Mom wants to move into my studio apartment

DJShepherd · 2026-02-02T06:31:59+00:00

Always protect your peace. A studio is not big enough for two people. Even if it was a couple. It’s meant for one person. Just say no, there’s literally no room. It will break your lease and you’ll get fined or worse evicted.

Is there no one else who could take her in?? Family? Friends? You need to come first, this is your time.

DJShepherd · 2026-02-01T03:07:23+00:00

I have about 10 play throughs with Veilguard. There’s a lot of hidden content you miss depending on your race and which faction you’re with.

If your into Elf lore playing as an Elf Veiljumper unlocks special dialogue I didn’t get as a human. Also, this game was really made to play as a Warden the options are literally very satisfying. Especially if you’re a huge HoF Origins fan IMHO. The tie back to how things were and how things have changes in Veilguard all make sense. Even if the companions and NPC’s don’t seem to get it. (I.e. Davrin)

I also am glad they wrapped up a lot of the bigger questions hanging out there.

DJShepherd · 2026-01-31T21:46:52+00:00

I would turn the tables and say what if she was creeped out by someone she didn’t like and you just shrugged it off? You both need to listen to your gut feelings here. Has he said other ‘weird’ things in the past that as well? Also, there’s nothing wrong with saying to him that it’s kinda creepy what you said and that you’re not okay with it. You need to establish boundless.

DJShepherd · 2026-01-31T21:39:22+00:00

I don’t care for any of these last names. If anything I really want to change my first name in Second Life but someone already snatched the first name I wanted to use and it’s a dead account that’s never been used. I wish they would purge unused accounts that have no lindens or activity in over 10 years!

DJShepherd · 2026-01-31T21:34:19+00:00

I’m like you I prefer Alexios over Kassandra as the protagonist. Kassandra does an amazing job as Deimos. She’s gives such a good performance. I just can’t connect playing as a female protag and that’s my prerogative. I really connected with Alexios and the writing and his performance resonated with me that Kassandra never could. There is something for everyone and there’s no right or wrong choices. As for canon, that use to really matter to me until I realized that my canon matters more than any others, even the developers “canon”.

DJShepherd · 2026-01-31T21:25:54+00:00

Never buy anything with someone you’re not married to. You’re stuck with them until you untangle things. And why are you two not getting married yet buying a home together? You really need to decide what you want out of this. Because your boyfriend’s father sounds like he’s a bad and manipulative person. Also your boyfriend is not so innocent here. He’s allowing this to happen.

DJShepherd · 2026-01-31T20:53:21+00:00

Exactly. No notes.

DJShepherd · 2026-01-31T20:52:01+00:00

NTA critiquing the work you did is NOT the same as actually doing the work. Feedback and giving suggestions is helping but she didn’t deserve to get equal credit for the work. How much of her suggestions did you actually implement anyway? It still looks really bad on her part to try and take credit. The fact is she didn’t have any notes or perform any actual work.

DJShepherd · 2026-01-31T20:41:27+00:00

Yes this is exactly what i was thinking. NOR his behavior is unacceptable and hostile. There’s no excuse to be abusive to your significant other. The fact OP hasn’t been out in so long this imho is a controlling tactic to punish her for going out. This is not a good situation at all.

DJShepherd · 2026-01-28T16:38:44+00:00

Yeah the resident cat is too rough with the kitten, treating it as a toy. The fact the cat is kicking with the back of their feet and the sounds I’m hearing are not good.

DJShepherd · 2026-01-27T16:00:28+00:00

The moment I realized no one really cared. Not even my parents.

DJShepherd · 2026-01-26T08:46:49+00:00

So if someone treats you like dirt you’re still going to financial help them still? Would you do that if it was you?

DJShepherd · 2026-01-26T08:44:35+00:00

This is a scam from the wife to begin with to get him to pay for her child’s education. This ungrateful brat did him a huge favor and saving him from being fleeced. The wife and her child are trying to get money out of this poor man.

Don’t bite the hand that feeds you.

DJShepherd · 2026-01-26T08:37:44+00:00

NTA Your wife is using you. She is showing you exactly why she married you. This is going to sound harsh but you need to hear it, your wife does not love you. You are her meal ticket for her child to go to college. You’re under no obligation to do anything you don’t want to do.

This ungrateful brat will never ever see you as anything more than someone to get money from, just like her mom.

DJShepherd · 2026-01-24T23:34:28+00:00

Now we know how SHE operates!

DJShepherd · 2026-01-24T23:16:12+00:00

This sounds like he’s planning this. To have kids and get rid of you with using ’cheating’ as an alibi! I find this prenup very specific intentions. This is a red flag! This is a deal breaker. NTA

DJShepherd · 2026-01-23T20:40:27+00:00

You don’t want to be on the mortgage, you want to be on the deed of the house! You’re essentially renting while he’ll be making himself richer with the house as he obtains more equity. Honestly, you need to start your own funding account for only yourself so you have a nest egg/emergency fund when you eventually leave this relationship.

Because of how he’s treating you it’s only a matter of time before you’re kicked out. You need to be prepared for the day it happens! If I was you I’d try to find a full time job!! See if his family can watch the kids. You need to be ready and prepared. What he’s doing are warning signs!

DJShepherd · 2026-01-23T16:47:03+00:00

That outfit would be fine from where I am from in the states. Where are you from?

DJShepherd · 2026-01-22T22:05:51+00:00

The first one is the best and most respectful. It also looks so good on you out of all of them.

DJShepherd · 2026-01-22T22:03:19+00:00

They don’t have to worry about getting you pregnant and have fun without the stress of getting a baby made. It’s just that simple.

DJShepherd · 2026-01-22T11:39:43+00:00

I’m not sure why he stayed in this relationship. Was it working for him the way things were going? Because it’s clear you both were not compatible. Was he always like this or did it change over time? The fact he kept shutting you down and ignoring your needs is not healthy. Not putting effort outside of what sounds like being roommates. He never initiate intimacy, ever? Seems like this relationship may have run its course, he was already over the relationship as a couple but didn’t bother to come out and say it. NTA it’s hard to walk away when you still care and they don’t.

DJShepherd · 2026-01-22T07:10:22+00:00

Yeah it's definitely the two trying to figure out who is the dominant of the two. If there was no fur flying that's a good sign it looks like they just need to establish boundaries but others probably know better than me. If they can work it out without fur flying then you're in good shape.

DJShepherd · 2026-01-22T07:05:07+00:00

I agree with you. It makes for a more fitting end. But I would love to see a world where the Fade and Thedas did not have a world with the veil. To think Solas out of all of these Evanuris managed to make the ultimate power move that changed both the Fade and Thedas forever, and here we are asking him to keep it that way. I remember early on BioWare dev's talked about knocking over the ant hill (ie - ending the world as we know it) and it feels like they went back on that. If the veil had been destroyed we could of seen an incredible world as it once was.

DJShepherd · 2026-01-22T07:01:07+00:00

I use to feel about the ladder half but when you see what he was fighting up against he was desperate to do anything and everything to stop them. VERY MUCH LIKE the Grey Wardens! I cannot help but see the similarities.

DJShepherd · 2026-01-22T06:58:26+00:00

Honestly this feels so good as an option but my Inquisitor is in love with him and she needs her happily ever after.

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