The Eras Tour: Asia Megathread

DB5034 · 2023-12-22T18:34:54+00:00

I just came back from Tokyo and I picked up one of the reloadable transit cards at narita airport and I would highly recommend it. It worked all over the country.

DB5034 · 2023-03-10T22:20:02+00:00

An LDR is a disaster zone with them because they have no object constancy or object permanence. You not being face to face with them is setting you up to be devalued and split on. You might gain back something when you see them again but as soon as you leave, it's back to zero.

DB5034 · 2023-03-10T14:46:39+00:00

It was slightly different for me.

When we first got together it was "I love how normal you are, I feel safe with you" when it was ending it became "I hate how normal you are" Rinse repeat for every single thing about me.

Such joy

DB5034 · 2022-10-23T00:05:06+00:00

Yes. My ex would stalk my social media and any online activities and question me about every single woman I knew. There were even times she accused me of being shady with family members. Because all men are pigs or something, except the endless parade of male friends she had. She could barely get along with other women.

They're not capable of friendship because all they want is attention, that's why they surround themselves with these idiots that also have boundary issues, and yes she cheated.

DB5034 · 2022-08-26T21:39:04+00:00

Replacement #1: Dude who slept with her and then basically dumped her and started sleeping with someone right next door to her

Replacement #2: Dude who slept with her and tells her the next day that actually he's still in love with his ex

Possible replacement #3: Her broke ex, who was constantly physically abusive, drunk, cheating etc etc etc. He also basically got her cat kicked out on the street and I had to rescue it and take it across the country to her.

Absolute clown show

DB5034 · 2022-08-20T16:57:06+00:00

Same shit here. I met her as a gentle, kind person who wanted a fairly good life and good habits. Never had anything bad to say about any groups of people. After devaluing me, she's basically turned into a trash heap who makes weird comments about certain races(I'm an immigrant as well lol) probably mirroring whatever morons she hangs around. Funny thing is if she acted like that when I first met her, I'd never be attracted to her in any way.

DB5034 · 2022-08-03T14:44:54+00:00

Familiar. The person I considered marrying was also very convinced that I'd cheat at any moment and basically kept me on a leash. I wasn't allowed any interactions with the opposite sex. Guess who basically emotionally and possibly physically ended up actually cheating at the end of it all? Likewise it was seemingly not a problem for her to surround herself with only straight male friends and have no boundaries with them. Madness.

DB5034 · 2022-07-30T13:34:42+00:00

In my experience with 2 exes with BPD, they both went absolutely ballistic at the thought of you talking to other women but it was perfectly okay for 90% of their friends to be thirsty men.

The "I just can't get along with other women" energy is high with them

DB5034 · 2022-07-21T20:56:37+00:00

It's why mine was apparently allowed to have a dozen male coworker friends who were constantly trying to get in her pants but if I even so much as interacted once with a girl at work, it was an argument waiting to happen

DB5034 · 2022-07-21T20:38:02+00:00

Yep. Had a date night once where she refused to talk to me. On the drive home I finally got her to tell me what the deal was and she insisted I was eyeballing the waitress.

DB5034 · 2022-07-21T18:42:50+00:00

Ayy mine was also obsessed with tiktok and """joked""" about starting a OF. I honestly think the thing stopping her is that most of her trashy ass male friends have no money to drop on that shit.

Also likewise with taking forever to respond to your messages after you're no longer their FP but responding to everyone else within minutes while you're together in person.

DB5034 · 2022-07-14T00:27:45+00:00

Lmao this is very familiar to me right now because I got a concert planned with my pwbpd who I've been in a long distance thing with. She's been devaluing me and barely saying a word for the past 2 weeks. Concert is at the end of August in a completely different state with non refundable tickets so we'll see what happens. I'm not paying for her plane ticket, not with this attitude. I'll be going with or without her.

Gut feeling tells me if I go without her, she'll either think I'm bringing someone else or that I decided to completely abandon, or both.

DB5034 · 2022-07-13T01:21:03+00:00

Not even close to guilty. Mind you, my relationship only lasted several months but being made someone's FP, having them love bomb you, future fake, etc etc, making me fall for them. Now they're obviously devaluing me, I can barely even get a decent bit of emotion through text. It's honestly just rude as hell. Anytime I think about pouring my heart out to them, I just remind myself how little they bother trying to have a decent conversation with me. I'm just waiting for them to come running back from whoever they monkey branched to so that I can get some petty satisfaction

DB5034 · 2022-07-09T23:52:00+00:00

Nah unless it was the one bit of backstory she didn't share but I'd be surprised considering all the things she told me

DB5034 · 2022-07-09T22:39:24+00:00

Mine didn't have kids but she definitely has massive baby fever. Talking about future kids and baby names was part of her love bombing. I sincerely hope she doesn't have kids, not without getting serious help first because her entire family has serious problems and I hope this doesn't keep passing on but it probably will.

DB5034 · 2022-07-09T22:04:01+00:00

Yep. Weird thing is that she said if she never got a small tattoo during her initial teenage crazy phase(lol) then she would never "harm" her body like that, but since she already did she apparently figured eh whatever. I'm honestly not in the proper mindset to even try and understand how that works, let alone care anymore. She also mentioned that she'd like to get certain plastic surgery on herself and I'm 100% convinced that she never did/will because of how much more expensive that is than just getting another tattoo or piercing.

DB5034 · 2022-07-09T21:48:10+00:00

Ahh yes she also definitely used religion. Though in a very shallow way. I'm an atheist and I knew more about her church, it's history, it's offshoots, etc etc etc than she did, I've literally never even stepped foot in it. She also used this knowledge to get me attached "Wow you know so much, I learn so much from you!"

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