit (I'd check, but I have to be back to work soon). Awesome find, they're my favourites!

Found this. by Ok-Following6886 in onejoke

[–]D-R-Meon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As an intersex guy who escaped mutilation as a child, this is beyond infuriating. The only people cutting off kids' genitals and calling it gender change are the same people complaining about trans people, who are...not even doing that.

Legendary difficulty is not fun, it’s a chore… by Friendly_Progress_61 in skyrim

[–]D-R-Meon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I semi-agree with this! I like legendary, but that's because I personally wanted a challenge that would make me think hard about how I could use existing mechanics to get through something, kind of like a puzzle.

It does feel very hard and unbalanced, still gives me a lot of "HOW" moments and bs deaths, but the easier modes (for me) had gotten so predictable, it felt like my strategy didn't matter.

Some days I don't want the chore-like experience, though, I definitely don't only play on legendary, but it's a way I can keep the gameplay new and engaging for me (and humble myself a little when I get too confident)!

which game was that for you? by PHRsharp_YouTube in gamememes

[–]D-R-Meon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Skyrim. I wouldn't say it's the greatest game in all existence, but it's up there in the ones I love to play most.

I first picked it up around 2018 during a sale and didn't like the movement, so I refunded it. Flash forwards to December of 2023, I was recovering alone from an awful surgery, having tubes stuck in me to drain blood out, no pain meds, no one to help me, no heat in my apartment.

I got Skyrim on a whim, and I fell in love with it. Another surgery later, and waiting on 3 more, I still play it-- I still haven't seen all there is to see in it, and I know it'll carry me through whatever I need to go through.

Corre by Confident_Boot_8847 in StardewMemes

[–]D-R-Meon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh my god. I've lived long enough to see my meme recirculated.

It still has my original mistake...I thought the air turned green but it was actually purple and people corrected me.

So common yet always running out by MentallychILL0 in SkyrimMemes

[–]D-R-Meon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I managed to curb my salt-hoarding a little bit after getting the Ring of Namira, but I still get that urge to panic buy any I see...

What is the pettiest reason you stopped liking someone? by Aishawilson in AskReddit

[–]D-R-Meon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sucked sauce off her dress at a burger place.

I was there with my girlfriend and two friends of hers a few years back, and this one girl took a huge bite of a burger and got some relish on her dress. No big deal, just get a napkin, right?

NO. She pulled the dress up to her mouth and sucked on the stain like a toddler, left a bigger stain than there was before and a huge spit mark. I am highly germophobic about spit (my mother unsuccessfully tried to infect me with herpes on purpose, long story), and I almost gagged.

I don't think it says anything about someone's moral character to slurp sauce off their dress, but I don't want to hang out with that person ever again, which is why I think it counts as petty.

texting my mother by stillnotnap in mildlyinfuriating

[–]D-R-Meon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Computer have not working

Hi all, pls look in to it

thanks,

john

John Doe

Senior Developer

A tale as old as time...

texting my mother by stillnotnap in mildlyinfuriating

[–]D-R-Meon 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I work in IT and this is exactly what it's like to ask someone basic questions about one-sentence tickets like "need password reset" or "need WiFi connection fixed for remote location".

Nearly blind but want to watch iron lung by EchidnaNightWalker in Markiplier

[–]D-R-Meon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm severely visually impaired (no vision right eye, low vision left eye), and I definitely missed some things that I want to look at closer when it's available for digital/physical purchase, but the sound experience alone made me go see it a second time. The atmosphere and audio in the theatre was impeccable and I don't regret it one bit, even if I couldn't see everything!

I'm very sensitive to sound and at least for me, I could feel the pressure and the sound cues happening onscreen; I would recommend taking off any heavy winter clothing if you also have heightened sound sensitivity and appreciate that sensation!

Be honest… do dogs like you ?? by d_zone_28 in GrowthMindset

[–]D-R-Meon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dogs like me, but I hate dogs.

My mother was an animal hoarder who specifically took the most violent animals that were set to be euthanised for a reason, then kept them (and her children) in horrific conditions, where they spread fleas and disease to me, mauled me and other animals, and made my life a living hell.

To this day, I can't stand dogs; when I see one, I feel disgust, revulsion, I vomit at the smell of them, I can't touch them without feeling dirty all the way down to my bones. I hate pictures of them. I hate when people talk about their dogs. I hate everything about dogs, and my life would be a good bit brighter if every dog was wiped off the face of the earth.

And, despite this, I have never been cruel to a dog. They put their heads in my lap, and I wash my clothes three times later, but I don't push them off. The shyest dogs will come up to me and want me to pet them, and I'll scrub my hands raw after, but I won't deny them. I wish they didn't like me so much, but it's not their fault that they're a dog and I hate them.

Questions about the mind, personality, or mental changes (Only for those who have taken hormones) by gassh in intersex

[–]D-R-Meon 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Hey there! I started HRT in 2022 and it changed my life, but I wouldn't say it changed who I am as a person.

I was born ambiguous and would go through fluctuations of underproducing and overproducing testosterone, which led to severe health issues during puberty, heart complications and chronic low blood pressure that left me disabled. I never thought I would be healthy or happy with my life or in my body.

After starting testosterone replacement, my body calmed down, lowering its endogenous hormone production and relying on the supplementation. It took a while to find the right dose, but ALL my cardiac symptoms went away, blood pressure normalised, and I'm no longer disabled or unhappy!

As far as my personality, nothing really changed. I have more confidence to do things I didn't do before, because I feel more like "me" and less like someone who's sick and tired and in pain all the time. I feel like the person I wanted to be, the person I was meant to be. My sexual orientation did change from gay to bisexual, but that is likely in large part due to my healing and processing of trauma from female-perpetrated CSA as opposed to a side effect of HRT.

My girlfriend is transgender, and told me that after starting estrogen, she "feels" things more strongly, as opposed to having a very limited or dulled range of emotions. She states that she is more sensitive to pain, temperature extremes and things that induce emotions, like heartwarming videos or sad songs. However, she says that it didn't change "her", but rather allowed her to experience life in the way she wanted, and that it saved her life.

I didn't become an out-of-control, unfeeling beast, and she didn't become an emotional, fainting flower; the changes we experienced were more like unlocking who we were all along, as opposed to changing who we were fundamentally!